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re: Being told constantly "it's time to have kids.."
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:12 pm to lsunurse
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:12 pm to lsunurse
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So those that can't have children are just doomed to a miserable existence? Seriously people who say shite like this need to kindly SHUT THE frick UP and just worry about their own lives.
I know quite a few people that were unable to have children and they adopted. Their lives are far from miserable.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:12 pm to CoeJ
My reply was always “the world has enough nosey brats in this world.” That usually shut them up.
This post was edited on 12/26/17 at 7:13 pm
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:12 pm to CoeJ
Worse is being told it's time to have another one. Like frick you, I just paid off the first one.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:14 pm to elprez00
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Feel your pain brother. My wife and I have had fertility issues for a long time. It was a minor miracle when we got pregnant for my daughter. Prior to that every damn time we went to her family functions it was non stop “so when are you two going to finally have kids?” It would get my wife so upset because very few people knew about our issues. It took everything for me to not call people out about it.
It is why I've been very transparent about my fertility issues. I no longer hear the "so when are you two finally gonna have a kid" from my family and friends. I hated how taboo some make the topic to be. It made me feel like it was something I had to be ashamed of and just made me more upset and depressed about it. For me...being open about it has honestly helped me better deal with it.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:19 pm to lsunurse
quote:I know a couple right now that just announced --days before Christmas--in my family they are divorcing. They tried for years to get pregnant, went through a lot, had a miscarriage, then got pregnant. The baby is 3 and now the husband is done with the marriage; and said he never wanted kids and never wanted to get married. I would almost like to tell the story to see if I am missing something it is so bizarre.
ETA: I just don't see why someone would marry someone that doesn't share the same view on having kids. Seems like that needs to be one of the things you both are on the same page for. Just seems like you are setting yourself up for HUGE marital problems later on.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:20 pm to tgrbaitn08
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I know quite a few people that were unable to have children and they adopted. Their lives are far from miserable.
Again...you are making it sound like the only way to not be miserable later in life is that you have to be a parent. Whether that is having a child naturally or by adopting one.
Here's a thought.....you can be happy and have a fulfilling life(even when you are older) without children.
Adoption isn't for everyone. Just because you cannot have children naturally doesn't mean you automatically want to adopt.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:28 pm to lsunurse
Adoption definitely isn't for everyone. If we weren't able to have a baby I honestly don't think we would have went the adoption route.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:28 pm to lsunurse
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Again
Again?? That was my first post in this thread
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:29 pm to lsunurse
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you are making it sound like the only way to not be miserable later in life is that you have to be a parent. Whether that is having a child naturally or by adopting one.
When have I ever fricking said that?
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:31 pm to HoustonChick86
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Adoption definitely isn't for everyone. If we weren't able to have a baby I honestly don't think we would have went the adoption route.
I appreciate your honesty. And I know people mean well but I really hate when they say "well you can always adopt". Like it is that easy.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:35 pm to CoeJ
Ugh. This fricking thread again. If you don’t want kids, don’t have kids. Just tell the people “We don’t really want kids. Let’s change the subject...”
Why do people who don’t want kids bitch about it so fricking much?
You know what’s more annoying than people asking when you’re having kids? People bitching about being asked when they’re gonna have kids.
BTW, I have three already so I won’t die alone and forgotten on Christmas like some kind of doorstop in the Old Folks Home like you probably are.
Anyways. Shut the frick up. Nobody cares.
Why do people who don’t want kids bitch about it so fricking much?
You know what’s more annoying than people asking when you’re having kids? People bitching about being asked when they’re gonna have kids.
BTW, I have three already so I won’t die alone and forgotten on Christmas like some kind of doorstop in the Old Folks Home like you probably are.
Anyways. Shut the frick up. Nobody cares.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:37 pm to Giantkiller
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BTW, I have three already so I won’t die alone and forgotten on Christmas like some kind of doorstop in the Old Folks Home like you probably are.
So you think. This isn't guaranteed just because you have 3 kids. Your kids could die before you get old. Or they could move away and dump you in a nursing home and visit once a year.
ETA: If you don't like the topic...you could always just ignore the thread and not reply you know.
This post was edited on 12/26/17 at 7:38 pm
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:46 pm to CoeJ
Just respond with, "We found out several months ago that we can't have kids. So, thanks for reopening that wound."
That should shut them up.
That should shut them up.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:48 pm to lsunurse
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So you think. This isn't guaranteed just because you have 3 kids. Your kids could die before you get old. Or they could move away and dump you in a nursing home and visit once a year.
It’s very possible. Who knows.
Still it’s pretty unlikely. I’m a good dad. My kids love me and shite is going pretty great. I might get hit by a meteor tomorrow too but my odds of having some little ones bouncing on my knee get better with every little nugget we pump out.
Folks that don’t wanna have them - it’s fine. I have zero problem with it. My brother and sister in law decided long ago it wasn’t for them. It bothers me none. But as the vapid hole in their lives grow, there isn’t gonna be a whole lot I can do for them. That’s their problem. Not mine.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:52 pm to Giantkiller
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But as the vapid hole in their lives grow
Why does that have to be the case for them just because they don't have kids? You don't have to be a parent to have a fulfilling life.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:55 pm to lsunurse
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It is why I've been very transparent about my fertility issues. I no longer hear the "so when are you two finally gonna have a kid" from my family and friends. I hated how taboo some make the topic to be. It made me feel like it was something I had to be ashamed of and just made me more upset and depressed about it. For me...being open about it has honestly helped me better deal with it.
It’s something we’ve dwelled over a lot nurse. Our close friends knew the issues we had before my daughter. But my wife’s parents are... well... difficult. She didn’t want a bunch of medical opinions by google doctors constantly calling her to give her advice. I didn’t blame her. We were so lucky to have a healthy baby, and the problems have only gotten worse. She’s had a lot of problems this year, but we told people when we had the magnitude of problems specifically because neither of us could’ve handled having that confrontation.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 7:57 pm to lsunurse
I think it depends on the couple. If a couple really wants kids and can’t have them then their lives may feel empty.
If a couple is able but chooses not to have kids then they may just not feel anything at all.
If a couple is able but chooses not to have kids then they may just not feel anything at all.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 8:00 pm to lsunurse
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lsunurse
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Why does that have to be the case for them just because they don't have kids? You don't have to be a parent to have a fulfilling life.
Choosing not to have kids and not being able to have kids is completely different. You're being very defensive about a completely different topic. And for the record, I don't care either way, but I don't really see why I would ever want to get married if I knew both parties didn't want kids going into it. Brings in a lot of unnecessary complications.
Posted on 12/26/17 at 8:03 pm to elprez00
I can totally understand and respect that. I've just always been an open book, it's just how I am. So it went against my personality to keep it all a secret. I just wish it was more acceptable in society for a person to be more open about it if they wish.
I'm glad in the end it worked out and you got your miracle, that is all that matters
I'm glad in the end it worked out and you got your miracle, that is all that matters
Posted on 12/26/17 at 8:22 pm to CoeJ
If you don't have kids you get people constantly telling you to have kids. If you have 1 or 2 you may have people asking you if you are ever going to have more? If you have 6, like I do, and you go to a store you hear "Boy you have your hands full" or "Wow are you stocking up with your cart so full?"
Point is, no matter what your situation is some idiot, family or random dumb arse, is going to tell you something stupid and it is usually the same thing you have heard 1000 times over and over....people are dumb and annoying.
Point is, no matter what your situation is some idiot, family or random dumb arse, is going to tell you something stupid and it is usually the same thing you have heard 1000 times over and over....people are dumb and annoying.
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