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re: Anyone here had their marriage saved by counseling?
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:33 pm to Meauxjeaux
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:33 pm to Meauxjeaux
How’s your son now?
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Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:34 pm to toosleaux
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This post was edited on 12/13/18 at 5:31 pm
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:39 pm to Lando789
As long as both people go in willing to admit they are part of the problem and actively work to fix it, then I think counseling will always be a net positive. It's done great things in our marriage. But it's because both of us want it to work and are willing to put in the work.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:45 pm to geauxbrown
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Her best friend was diagnosed with a cancer so
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Long story short, she winds up having an affair with the husband.
Her husband finds out and they begin going to counseling.
For me, a shovel, a sack of lime and roughly four hours of hard digging is the only possible outcome here.
Anything else requires rationalizing and accepting behavior from someone that I would never rationalize or accept from anybody under any circumstances.
I'll take the charges and hope I can beat them.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:48 pm to MiloDanglers
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It took some other non-traditional things to turn it around.
Is this code for anal and or a side piece?
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:51 pm to toosleaux
It's great at a proactive measure. It's a waste as a reactive one.
Two wives, first one it was a hail mary and it wasted time. This one we've been going consistently just to help with the little things and it makes a world of difference.
Two wives, first one it was a hail mary and it wasted time. This one we've been going consistently just to help with the little things and it makes a world of difference.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:56 pm to MiloDanglers
What were these non-traditional things?
Posted on 12/3/18 at 10:59 pm to CorkSoaker
Well, he's struggling with some things and could be better. He could also be a lot worse.
The last 3-4 months we realized we misunderstood some things about his care starting about 4 years ago that could have made a big difference in his current status. As a parent, that's a pretty heavy burden.
That being said, we're on the right path now and expect to get him back on the kidney transplant list early next year. That's a game changer for him.
Thanks for asking.
The last 3-4 months we realized we misunderstood some things about his care starting about 4 years ago that could have made a big difference in his current status. As a parent, that's a pretty heavy burden.
That being said, we're on the right path now and expect to get him back on the kidney transplant list early next year. That's a game changer for him.
Thanks for asking.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 11:14 pm to geauxbrown
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Long story short, she winds up having an affair with the husban
Don’t care what the circumstances are, how many kids we’ve had, how long we’ve been married, if she were to ever cheat, im out. No exceptions
I’ll go to that life where I have a maid and eat take out every day
Posted on 12/3/18 at 11:15 pm to toosleaux
No
Posted on 12/3/18 at 11:20 pm to toosleaux
Worked with a woman who said they have attended marriage counseling every month since they got married.
Was really interesting to hear an example where a couple was proactive with the counseling rather than reactive.
Was really interesting to hear an example where a couple was proactive with the counseling rather than reactive.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 11:23 pm to Meauxjeaux
Dude you just brought tears to my eyes.
Thanks for the wisdom.
Thanks for the wisdom.
Posted on 12/3/18 at 11:31 pm to toosleaux
Talk about a goddamn racket!
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:00 am to Lsupimp
Pimp, I’m just gonna say that I know what God puts together, the enemy wants desperately to pull apart.
That’s for everyone that gets married.
And if you’re easy pickings, no threat, of this world and self sabotaging, that fricker doesn’t give you much attention.
Saban doesn’t game plan around Micah Baskerville. But he sure does for Devin White.
(Note: that’s no dig at Micah. He’s just not in the game yet)
That’s for everyone that gets married.
And if you’re easy pickings, no threat, of this world and self sabotaging, that fricker doesn’t give you much attention.
Saban doesn’t game plan around Micah Baskerville. But he sure does for Devin White.
(Note: that’s no dig at Micah. He’s just not in the game yet)
Posted on 12/4/18 at 12:46 am to toosleaux
Counseling can help people save relationships, but people have to listen and work at it.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 1:49 am to toosleaux
My husband and I went through a very rough patch about five years ago and were living apart. We both grew up the typical Catholic way, went through the motions and had mostly become agnostic through the process.
A friend that we had high respect for - who did not know of our living situation at the time - suggested we attend a course called Alpha at a non denominational church in New Orleans. It was a more logical/theological reintroduction to Christianity, an hour a week for ten weeks with free dinner. We figured we would give it a try for just one night and ended up doing the whole course. It completely changed our lives. It doesn’t have anything to do with marriage, but rather your personal relationship with God. As a bi-product of that, the course has saved hundreds of marriages amongst other things.
I believe each person has to be happy and at peace with themselves first for a relationship to work. Once we were on the same page, everything else just fell into place and we have been solid in both our personal and family lives for many years now. If you need more information, let me know. Best of luck to y’all.
A friend that we had high respect for - who did not know of our living situation at the time - suggested we attend a course called Alpha at a non denominational church in New Orleans. It was a more logical/theological reintroduction to Christianity, an hour a week for ten weeks with free dinner. We figured we would give it a try for just one night and ended up doing the whole course. It completely changed our lives. It doesn’t have anything to do with marriage, but rather your personal relationship with God. As a bi-product of that, the course has saved hundreds of marriages amongst other things.
I believe each person has to be happy and at peace with themselves first for a relationship to work. Once we were on the same page, everything else just fell into place and we have been solid in both our personal and family lives for many years now. If you need more information, let me know. Best of luck to y’all.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 2:29 am to jsquardjj
Gave it a shot once, a-hole"therapist" framed everything like it was my fault (ex hired the guy, go figure). Marriage ended (thank god) the current and I have been happily together for 10 years...with NO gdam marriage counselors. In hindsight the only thing that was actually my fault was that I didn't give the ex-bitch everything she wanted on a silver platter. Stupid coont and fuggg that ahole "therapist". Dikweed flat out tried to brainwash me.
This post was edited on 12/4/18 at 2:38 am
Posted on 12/4/18 at 2:48 am to Meauxjeaux
What happened in the 20 minutes that your uncle was there that saved your marriage?
Posted on 12/4/18 at 3:12 am to toosleaux
My parents. They were almost about to file. Took a chance because they loved what they used to be. Had a spiritual advisor, council them. It was a deacon at church.
Posted on 12/4/18 at 3:12 am to toosleaux
I think you can count me in the skeptical category. My experience was it made for a neverending series of meetings to air petty grievances instead of looking for solutions and telling adults to act like adults instead of bickering middle school children.
Finding some sort of inner peace and an ability to enjoy life (instead of being constantly overwhelmed by bad things) is probably the essential skill set - and so far as I know no counselors really focus on that as the underlying impetus for conflict in many marriages
Finding some sort of inner peace and an ability to enjoy life (instead of being constantly overwhelmed by bad things) is probably the essential skill set - and so far as I know no counselors really focus on that as the underlying impetus for conflict in many marriages
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