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re: Therapy: Make things better or worse?
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:48 pm to tigergirl10
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:48 pm to tigergirl10
fresh cookies are the best therapy
blow job a close second
blow job a close second
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:50 pm to BayouBandit24
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Found the therapist
I am not a therapist, but I wholeheartedly believe in therapy. Mental health and well-being is just as important as one's physical well-being.
I used to believe that other people in my lives were the problem. I was wrong. Furthermore, I was the problem, but I was also the solution. There are no quick fix solutions in therapy. It takes time, repetition, and consistency to build new productive habits.
I found a great therapist, and he called me out on my bullshite. I consider him a friend, as we will talk/text outside the office now.
This post was edited on 12/6/23 at 9:53 pm
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:52 pm to ctb504
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but after several weeks of therapy it seems new issues (unrelated to the original reason for going) have been put in her mind.
It might be the case that this stuff was there all along. Therapy can help you “unpack” crap that has been tucked away for a long time.
It could very well seem like it’s getting worse but that’s not unusual. If she does the work things will get better.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:55 pm to ctb504
I have the rare ability to not give a frick about what happened in the past. The only path in life is behind you. I’m gonna keep moving forward, there ain’t no looking back.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:55 pm to ctb504
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Wife recently started seeing a female therapist
Let me guess, your wife now realizes she has experienced "trauma," is an "emotionally abusive" relationship and has PTSD.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:57 pm to ctb504
Not sure what you expected after “several weeks,” but I’d say most of the time, it gets worse before it gets better. Seeing a therapist about “things” in your life and having others come up is 100% normal. You don’t just go to therapy and talking about those few specific things and be “cured.” Took a long time to develop those things and takes a long time to work on them….
Having known quite a few people go to therapy for a bunch of different reasons, My few thoughts on Therapy:
- you will get out of it what you put into it
-it’s tough and gets worse before it getters better
-if you stick with it, you will be much better in the long run
-even after you feel “fixed,” you should still see them once a month or once every couple months to continue your training and well-being
Having known quite a few people go to therapy for a bunch of different reasons, My few thoughts on Therapy:
- you will get out of it what you put into it
-it’s tough and gets worse before it getters better
-if you stick with it, you will be much better in the long run
-even after you feel “fixed,” you should still see them once a month or once every couple months to continue your training and well-being
This post was edited on 12/6/23 at 9:59 pm
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:59 pm to IT_Dawg
I will also say that people in therapy are often in therapy to deal with the people in their lives who won’t go to therapy.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 10:19 pm to Will Cover
I’ve seen a female therapist going on 9 years now. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I am someone who fully believes in mental health and I feel therapy is a way to exercise that health.
I originally went due to Dad problems. I disowned him because he was a drunk, and it was hard for me, but now I discuss everything with her. Even when things are going well, I still try to go at least once a month.
It’s worth it, but you’re only going to get what you put into it. If you do it half arse expect half arse results. I wouldn’t do it if I wasn’t getting anything out of it. I’m not going to waste my time and hers.
I originally went due to Dad problems. I disowned him because he was a drunk, and it was hard for me, but now I discuss everything with her. Even when things are going well, I still try to go at least once a month.
It’s worth it, but you’re only going to get what you put into it. If you do it half arse expect half arse results. I wouldn’t do it if I wasn’t getting anything out of it. I’m not going to waste my time and hers.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 10:24 pm to Breesus
Thankfully my HOA banned therapists m.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 10:40 pm to bubbz
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you’re only going to get what you put into it. If you do it half arse expect half arse results.
What exactly is it that you’re talking about putting into it? What does that mean? More money?
Who/what decides what is half-assed and if the results are worth the while?
Posted on 12/7/23 at 12:58 am to ctb504
EMDR therapy was good for me. Couples therapy was a disaster since the wife focused on feelings over actions. So, I kind of split-even...
Posted on 12/7/23 at 1:30 am to TN Tygah
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One of my best friends is gay, family disowned him (Scientologists) and he was in therapy for 6 years.
quote:that's awesome, I'm glad he was able to get his gay fixed. Wouldn't wish the gay on nobody
He’s great now.
Posted on 12/7/23 at 1:36 am to Will Cover
quote:Respectfully, my wife married me, so I'm not sure the trust in her decision making skills can ever be repaired
If you trust your wife to make good decisions
Posted on 12/7/23 at 1:48 am to ctb504
I dropped her off for an appointment and the sign out front said PsychoTheRapist. I assured my wife that the guy who made the sign must've goofed and there was nothing to worry about.
Boy, was I wrong.
Boy, was I wrong.
Posted on 12/7/23 at 2:41 am to ctb504
Therapy can definitely make things better. Just make sure the therapist’s values align with you and your wife’s values. Some of these “therapists” promote do what makes you feel good even to the extent of cheating.
Posted on 12/7/23 at 5:10 am to TN Tygah
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One of my best friends is gay, family disowned him (Scientologists)
That’s weird considering Tom Cruise, Will Smith and John Travolta are all prominent members of Scientology and gay.
Posted on 12/7/23 at 5:29 am to ctb504
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Wife recently started seeing a female therapist once a week to talk about things in her life that are challenging for her.
she clearly has more things that she needs to deal with than you are aware of if she's going once a week.
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but after several weeks of therapy it seems new issues (unrelated to the original reason for going) have been put in her mind.
again, family of origin issues and ACE's have a greater impact on how one responds to the greater world around them than you may realize.
If she is genuinely trying to heal from her past wounds/trauma/etc, you should allow her time to do that. Support her emotionally and don't make it all about you.
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Very frustrating.
yes, it is.
I hope your wife heals to the best of her ability and I hope you will be a safe place for her emotionally as she does so.
Posted on 12/7/23 at 6:40 am to ctb504
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Does anyone have the experience that therapists create issues out of non-issues therefore creating problems that didn’t exist?
They certainly can.
Therapy is great but there are alot of bad therapists out there. Well, there are alot of shitty medical providers of all kinds out there but therapy is no different.
The good news is that stigma's around mental health are reducing tso therapy is sought more. The bad part is, there is a real shortage of therapists to keep up with the demand. In time I think the field wil grow as employment opportunities will be harder to pass up and more people will enter the field but right now
Posted on 12/7/23 at 6:45 am to ctb504
My experience….women seeing a therapist makes them believe they are therapist. They don’t concentrate on themselves. They take in what the therapist says and puts that on others in their life. Instead of working on themselves, they come home and want to be your therapist. Bitch, I don’t need a therapist.
Also, dated a couple of would be dimes back in my single days. Both saw a therapist on a weekly basis even tho they prob didn’t need to. It made them pick apart everything and everyone in their lives. There was a reason they were 35, single, and never really had long term relationships.
Also, dated a couple of would be dimes back in my single days. Both saw a therapist on a weekly basis even tho they prob didn’t need to. It made them pick apart everything and everyone in their lives. There was a reason they were 35, single, and never really had long term relationships.
This post was edited on 12/7/23 at 6:49 am
Posted on 12/7/23 at 6:47 am to ctb504
It’s like bringing your child to a therapist but the therapists child is train wreck that doesn’t know it’s own gender.
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