re: Therapy: Make things better or worse?

I think going as a couple would be less problematic.

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know you are joking, but sadly, many men in a relationship see their wives as subservient. There is a reason why Jody exists, and it's because "I don't liked, I don't feel loved, or I don't feel respected" rears its ugly head and if someone other than the spouse pays attention and gives that person the reason to believe they are heard, valued, respected, and appreciated, the creation of an extra-marital affair starts.

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You literally said in another post not to ask questions, be her husband.

These therapists twists y’all’s minds. It’s all so contradictory.

I was dating a girl that was miserable every time after seeing her therapists. It’s crazy how her mood would change from earlier in the day to after her session. The bitch was probably telling her shite was wrong with her that put her down.

Therapy helps if you have a Therapist that is Neutral and understands their job is to fricking listen and not put ideas into vulnerable peoples heads
I actually recommend getting a Life Coach you talk to once a Month. It will help collect your Thoughts and ground yourself especially if you're like me and very scattered

Women will hold onto things forever. The underlying issue is probably not related to you OP.

I get my therapy like a man, at the bottom of a bottle of bourbon

I’m reposting this:

The mid life crisis is just a natural manifestation of the human condition. Younger people are getting them now and it looks different. See severe anxiety, depression, gender fluidity, etc.
I offer this idea from one of the most important books I've ever read--Zoochosis.

This is from a little book review.
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This is one of those books I wish I could get everyone to read, especially my adult children. But it has “God” in the subtitle (and in the content), so it’s not likely that all of them will read it.
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In the first half of the book, Mr. Noble presents the problem: we live in a world that is inhuman, a world that is not set up for human flourishing. He uses the analogy of a lion caged in a “natural habitat” at the zoo. “Zoochosis is the common term for that thing that lions do at the zoo when they obsessively pace back and forth in their cages.” Noble argues that we experience our own form of zoochosis as we vainly attempt to adapt ourselves to the world that we have made for ourselves in our ambition to be the little gods of our own lives.
You are Not Your Own by Alan Noble

Take on more responsibility. Serve and give to others.
I'm not where you are because I have a wife and a one year old so I am always needing to serve my family in some way.
But in your situation (perhaps the kids are grown?) you might need to seek out how to serve.

The entirety of this life is seeking to be comfortable in this world. But in reality, we were never made for this world, but for another.
Realizing that is the key to happiness (see CS Lewis).

If you don't believe this concept just take a look at the far left and the far right. In many cases, politics is all those people have.
It's just one of many paths people take to cope with life.

Work is not the answer.
Sex is not the answer.
Hobbies are fantastic to a degree.
Family and friends is best, because the love that we exchange with them is indicative of what we were truly made for.

Secondly,

There’s a strain of modern therapy out there that appeals to our most base, temporary, childlike desires and states that everyone around us must not only approve but feed those desires.

Imagine if everyone acted like this?!
It’s happening in places…
This is our godless spiritual age.

It all depends on what she is telling this person.

I can tell you marriage counseling is a joke. Don't ever make yourself a victim of that farce.

A personal therapist did great for me before, during, and after my divorce, but again, I was being completely honest about my faults in that scenario.

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One of my best friends is gay

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You know from experience?!

I have been seeing a therapist for years and I can say it helps. BUT, I do not share anything from my sessions, or what my therapist discusses with me with my wife. We've had problems, and he is my therapist, and often she wouldn't like what he was telling me. So I stopped sharing it with her. After she left me alone about it, it was cool.

Yeah but OP didn’t say that he was involved in the therapy. He said his wife was going to see a “female therapist.”