Therapy: Make things better or worse?

Complicated question, depends on what she’s getting treated for (if anything), how long she’s been going through it, what kind of therapy is being practiced, and the competence of the therapist. For example, if it’s CBT for clinical depression or something, it will take months before it gets better if she’s been struggling with it for a really long time. Severe trauma, depression, anxiety, etc… treating it with exposure therapy, CBT, etc… it just depends. One of my best friends is gay, family disowned him (Scientologists) and he was in therapy for 6 years. He’s great now.

I’m not a therapist but I’ve had several different ones. I’ll speak from experience, if you’re putting in the work as a patient, you will make “realizations” or epiphanies and see things differently. Sometimes things arise and you’re like “wow, I didn’t know I had this issue” or “damn, that’s why this happened. I wonder how many times I’ve screwed up a situation like that?” And stuff.

She scissoring the therapist

I can only speak to my experience but therapy was good for me. I think it would do my wife and I some good to go but she’s just not into it.

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Very frustrating.

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That’s because the therapist was the mother!

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Therapy: Make things better or worse?

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It's getting kind of hard to believe
things are going to get better

I've been drowning too long to believe
that the tide's going to turn

And I've been living too hard to believe
that things are going to get easier now

I'm still trying to shake off the pain
from the lessons I've learned

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the therapist will soon manipulate her to have several affairs.

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I can hear the therapist now:

Here’s my advice Queen: you either gave up part of yourself to be with him or you’re not sure if you ever loved him at all. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to you both to go out and be sure. Go out and prove your love. Go out and pretend you’re not married for a night. Pamper yourself. You deserve it. Go out and meet new people and have a new experience. And the next morning you’ll wake up happy and shining because you’ll know for sure if it was meant to be or not and you’ll be happy knowing for sure either way. And he’ll thank you. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t deserve you anyway.

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ctb504

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Wife recently started seeing a female therapist once a week to talk about things in her life that are challenging for her. Not getting into specifics of those things, but after several weeks of therapy it seems new issues (unrelated to the original reason for going) have been put in her mind.

Does anyone have the experience that therapists create issues out of non-issues therefore creating problems that didn’t exist?

Very frustrating.

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Respectfully, this is not your issue to control, because that is what you are trying to do, and maybe you don't even realize it.

If you trust your wife to make good decisions, allow her time to develop a relationship with this person and make her own decision whether she wants to continue with this person, or find a new therapist.

Do not interrogate your wife after her sessions. If she brings it up, listen. That's all you have to do. You are not her therapist. Be her husband.

Found the therapist

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If you trust your wife to make good decisions

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What a ridiculous statement.

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I know you are joking, but sadly, many men in a relationship see their wives as subservient. There is a reason why Jody exists, and it's because "I don't liked, I don't feel loved, or I don't feel respected" rears its ugly head and if someone other than the spouse pays attention and gives that person the reason to believe they are heard, valued, respected, and appreciated, the creation of an extra-marital affair starts.