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re: Visiting the graveside of a lost loved one
Posted on 5/8/18 at 9:49 pm to Green Chili Tiger
Posted on 5/8/18 at 9:49 pm to Green Chili Tiger
Just throw me in a hole and plant a live oak on top of me and let me be fertilizer.
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Posted on 5/8/18 at 9:53 pm to Cdawg
This thread is depressing
Posted on 5/8/18 at 10:07 pm to Tiger Ryno
My grandmother was the closest person to me, and I've been to her grave twice. Once to lower her. And the next time to lower my grandfather next to her.
I miss them.
Whenever I pass by the cemetery, which is daily, I pic out their head stones and give them a nod. I won't step foot into the place without a damned good reason.
Cancer may take my mother soon, but she wants to be cremated and dispersed. Not sure how to handle any of it honestly. I'm a naturally cold person.
I miss them.
Whenever I pass by the cemetery, which is daily, I pic out their head stones and give them a nod. I won't step foot into the place without a damned good reason.
Cancer may take my mother soon, but she wants to be cremated and dispersed. Not sure how to handle any of it honestly. I'm a naturally cold person.
Posted on 5/8/18 at 10:42 pm to Tiger Ryno
I've never understood this. Your loved one spent little, if any, time in that location while alive. How is that a spot you 'connect' with them?
I figure that if loved ones can somehow bridge the divide between life and death, that is certainly not a place that they will go looking for anyone they know
I figure that if loved ones can somehow bridge the divide between life and death, that is certainly not a place that they will go looking for anyone they know
Posted on 5/9/18 at 1:17 am to Paluka
Abel Keogh
This guy has a website and podcasts geared more towards widows but I find much of his stuff interesting. Funny how this thread is going on and his weekly podcast addresses the issue.
Coming up on my first missed anniversary but as I have been told, no longer married so no longer an anniversary but a date of remembrance. Hang in there, like everyone says day to day.
This guy has a website and podcasts geared more towards widows but I find much of his stuff interesting. Funny how this thread is going on and his weekly podcast addresses the issue.
Coming up on my first missed anniversary but as I have been told, no longer married so no longer an anniversary but a date of remembrance. Hang in there, like everyone says day to day.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 4:36 am to Scruffy
Posted on 5/9/18 at 7:15 am to Broke
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visit my father regularly. Because I miss him.
Same. I did not realize this was considered uncommon.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 7:52 am to Tiger Ryno
I haven't been to Pop Rouge's "gravesite" since both his parents died in November 2013.
That being said, his remains are not there.
Some people need that visual queue to help spark memories in mind and heart about those no longer with us.
We survive through our legacy. I see part of my dad and my grandfathers and grandmothers and my forebearers every time I look in the mirror.
If you step back to think about it, the sequence of human events that took place to put you on this Earth is nothing short of a.....miracle.
That being said, his remains are not there.
Some people need that visual queue to help spark memories in mind and heart about those no longer with us.
We survive through our legacy. I see part of my dad and my grandfathers and grandmothers and my forebearers every time I look in the mirror.
If you step back to think about it, the sequence of human events that took place to put you on this Earth is nothing short of a.....miracle.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 7:57 am to X123F45
quote:You'll fit in well at the cemetery.
I'm a naturally cold person.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 7:57 am to Scruffy
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Scruffy thinks they are wastes of prime real estate.
Most of the graveyards that I go to for funerals are out in the country. Not sure just how prime that real estate is.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 8:17 am to Cdawg
I understand it’s a personal preference, but what I DON’T understand is why the hell people go visit loved ones in the cemetery, then post selfies with the gravestone 
What are they trying to prove? Hey guys I want you to feel bad for me because I’m a little emotional today... GTFO.Guess the visit never happened unless they post it on social media
What are they trying to prove? Hey guys I want you to feel bad for me because I’m a little emotional today... GTFO.Guess the visit never happened unless they post it on social media
Posted on 5/9/18 at 8:42 am to Count Chocula
Maybe it’s different by Parish? This was st Landry- not all parties needed to sign
Posted on 5/9/18 at 9:00 am to Tiger Ryno
I rarely do and I sort of feel guilty about it. It's probably been two years since I've visited my son's grave. I am just not one of those people who get a lot out of being there. He's not there. *shrug*
This is not a dis for those of you who do get a lot our of visiting. I wish I did.
This is not a dis for those of you who do get a lot our of visiting. I wish I did.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 9:12 am to Paige
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My dad died February 20th and I haven’t been since the funeral
I'm sorry for your loss. People grieve in different ways. My dad's parents died 28 and 30 years ago and I think he has visited their graves twice that I am aware of since then. And, that was only because other family members have recently been buried near them. I know he loved them dearly, but he just doesn't visit their graves. Folks just process grief in different ways. My mom has been the opposite of that since the death of my other grandparents. She visits their graves at least a couple of times a year.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 10:07 pm to Tiger Ryno
I do it (visit the graves of my relatives) occasionally. Don't get many chances to go back home and visit their graves. Does me good to go back. It's sobering. Reminds me that one day folks will walk past my grave. Helps to keep me on the straight and narrow road. But I know this body of mine is just skin, bone, muscle, and nerve. My soul along with my memory, thoughts, and will are trapped inside this aging and sick body. Someday, I will abandon this diseased body and fly. Worms gotta eat, same as anybody.
Free at last, good God almighty.....free at last!
Free at last, good God almighty.....free at last!
This post was edited on 5/9/18 at 10:17 pm
Posted on 5/9/18 at 10:13 pm to Slagathor
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We all grieve and cope in our own way.
This
I'll never criticize a way someone remembers a lost loved one... it's very personal
Posted on 5/9/18 at 10:28 pm to Tiger Ryno
My grandpa died in 1985. I’ve never gone back to his grave but my dad went to tell him about the Saints winning the super bowl.
Posted on 5/9/18 at 11:01 pm to shawnlsu
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Absolutely. My father threw a fit when I told him that he couldn't afford a typical service/embalming/casket ect and that he would have to be cremated. Who gives a shite? Why would anyone care if they are turned into a few ounces of ash after they die instead of taking up 10'x4' of earth, FOREVER
why would you be so insensitive to do such a thing to your dad? If he finds comfort in the idea that he will be buried instead of cremated, then cut back on your cell phone or internet package for a month or so and pony up the insignificant amount of dollars to make it happen. Sometimes I just don't understand people's priorities....
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