Question for the married men

A good marriage and she doesn't let you hang out with the guys?

Both and a side piece

Why get married if it’s second to your friends? You may need to grow up a bit

Kids are going to push you in to the first category. Might as well get used to it baw.

Definitely #1. The friends will eventually fade when they get wives and families but a good marriage to a good wife is hard to find these days

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Is it better to have a good marriage and few male friends

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Do you mean none? Or a few?

If it’s none, a good marriage isn’t the problem. It’s you.

If it’s a few and you want more, the marriage isn’t the problem. It’s you.

95% of men’s problems can be solved by fixing themselves.

To more specifically answer your question: I prefer few friends to many. I’m not fond of chit chat and socializing. I’d rather build a couple of friendships into something meaningful. My wife has zero impact on my ability to do that.

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I'm close to 50. Don't miss hanging out with the guys. Still get together occasionally and that is good enough for me.

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My thoughts exactly. I’d rather have a few really good friends instead of a bunch of so-so ones. Plus, I just don’t have the energy anymore to deal with a lot of people and the planning it involves to do stuff.

I have a fantastic marriage and other than a couple of lifelong friends I see every couple of years and talk to maybe a couple of times a year I don't have, need nor want any friends. I know a pile of folks...I do things with them from time to time like go fishing or play poker...but we are not really friends. I have enough family I have to associate with to do so with people I don't have to associate with. I am perfectly content completely alone. I prefer hunting and fishing alone, my 2 other hobbies consist of woodworking, running a side business and picking a guitar...all of them can be done best all by yourself. Friends are people and people are a pain in the arse....

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The older you get the less you really want to be around a lot of people. So I’d go with a good marriage and few friends.

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AMEN Brother...the older I get I find the number of people I can tolerate gets smaller and smaller. I am certain people feel the same way about me and thank the Christ for it. I have been social distancing for 59 years but did not know there was a name for it prior to COVID....