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re: Question for the married men
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:35 am to tigerjjs
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:35 am to tigerjjs
What do you mean only a few male friends? Just a few that you hang out with regularly or just a few in general? Is she keeping you from hanging out with the guys?
My close friends and myself are pretty scattered but we have a group chat and bull shite daily. We also have make a 1 or 2 week out of state hunt where we all meet up and do as much partying as we do hunting. Distance from your friends is part of growing old but that doesn't mean you have to lose contact with them.
My close friends and myself are pretty scattered but we have a group chat and bull shite daily. We also have make a 1 or 2 week out of state hunt where we all meet up and do as much partying as we do hunting. Distance from your friends is part of growing old but that doesn't mean you have to lose contact with them.
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Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:36 am to tigerjjs
Great marriage and a few good, dependable friends. Hanging out with friends is always good but as you get older, priorities shift. More time is needed to focus on kids and such. I get away with the guys for the Florida game every year. First time we did we mostly talked about our kids.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:36 am to BeerMoney
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Kids are going to push you in to the first category. Might as well get used to it baw.
When you become Suzy's (or whatever the kids name is) dad instead of Jim (or whatever your name is) it is irreversible and, unless you are an a-hole, you will be happy with the transformation. The best situation one can be in is to be friends with their spouse and their adult children.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:38 am to tigerjjs
You get old enough and ‘the guys’ come and go. They get busy in their marriage, kids, etc. Make your marriage the best it can be any enjoy the few times you get together with old friends.
DONT be that 40 year old single guy pestering all your married buddies still living by the bros before hoes mentality. That becomes a sad, lonely life.
DONT be that 40 year old single guy pestering all your married buddies still living by the bros before hoes mentality. That becomes a sad, lonely life.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:39 am to tigerjjs
It’s better to do what you need to do to maintain friendships and have a quality life and let your wife deal with it as much as female psychology allows. Remembering always, that very few women are ever really happy for more than a few hours at a time. Either way my friend, she will do whatever she has to to rule your universe and make it as small and manageable as she can. Your job is not to let her, be a man and assert your masculinity, LEAD , and that includes maintaining friendships.
Remember the cruel irony of becoming a woman’s bitch; not only will you lose respect for yourself, but she will lose both respect and attraction. And then you are basically a soiboi.
Remember the cruel irony of becoming a woman’s bitch; not only will you lose respect for yourself, but she will lose both respect and attraction. And then you are basically a soiboi.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:40 am to tigerjjs
I fall in the first category, and that’s how I like it.
My question to you would be, why can’t you have both if that’s what you want? As long as you’re not running around like you’re single with a bunch of single dudes you should be fine.
My question to you would be, why can’t you have both if that’s what you want? As long as you’re not running around like you’re single with a bunch of single dudes you should be fine.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:41 am to carhartt
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The older you get the less you really want to be around a lot of people. So I’d go with a good marriage and few friends.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:41 am to tigerjjs
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Is it better to have a good marriage and few male friends or a bad marriage and many friends? I am in the first category, and I must admit I do miss hanging out with the guys sometimes. Thoughts?
This is the dumbest question I’ve seen in a while
You frick your guy friends?
Of course good marriage and few friends. Hell, when I wasn’t married, I still only wanted to hang out with a hand full of people.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:43 am to tigerjjs
Mobility (social & financial) plays a big part in it. My wife and I didn't necessarily plan out where we eventually ended up, but I can say that it was far away from the people we would have considered to be our closest friends, to the point where we go years now without seeing them in person.
With the technology we have today we can still keep in touch, but long gone are our days of kickin' it with Jimmy and Jenny from the block.
With the technology we have today we can still keep in touch, but long gone are our days of kickin' it with Jimmy and Jenny from the block.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:47 am to tigerjjs
I hang out with all my guy friends plenty and she hangs out with her girlfriends.
Nothing better than the kids being asleep and wife out with her friends and I can veg out in peace
Nothing better than the kids being asleep and wife out with her friends and I can veg out in peace
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:47 am to carhartt
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So I’d go with a good marriage and few friends.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:47 am to tigerjjs
If you go to a gym with a vibrant mens locker room atmosphere you can get all the male bonding your brain craves in a safe non sexual setting.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:50 am to tigerjjs
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Is it better to have a good marriage and few male friends or a bad marriage and many friends?
I can't fathom why anyone would select your second option in this question.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:52 am to carhartt
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Plus, I just don’t have the energy anymore to deal with a lot of people and the planning it involves to do stuff.
This is exactly where I am.
It’s always fascinating to me when you watch a video of a mental health expert talking into a camera and saying, “men have to get out there and make a bunch of friends because you need this”,
I’m like, “no, you need this…I’m good fam”. I just don’t have a lot left in the socialization bucket after wife, kids, mom/MIL/bro/sis, parents of kid’s friends, and a VERY small handful of dudes I know. Anyone else in line behind them is going to be there for a while.
This post was edited on 3/27/24 at 7:53 am
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:54 am to tigerjjs
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Is it better to have a good marriage and few male friends or a bad marriage and many friends? I am in the first category, and I must admit I do miss hanging out with the guys sometimes. Thoughts?
Easily the former. My wife is my very best friend. Doesn’t matter where we are or what we’re doing. We simply enjoy being together.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:55 am to tigerjjs
The difference between guys and their friends and women and their friends is a guy can pick up the phone, call another guy he hasn’t spoken to in years, and they can pick up a conversation like they never left off.
Women if they don’t hear from a friend in a while that friendship is over because they operate on emotions and think if their friend hasn’t talked to them in 5 days somethings wrong.
That being said I would opt for a good marriage if you’re having to choose one or the other (which you shouldn’t be), because of the above reasons.
Women if they don’t hear from a friend in a while that friendship is over because they operate on emotions and think if their friend hasn’t talked to them in 5 days somethings wrong.
That being said I would opt for a good marriage if you’re having to choose one or the other (which you shouldn’t be), because of the above reasons.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 7:55 am to tigerjjs
The older I get the less I want to hang around groups of men
Posted on 3/27/24 at 8:00 am to tigerjjs
The marriage doesn’t dictate how many guy friends you have. Thats up to the individual.
But quite honestly it depends on the friends you have. If you are still hanging around single dudes and your activities involve mostly going where single women are looking for men then this will likely be a problem for your wife. And with good reason, if you go to the barber shop enough times eventually you’ll get a hair cut.
But quite honestly it depends on the friends you have. If you are still hanging around single dudes and your activities involve mostly going where single women are looking for men then this will likely be a problem for your wife. And with good reason, if you go to the barber shop enough times eventually you’ll get a hair cut.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 8:06 am to tigerjjs
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Is it better to have a good marriage and few male friends or a bad marriage and many friends? I am in the first category, and I must admit I do miss hanging out with the guys sometimes. Thoughts?
Are you banging "the guys"? If not, there's your answer.
One of the keys to a good marriage is enjoying your partner's company enough to want to be around them more often than you want to be around others. Don't get me wrong, she needs some "girl time" just as you need time to hang out with the guys and just be a guy, otherwise you're just staring at each other all day, every day.
As you get older though, if you have that enjoyment of each other's company, you'll both find you need less of that time with the guys/gals.
Posted on 3/27/24 at 8:09 am to tigerjjs
There’s nothing more miserable than a bad marriage
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