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re: Parent Problems looking for advice
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:34 pm to SwampBandit
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:34 pm to SwampBandit
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You dont even wanna know what all he has done, that the minor things.
Now i know he loves the kid and i dont think he would harm her but he doesnt deserve it from his actions.... I love him cause he is my dad but i literally cannot stand the SOB
Dude, frick that.
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Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:35 pm to SwampBandit
You are way more understanding than me, I'd have cut him out a long time ago.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:35 pm to SwampBandit
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he has wished me and my wife would get in wreck with our unborn child, the list goes on...
Later motherfricker.
This post was edited on 3/8/18 at 3:36 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:36 pm to SwampBandit
Keep him out of your wife's and your daughter's lives.
If he tells you he's in behavioral treatment, possibly you first (alone) can slowly in therapy, over a long time, build a relationship with him.
That probably won't happen but it could.
Keep him away from your womenfolk.
Sorry he's such a shitty person.
If he tells you he's in behavioral treatment, possibly you first (alone) can slowly in therapy, over a long time, build a relationship with him.
That probably won't happen but it could.
Keep him away from your womenfolk.
Sorry he's such a shitty person.
This post was edited on 3/8/18 at 3:37 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:36 pm to patnuh
Screw him. Your only obligation as a father and husband is to PROTECT your family. You are better than me. I would have told him to GTFO of you and your families life. There is no way in hell I would trust him being around your wife and child. You never know when he might explode.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:37 pm to Mahootney
You are an adult and can make your own decisions, but your job as a parent is to make the best decisions you can for your children until they are adults. Sometimes those contradict each other, but your decision as a parent should always trump any other one. You are also there to protect your family and set an example for them. Get a restraining order if necessary. With your kids involved you should have no issue getting an emergency one until the hearing.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 3:47 pm to SwampBandit
I think you know the answer to this, but ask yourself the question: “How will your decision affect your daughter?”
Based on the facts that you laid out, pushing him away will cause a lot less damage potentially than letting him hang around.
What would his reaction be when she draws on his walls or breaks his favorite electronic or whatever? People don’t change.
Based on the facts that you laid out, pushing him away will cause a lot less damage potentially than letting him hang around.
What would his reaction be when she draws on his walls or breaks his favorite electronic or whatever? People don’t change.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:03 pm to SwampBandit
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mentally and physically abusive father.
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and said he was going to kill me, he has wished me and my wife would get in wreck with our unborn child
He wouldn't be coming around my kid until he got help. And after getting help, it would be supervised visits, never again would he be alone with the kid.
And obviously, I'd have to see actual improvement to continue these supervised visits.
This post was edited on 3/8/18 at 4:07 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:05 pm to SwampBandit
What is his reaction when you tell him that he can’t see your daughter because of his actions? Is he remorseful? Or does he tell you that it’s a load of BS?
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:06 pm to SwampBandit
If you want your family to have any healthy relationship with your dad, he's going to need to get help first. He has some mental problems that need to be addressed. If he's willing to do that, then maybe it is worth a shot. But it's your family, and it may not be worth putting them at risk that he'd actually act on anything he says, so it may be best to just cut him out completely and get a restraining order.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:07 pm to Loungefly85
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Is he an alcoholic? Or like this alway?
If it’s because of drinking then at least give him an ultimatum. But if he’s always like that then cut the fricker loose.
He started drinking lately but he has always been this way...a few months ago he started going to church and seemed better till he didnt get his way and shite went to the fan.
I have explained numerous times that i have my own family that comes first, that i cant schedule my life around what he wants, i have explained straight up the things he has said and done and he still acts like it wasnt wrong and says we are wrong for what we are doing by keeping him away...He swears my wife is pursuading me to do it but she isnt...However she did open my eyes more to see how corrupt he is and what he was doing to me...He has stressed me to the point of coming home and just being a jerk to my wife from me dealing with him and my wife does not deserve it at all and he thinks there is no way he causes commotion...
Literally told me 20 minutes ago im going to hell...I just told him it wouldnt be no different than the past 26 years of my life
This post was edited on 3/22/18 at 1:57 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:09 pm to LSUFanHouston
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wife get involved.
That will never happen...she dooesnt want anything to do with him and i cant blame her one bit
This post was edited on 3/22/18 at 1:59 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:10 pm to SwampBandit
frick him. move on with your life and family. 
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:10 pm to SwampBandit
What’s his name? I live in Erwinville and I’ll go slap some sense in him
This post was edited on 3/8/18 at 4:45 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:10 pm to SwampBandit
If you're asking, then you're still letting him affect your life. As much as I love my parents, if either of them said anything like your father said, it would be a done deal.
He wished the 3 of you would die. He has zero rights to see your child. Zero. You are the parent and you decide who sees your child. Do you really want him as any sort of influence over your child? I wouldn't based on what you've described.
He wished the 3 of you would die. He has zero rights to see your child. Zero. You are the parent and you decide who sees your child. Do you really want him as any sort of influence over your child? I wouldn't based on what you've described.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:11 pm to Mahootney
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You should have a conversation with him about expectations and YOUR rules. And if he can't live with those rules, the consequences are no granddaughter time.
Been doing it for 3 years and he doesnt listen
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:12 pm to TennesseeFan25
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he could also flip and hurt your family/daughter for excluding him from your lives when he has nothing else.
This is what sucks
He has had me to the point where i told my wife im about to take him out just so yall dont have to deal with it but then they wouldnt have me and id be sitting in the pen
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:16 pm to SwampBandit
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This post was edited on 11/8/20 at 8:58 am
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:17 pm to SwampBandit
quote:But you're not following through with the rules/consequences.
Been doing it for 3 years and he doesnt listen
Posted on 3/8/18 at 4:17 pm to Ash Williams
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Tell him to stay the frick away and if he tries to keep coming around get a fricking restraining order.
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