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Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:28 am to SwampBandit
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.With all the things he has done from my childhood till recently he doesnt deserve to see me or my daughter in my eyes but am i wrong for that?
He should never see any of you again without getting help.
Wishing death on you should have been the last straw.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:30 am to SwampBandit
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he doesnt deserve to see me or my daughter in my eyes but am i wrong for that?
No. I have battled the same issue with my mother for 12 years. YOU have to protect your family. You can love him because he is your father without allowing him to cause stress and harm to your family. Cut ties, it's the best way.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:31 am to Boudreaux35
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He dug his own hole.
Wanna know what is really stupid.. His favorite saying is "You make the bed you lay in" which is what he uses when he doesnt get his way and starts threatening people...
My favorite comeback for the situation he is in right now is "You made the bed your laying in"
Wanna talk about pisses him off..
My honest opinion is he raised me showing control towards me and my mom because i didnt know any better and she was scared to death. My wife enters my life and opens my eyes to what he is doing and lures me away from letting him control and he cant stand it...It pisses him off that he doesnt have control and he knows she is the reason why and then when i explain his controlling problem he says you wanna talk about controlling you need to look at your wife because she wears the pants in your household...smh
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Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:33 am to SwampBandit
serious advice here
record his behavior when he gets rev'd up
the next time he tries to contact you, play that clip for him
he has to know that this behavior is not acceptable and it's 100% under his control, and if he can't control it, the he's not around. you are a father now and you refuse to let your daughter see that sort of psychopathic anger as any sort of example and you refuse to let it
he has the selfish, tantrum mentality of a toddler and you have to treat him like one. go back to basics. treat him like a dog who shite in the house where you rub his nose in it and say "no". if he can't work on it with clear evidence, then frick him. he's only going to be a severely negative influence on your child, directly and indirectly
record his behavior when he gets rev'd up
the next time he tries to contact you, play that clip for him
he has to know that this behavior is not acceptable and it's 100% under his control, and if he can't control it, the he's not around. you are a father now and you refuse to let your daughter see that sort of psychopathic anger as any sort of example and you refuse to let it
he has the selfish, tantrum mentality of a toddler and you have to treat him like one. go back to basics. treat him like a dog who shite in the house where you rub his nose in it and say "no". if he can't work on it with clear evidence, then frick him. he's only going to be a severely negative influence on your child, directly and indirectly
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:35 am to SlowFlowPro
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record his behavior when he gets rev'd up
I had all kinds of screen shots on my previous phone but my phone crashed and i lost it all...such an idiot for not emailing them and saving them on a harddrive
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:36 am to SwampBandit
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he doesnt have much longer left because he had a pace maker put in a year ago...
Tell him he is full of shite. Doctors really don't know went it is time for someone to check out. I have one and I'm good with it the last 8+ years. Due for a battery change in the next 4-6 months. Just no big deal.
Cut ties with him for a year or so to see if he settles down. Before doing so, tell him one last time to get help.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:36 am to Fachie
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YOU have to protect your family
Most important thing. No child should ever be subjected to that kind of behavior from a relative, even if it's passively observing. It will screw them up.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:36 am to SwampBandit
Man its Friday, yall dont deserve this depressing talk, I hope yall all enjoy yalls Friday and stay safe during the weekend.... For being a bunch of hard asses yall do come through when serious advice is needed and I appreciate it
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:40 am to RogerTheShrubber
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It will screw them up.
I honestly dont know how I am the person I am.. When i was younger i couldnt have friends because people knew the person he was and didnt want me around then when i hit high school my personality changed from a depressed shy kid to a person that would look for someone who looks down and try my best to put a smile on their face...
I have had times where his anger came out of me and I hate it, however most of those times are when he puts me in a bad mood
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:46 am to SwampBandit
Hey, I live just outside of New Roads. I'm a older man, but if you really need someone to talk to besides your wife at a time of need, please let me know. I can relate to what you going thru.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:49 am to SwampBandit
Like others have said, keep him away from your wife and child. They don’t deserve his bs. Go see him on your own terms. If things progress then you can bring your wife and daughter along for a few minutes at McDonalds or a park. Always someplace other than your home and a setting you can easily leave. You control the length of any meeting. Congrats on your own family and wanting badly to do better than your old man.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:51 am to fishfighter
Fishfighter i can just about bet you know him, here is a hint, his mom and dad used to own the lighthouse on False River
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:53 am to SwampBandit
This is almost word for word the behavior of my father-in-law.
Cut him out of your life immediately. The only way these people respond is to power plays; emotional appeals mean nothing to them.
Be forewarned that when you go no contact, he will probably pretend to respect your decision for a while - this will be a lie. When he convinces you to give him another chance, he will eventually revert back to his regular personality.
Cut him out of your life immediately. The only way these people respond is to power plays; emotional appeals mean nothing to them.
Be forewarned that when you go no contact, he will probably pretend to respect your decision for a while - this will be a lie. When he convinces you to give him another chance, he will eventually revert back to his regular personality.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:55 am to Muthsera
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Be forewarned that when you go no contact, he will probably pretend to respect your decision for a while - this will be a lie. When he convinces you to give him another chance, he will eventually revert back to his regular personality.
Yep i have seen it multiple times...Its just amazing how one day he flies off the rail then the next day he acts like nothing ever happened
Posted on 3/9/18 at 7:58 am to SwampBandit
Prays are with you. Keep your head up and don't let him drag you down to his level. Posted on 3/9/18 at 8:00 am to SwampBandit
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Yep i have seen it multiple times...Its just amazing how one day he flies off the rail then the next day he acts like nothing ever happened
Because he has a mental problem. It's called Bipolar. He needs help real bad.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 8:02 am to SwampBandit
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I honestly 100% do not think he would hurt my child in anyway.
I hope you're right. As a mom, there isn't a chance in hell that I would give him the opportunity.
And as a woman who lived with a very abusive first husband, I know what he did to me 30 years ago still affects me.
In the end though, you have to do what you THINK is best. I think you know what is right. But I hope you don't let guilt from the bullshite he's feeding you skew your judgement.
I'm so very sorry for what you have been through at the hands of a man who never should have been allowed to raise a child.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 8:07 am to fishfighter
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Prays are with you
You been living in new roads your whole life Fishfighter?
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