re: Parent Problems looking for advice

I appreciate all the advice, I know what needs to happen I guess I just wanted to hear it from others that I'm not crazy

Cut him out. Your daughter will be fine.

My grandfather walked out on my grandmother, my dad and my aunts. My dad repeatedly turned down chances to reconnect because he never showed interest in the rest of the family he abandoned. When he was dying, they reached out to us and my parents told me to give me a chance to finally meet him if I wanted.

My dad didn't want to see the piece of shite, so why would I? He died, we move on. My dad is one of my heroes. My grandfather was just some guy with the same name.

My grandfather was my hero and my dad is my heartache....

Hate to say it but he almost died a while back and while I was somewhat worried I really wasn't cause I know it would be a weight lifted of me and my families chest

Pm me his personal info
Man needs help or a serious arse whipping
I'll oblige

Good night everybody I think it's time to get of TD for the night and go hold my girls and thanks for all the advice...I'm gonna continue to pray about it and do what's right for my family...God bless all of you..y'all don't know how much reading this helped

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Parent Problems looking for advice

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It all boils down to there are 2 types of people in the world: those who build you up and those who tear you down.

I refuse to tolerate the latter as life is too short. Only those who add something positive to my existence are allowed time, space, energy in my life. The rest kick rocks.

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y'all don't know how much reading this helped

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I'm glad you posted about this, so that you could get some other viewpoints from people outside the situation.

Please remember, you are dealing with a person who can't control himself. All it could take is a split second, and he could do or say something to your child that could never be undone. There is a very valid reason you even had to ask whether you are wrong or not.

Follow your instincts, and don't back down from doing what is best for your family.

Your dad is a shitball. Flush him.

I did a lot of thinking last night once the wife and kid went to bed and here is what i think about it and what my heart is feeling.

I honestly 100% do not think he would hurt my child in anyway..She is literally his life and all he has...all of his family is dead and gone and we are all he has....However my body cannot take the stress he puts on me...I have explained to him a thousand times that he fricked up his family and then decided not to move on once they divorced leaving us his only options to talk to and visit.. I have tried to explain that i have my own family and that i cant have him involved all the time because i am trying to grow my own family....I have explained to him that he is lucky i even associate with him with all the things he has done to me and my mom and said and done in front of my wife.....I have explained that he doesnt need to text me everyday because im the only person he has to talk too, that it is aggravating as shite that i cant go a day without hearing from him.

It all went down hill when he showed himself in front of my wife..She started hating him and any time i was around him just with myself or me and my little girl she would shut down and start stressing and it would drive me crazy causing us to argue then all the pressure he put on me about not seeing my little girl enough would come out (However i opened my eyes and seen how stupid i was for letting him bother me).... He constantly pressures me and tries to guilt trip me, he gets pissed when he doesnt see her enough, he is never grateful even when he was seeing her once a week it wasnt enough, but it was way to much for us, we started going two to three weeks and then he really started complaining like every day....It is a huge amount of stress on me and puts me between a rock and a hard place... I feel like i have gave him 100 to many chances and he still wont correct his actions or listen to my rules/boundaries.. When my child was first born he would just show up unannounced and stuff so that put a bad taste in me and my wifes mouth from the get go...

I truly dont understand how a person can do the things he has done and then think others are the problem or think that he deserves unlimited chances and time... I dont understand how he can not see that he needs help..He has been told by me and my mom that he needs to see somebody about his mental problems but that really makes him fly off the rail because he thinks he is normal...

Everything everybody has stated on here about talking to him has been done numerous times...My heart knows he needs her and that she is the only person that brings the good out of him but i cannot take the bickering, bit$$ing, the poor pitiful me guilt tripping, the idk how long i get left and so on..

My wifes dad passed away from cancer two years ago around Thanksgiving and he lived in west texas, the man knew he was going to die but not once did he complain about not seeing us enough, he didnt text everyday, he cherished his time with her and was positive about everything but yet i have my dad sitting over here throwing poor pitiful me stuff saying he doesnt have much longer left because he had a pace maker put in a year ago...