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re: OT dating Advice for a widower
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:12 pm to BlackAdam
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:12 pm to BlackAdam
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Main concern here is having to talk about the wife. don't want it to turn into a pity party.
You don't really have to. If she asks, just tell her you are widowed and explain what you are comfortable with. Keep the pics up. She will always be your kids' mother regardless of who you date.
You are way overthinking this. Just go out and have fun. If you start buying into too many "rules" (call back times, 3rd date, etc.) you're going to look like Ben Afflect counting his fight choreography steps in BvS.
Codolences on the loss of your wife.
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Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:13 pm to BlackAdam
Cadillac Cafe
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:13 pm to BlackAdam
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Half your age plus 7... If 26 is my lower bound, but I get interest from a 22 yo that's ok right?
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:14 pm to SabiDojo
Do you use Match? Being a lawyer and all. Chicks would dig that.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:16 pm to Breauxsif
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:16 pm to BlackAdam
I would say be who you are and don't hide anything first of all. You might not have to volunteer the information on the first day, but I would not try to hide the fact your wife passed away and that you have kids. Leave the pictures up, it's your family. As for as age, I'd say no matter what, as long as she is 21 or above there should be no problem. If she doesn't have a problem with it then there isn't a problem.
As for as the numbers thing and everything else, just let it all work itself out. You can set rules but it all depends on the people.
As for as the numbers thing and everything else, just let it all work itself out. You can set rules but it all depends on the people.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:17 pm to SthGADawg
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not sure about the other shite cause I been tied down for a long time..but I have always heard this...you should wait one month for every year you were married before you start dating... so 14 years married = 14 months single
This is a bunch of stupid shite from people who haven't been in the situation. Do what feels right and makes you feel good. BUT... Don't get remarried anytime soon IMO. Not an arbitrary amount of time, just don't do it soon. Date and even be exclusive to one woman if you want but don't get married.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:18 pm to BlackAdam
The only men more desired by women than married men are wodowers because it shows that they're quality enough because someone married them, but there's no wife/ex-wife drama to worry about and no moral delimmas regarding breaking up a marriage.
They also fit into the "I can fix him" mold and bring out the nurturers.
Basically, you can hit all of the major appeals at once
Financial security
Proven commodity
Tortured Soul/mysterious
Fixer-upper
All you have to be is decent looking and moderately fun and you're shooting fish in a barrel.
They also fit into the "I can fix him" mold and bring out the nurturers.
Basically, you can hit all of the major appeals at once
Financial security
Proven commodity
Tortured Soul/mysterious
Fixer-upper
All you have to be is decent looking and moderately fun and you're shooting fish in a barrel.
This post was edited on 6/14/16 at 2:45 pm
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:18 pm to BlackAdam
go to the beach and walk around with a hopper full of pina coladas looking for them single ladies on the beach. they are there and ready to frick.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:20 pm to lsuwontonwrap
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Family pictures... when I go out my kids will either be at their grandparent's or an aunt and uncle's house. If I leave the family pictures up (which I intend to) will that be creepy as hell?
Not if it's pics of your kids. Wife might be weird.
If my wife dies and I date again down the road, I sure as shite am not hiding pictures of her to not weird out new pussy I'm with. No fricking chance.
But I love my wife.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:21 pm to BlackAdam
My friend's wife passed away from cancer just over a year ago, and he is going through the same thing. No advice that I can give you other than take your time. As others have said, there will be plenty of opportunities...you can be selective. Best of luck, and I'm sorry for your loss.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:21 pm to BlackAdam
If I did my math right and you're 38, don't count on going out with too many 21 year Olds.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:22 pm to BlackAdam
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Hos in different area codes... If they both live in the 225 area code but one has a 504 number would it be allowable to date both?
bang......i think bang is the word you were looking for here
edit to add answer to remark: the answer would be an astounding YES
This post was edited on 6/14/16 at 2:23 pm
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:23 pm to madmaxvol
quote:good advice
My friend's wife passed away from cancer just over a year ago, and he is going through the same thing. No advice that I can give you other than take your time. As others have said, there will be plenty of opportunities...you can be selective. Best of luck, and I'm sorry for your loss.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:25 pm to terriblegreen
quote:You'd be surprised
If I did my math right and you're 38, don't count on going out with too many 21 year Olds.
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:28 pm to Breauxsif
I don't get on it but my buddies have profiles and they let me take a peek. Pretty good talent on there.
This post was edited on 6/14/16 at 2:31 pm
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:29 pm to NoHoTiger
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you're going to look like Ben Afflect counting his fight choreography steps in BvS.
SPOILERS!
But really, haven't seen the movie yet, you can see him doing that? Funny
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:35 pm to BlackAdam
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My wife of 11 years passed away about a year ago.
was i the your best man at the wedding?
tss
i've been a best man twice, and both brides are now dead
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:44 pm to saintsfan1977
Backpage vetted by TER
Posted on 6/14/16 at 2:47 pm to The Torch
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Tinder
This..... Sage advice from a buddy from way back. "Gotta practice on the ugly ones so you can PERFORM for the good ones."
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