re: Neurologist said he is considering filing with a judge to remove my FIL from his finances

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OP's wife didn't hear it that way, then jibber jabberd to OP, which he rejabbered here.

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Maybe your wife misunderstood what the doctor was saying.

Is your MIL still alive? She obviously needs to be part of the conversation, and if healthy should be primary POA.

In the state where I live, the doctor can have the driver’s license pulled, not sure about intervening re finances. Depending on how bad he is, you may need a court order anyway. One last thing re the POA. Check with his financial institutions to see if one drawn up by a lawyer will suffice, or if you need to use their form as well. Some require it on their documentation.

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quote: It was a warning that somebody has to take over the finances But is it a legal warning?

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First of all, sorry for your situation. I have watched multiple family members go through this. It is toughest if there are kids that don’t understand what the old guy is going through.

I am not a lawyer, but I suspect that the doctor made this comment in a very blunt and straight forward way that your wife is not used to. That is all. In no way was he threatening legal action.

If the old timer is losing it, someone needs to step up and take all of the precautions mentioned: remove car keys, firearms and/o ammo, prepare food for him because he cannot use the stove, etc. be prepared for a fight. He will lash out at whomever is “taking” things from him. Just remember, mentally, he is a child. I have had these conversations, and they suck.

This truly becomes a family emergency because it will take multiple people to take on all of these responsibilities. Unless you have the money for full time care.

Get POA started. Put his assets into a trust to protect him.

You need to get him over to the Baton Rouge Council on Aging ASAP.

They have people there who know just what to do.

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The doctor brought up taking my FIL’s keys and his ability to do his own finances. He told my wife as an aside that if they aren’t able to make necessary changes ASAP, he would bring it to a judge. Has anyone experienced something like this before?

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Trust me, you need to do it. My great grandfather had Alzheimer’s and was a multimillionaire and people knew it and would tell him he owed them 50k when he really didn’t and he would write them a check.

People are shitty.

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Put it in his butt

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I haven’t seen a great first response in awhile. The clock has now restarted.

Time to knock this old turd in the head

My father filed and got PoA over his mom’s finances, all while living in a foreign country.

The good news is that my grandmother fully trusted my father (who obviously did nothing at all to violate the trust) and wasn’t a target for any fraudsters.

He left a 4 figure account with her niece having PoA, just for some security. On top of that, there was maybe 2K in cash, split amongst a safe where her niece knew the code and several hundred in cash on hand in case of an emergency.

I told my dad to just accept that a few hundred bucks would be lost, and that cash was misplaced dozens of times by my grandmother. Shockingly it was fully intact upon her passing, though clearly not where anyone thought it was supposed to be.

Alzheimer’s is a cruel, cruel disease.

And my grandmother’s case was milder than most, relatively short lived (2-2.5 years) with an onset at age 90 or so, my grandmother was surrounded by trustworthy people, had no financial issues, and she was pretty passive, without any volatile temper.