re: "Men are intimidated by or afraid of smart and powerful women"

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You mean, when a woman has the audacity to behave like most men?

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Exactly. It's equally annoying when a man acts like most women.

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Men who are insecure about themselves probably tend to avoid successful, intelligent women because they need a dominant relationship to counterbalance their unfulfilled, or disappointing, life.

Obviously painting with a broad brush here, but the men that I’ve known who have issues with successful women are typically losers compared to other men.

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Exactly, men in general aren’t afraid of women. Intelligent women will not be attracted to stupid men, at least not in terms of a real relationship. That doesn’t make stupid men afraid of smart women. It makes smart women out of their league.

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Men who are insecure about themselves probably tend to avoid successful, intelligent women because they need a dominant relationship to counterbalance their unfulfilled, or disappointing, life.

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I've always thought about it in sort of the flip side.

If a man is confident in himself and his achievements, he'll see intelligence and success in a woman as a positive. They really should be. A smart successful woman is better than a moron who has to have her hand held constantly.

If you're confident in yourself, intelligence and success in your partner doesn't threaten you. If you're not confident in yourself...well, those are the people who may have trouble with it.

This is also talking about truly intelligent and successful women (and people) not the ones who just post about how smart and successful they are on Facebook. The people who are delusionally arrogant about themselves, that's a whole separate issue.

A buddy of mine was hooking up with a woman that was in law school for her like 4th degree. He ended things because she was “too smart” for him.

Some men get a lot of their self-esteem from their ability to serve as a provider for their family. If their SO makes significantly more than them, these insecure men have trouble justifying their role in not only the power dynamic of the relationship, but also in their general life niche. However, guys so consumed with viewing a relationship in this way won’t be happy in a relationship even if they make way more because their priorities are all out of wack.

As for the idea of men being afraid of “powerful” women, men don’t like bitches. Men don’t like women that talk down to them or belittle them in front of others. Men don’t like being treated like a child, and women often confuse “powerful”, “assertive”, and “smart” for being an arrogant, know-it-all, condescending, jackass to everyone. Men aren’t liked when they do that either. Those people are called pricks. As with most things, the more one feels they need to show off, the less they really have, the more insecure they are, and the less people will respect them.

I think a lot of this narrative is an excuse for well-educated, high earning women who struggle to find meaningful relationships. It’s a cop-out for the real reason which is that most women refuse to date men financially less well-off and less-educated than themselves. Since more women are going to college and grad schools than men these days, it’s only going to get worse unless WOMEN start settling for relationships with men of lower socioeconomic status. Men have always dated “below their station” because they mostly care about looks, eagerness, and temperament (how a woman treats her man, his family, and his friends). Women rarely date down because they are still consumed with pre-feminism desires for status and security.

I thought martini was LCA’s wife

They think that because men are not attracted to them that they are intimidating. That's not it at all, most men just arent attracted to a woman hell bent on being more of a man than they are.

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However, guys so consumed with viewing a relationship in this way won’t be happy in a relationship even if they make way more because their priorities are all out of wack.

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I'd go further. Anyone who has to view their own self worth in comparison to others won't ever be happy.

Chances are, someone will always be out there who's better than you in some area. If you make 2 million a year, someone's out there making 20 mil a year.

Until you're ok living your own life, you'll always come up short and feel unfulfilled.

Feminists are dumb, that is why.