Let's talk about what are some true signs of alcoholism (longish)

Much like the outdated food pyramid I grew up on (11 servings of bread and pasta a day wtf?) I feel like we are taught as early as middle school some heinously bad guidelines on what makes someone have an alcohol problem. I remember some checklist boxes like "have you ever not remembered things after drinking?" or "if you drink [X amount] in one day or per week you have a problem". These are so horribly bad because something like this I don't think you can whittle down to a simple number that works universally. So I was thinking about the topic the other day bc a family member of mine said "omg I think I might be turning into an alcoholic" because they make themselves a drink 2 or 3 times a week after work, and came up with my personal definition of what should actually be cause for concern with someone, broken down into 5 categories.

Personal/Family Relationships
Is your drinking becoming an issue with your spouse/SO/children/family/friends. Do you act worse around them to the point they don't like being around you when you drink. Can you not control your actions when you drink, have you ever abused family or friends due to being under the influence

Work/School
I'm sure most of us have slept through a class in college due to hangover but this category is going beyond that. Are you missing deadlines at work, or even going to work intoxicated. Are you fricking up your routine tasks or missing client meetings, or letting grades slip because of drinking. Outside of a random day of playing hooky, is your professional or academic career diminishing due to drinking

Financial
Are you spending more than you really need to on alcohol, to the detriment of other important aspects of your life? Like if you're living paycheck to paycheck but decide to buy booze instead of paying the gas bill. Or even if you are a little more well off, sacrificing kids' braces or sports season because the money allocated for that went to alcohol instead

Health
This one is obvious but if you are having health problems (besides a headache from a hangover) that's a pretty good sign. If your liver is failing or your doctor is sitting you down and point blank saying you need to cut back, that's a good sign of an issue.

Legal
Another one that's fairly obvious. You may only drink 3 or 4 times over the course of the year but if you get arrested each time that's not a good sign. Do you have multiple DUIs, do you get into domestic disuputes or fights when drink, have you caused damage to person or property when drinking, has alcohol been the cause of being jailed/sued/etc


In my opinion, those are really the only 5 criteria that should make someone consider that they have an alcohol problem. You could have someone that drinks every day, 7 days a week without fail, but it's simply a glass of wine with dinner. Or a dude who drinks twice a month, only on Saturday, but drinks 24 beers each time. I don't think either of those people are necessarily alcoholics at face value although any high school guidesheet would tell you they absolutely are. To me, it is 100% entirely irrelevant how much you drink, how often you drink, what you drink, or anything like that as long as you are good to go in the 5 categories above.

Thoughts?