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Is anyone else dealing with an aging parent becoming a curmudgeon
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:43 pm
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:43 pm
I visited my father this weekend and left worried about him. First, my dad has a spotless record of being a well-respected and upstanding man. He's in his late 70's, but very sharp. He's married to a younger woman and is very active. But lately he seems to be overenjoying one of the key perks of old age: saying what is on his mind and not caring what people think.
When I arrived, I brought up my brother and dad immediately started telling me how disappointed he was with my brother's career change, saying 'I told him earlier that he's hyper-active and should find some ADHD medicine right away." I sort of laughed but noticed that this kind of talk had become a trend. Later that night we went on an errand and he flashed his brights at about 1 car out of every 3 or 4 that passed. When I told him that cars just have brighter lights he said, "You think I don't know that? I'm holding these a__holes accountable. The brights are out of control these days!"
On another trip, he asked some kid why he was leaving his grocery cart out in the middle of the parking lot. There's more, but is this kind of thing normal? TLDR/ Facebook: dad is kind of turning into a dick and I worry he may say something to the wrong person.
When I arrived, I brought up my brother and dad immediately started telling me how disappointed he was with my brother's career change, saying 'I told him earlier that he's hyper-active and should find some ADHD medicine right away." I sort of laughed but noticed that this kind of talk had become a trend. Later that night we went on an errand and he flashed his brights at about 1 car out of every 3 or 4 that passed. When I told him that cars just have brighter lights he said, "You think I don't know that? I'm holding these a__holes accountable. The brights are out of control these days!"
On another trip, he asked some kid why he was leaving his grocery cart out in the middle of the parking lot. There's more, but is this kind of thing normal? TLDR/ Facebook: dad is kind of turning into a dick and I worry he may say something to the wrong person.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:44 pm to Ham And Glass
My children may be dealing with this
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:45 pm to Ham And Glass
I always misread the word curmudgeon as "cumdungeon" but after seeing
It might be accurate in this case
quote:
He's in his late 70's, but very sharp. He's married to a younger woman and is very active
It might be accurate in this case
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:45 pm to Ham And Glass
Your dad sounds like he posts on the OT.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:46 pm to Ham And Glass
What’s a curmdingeon
Sounds scary
Sounds scary
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:48 pm to Ham And Glass
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On another trip, he asked some kid why he was leaving his grocery cart out in the middle of the parking lot.
Props to pops for this!
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:49 pm to Ham And Glass
We have a family business and my brother and I are running it. My dad has somewhat stepped away and stays at our lake house most of the time. He gets wild hairs up his arse and decides to come in and change everything on a whim without consulting with my brother or I. Perfect example, I went to London earlier this year (pre-Covid) and he took that opportunity to redefine all of our processes while I was out of the country. He hasn’t been in the business in years’ and it’s changed since he was last there but continues to make changes like previous years.
He is 70 and doesn’t have any hobbies or friends so he’s around more than I want him to be. Unfortunately I can’t even hang out with him without him being the “boss”. Can’t tell you the last time I had a conversation with him where it didn’t always go back to the business.
He is 70 and doesn’t have any hobbies or friends so he’s around more than I want him to be. Unfortunately I can’t even hang out with him without him being the “boss”. Can’t tell you the last time I had a conversation with him where it didn’t always go back to the business.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:51 pm to Ham And Glass
It could be the beginning of cognitive decline. With men, it sometimes presents itself as anger and the loss of their filter. You might want to see that his physician is made aware.
Joe Biden is probably in the same stage. Notice how angry he is in inappropriate situations.
Joe Biden is probably in the same stage. Notice how angry he is in inappropriate situations.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:52 pm to CHiPs25
Wish my Dad was still here to argue with
Posted on 12/14/20 at 5:55 pm to Ham And Glass
Based on those examples, he sounds like a funny guy.
I don't see a reason to worry.
I don't see a reason to worry.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:18 pm to Ham And Glass
Dealing with?! I get pissed when I go to visit and there's not already an open chair and a glass of iced tea so I can join in.
This post was edited on 12/14/20 at 6:19 pm
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:21 pm to Ham And Glass
Just sounds like a man who isn't beta. Respect.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:23 pm to Ham And Glass
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saying what is on his mind and not caring what people think.
Sounds like a perk of being an old person. I’d let it slide unless it’s going to lead to some type of loss for you or him personally. If he wants to tell you how much your brother sucks, who cares?
He’s old and tired of sugar coating shite for everyone else. I can understand.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:27 pm to CHiPs25
Your dad sounds unhappy. Probably something or things he regrets and never worked through it. I’d set boundaries. Stand up to him and don’t let him be “the boss.”
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:29 pm to Ham And Glass
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But lately he seems to be overenjoying one of the key perks of old age: saying what is on his mind and not caring what people think.
I’m 32 and a little ahead of the curve on this.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:31 pm to tigerinthebueche
You only have a certain number of fricks to give during your lifetime. If you don't ration dem fricks properly, you end up outliving your fricks and have to spend living the remainder of your life without any fricks to give. Happens to a lot of people. It'll happen to me soon, as I am down to my last 3 fricks.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:32 pm to madamsquirrel
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My children may be dealing with this ?
Mine definitely are.
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:33 pm to CHiPs25
quote:You won’t be saying that after he passes away.
he’s around more than I want him to be
Posted on 12/14/20 at 6:36 pm to Ham And Glass
My dad says whatever pops in his head and also wears some crazy shite these days. His typical dress is a Hawaiian shirt, cargo shorts, some kind of crazy socks and hiking boots.
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