re: Is a secksless marriage reason enough for divorce?

If the marriage is sexless, there are bigger issues that need to be addressed. There likely is little to no communication/trust/etc.. Address those issues, betrayal, and any past trauma both parties may have and sex will take care of it's self.

Maybe I’m misunderstanding but not everyone wants to be helped. What if she refuses therapy? What if she lies to you & lies to her therapist when she finally does go? Like others have said there are always underlying reasons why she doesn’t want sex. In my case I did everything possible to help for more than a decade & my efforts made no difference. In fact after my divorce my ex wife said she would have left her too if she were a man.

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trying to "get points" by folding towels and sh*t until they've done enough to get some tail.

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I've heard that referred to as chore-play vs foreplay

If you want sex and your partner refuses, yes divorce is a valid option. So is being celibate or jerking it. Just don’t cheat.

You can remain friends after divorce which is basically what you are anyway.

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And that never works, either.

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no it doesn't and worse it sets up a false expectancy for both parties and saps your self-respect

Marriage is a sexual non-compete agreement

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My wife has delivered 2 kids and is 59. We have been bumping uglies since she was 20 and I was 22. She was as sexy if not more so this morning when I left her warm body and kissed her goodbye as she was when she was 20 and her tits pointed skyward and you could bounce pennies off her belly. She is my wife, best friend, mother of my kids and has my back no matter what. We have laughed and cried together, we have cussed one another for anything other than a child of god, we have been broke, we have had money....she knows me better than I know myself and I am the same person for her....that is sexier than ANY physical characteristic of female sexuality. If you aren't as physically attracted to your wife after 38 years as you were the day you first saw her I feel badly for both of you

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Yes sir I couldn’t have said it better. I’m more turned on by my wife now than ever before and the sex just gets better.

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I didn't even want my kids to sit on the couch with me, much less have my husband touch me.

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My wife was on an IUD for 5 years after our second child. We probably had sex 5 times in 5 years. A month after removing the IUD, she became a totally different person. She wants it much more than I do and gets very upset when we go more than two days without. She's been off BC for 8 years and says she's never getting back on it.

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Hormone issues are so real.

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How do you make a wHore moan?

Don’t pay her!