re: How would you feel if the wife came home one day with a new car?

My wife pulled this off in Spring 2013 while pregnant with our first child. I was driving a used Chevy Aveo that had its share of issues. Without discussing it as a couple, she traded that car in for a brand-new Nissan Altima. When she arrived home with the car and I approached her in the driveway to ask what was going on, she smiled and said, "Happy Mothers Day to me!"

I wasn't terribly upset, as the new car buying process is not an experience I enjoy. Still, we joke sometimes that there's no way she would have made such a bold move if she wasn't carrying my child at the time.

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Tortious

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My screen name is a quote from Talladega Nights. Not an indication of my thoughts on finances. Although I do love money.

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I wouldn't buy a car without consulting my wife either. I expect the same courtesy. Married people should make large financial decisions as a unit.

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If a new car is a large financial cost to you, then you probably don't understand why a couple wouldn't talk to each other when that level of money isn't a question.

My wife buys her car, I buy mine. We aren't getting lambos so it doesn't matter.

Lot of weak men here.

Found the cuck

Lol y’all’s wives work

It's not just a wife thing, any material purchase should at least be discussed. Materiality changes from situation to situation, but to not communicate something like that is insane to me.

Fine by me. I have done this a few times to her and she makes plenty of money.
If she did not get a good deal I would not be happy.

There's too much at play to answer a blanket yes or no.


Does the married/common law couple have good or bad credit?
Is the purchase for a monthly note or straight cash?
Are kids involved (think type of car/transportation of said kids)?

If you've got a marriage set up on an understood judgement of small vs. medium vs. large purchases that directly or indirectly affect your individual or combined credit scores or bank account(s), then you're a 1%'er. Congrats.

But a middle class family member just up & deciding to head to the dealership to buy a car with straight cash or a monthly note (where credit is 1000% ran) = no member of a couple is realistically doing this without consequence.

I would be pretty shocked as we usually give each other a heads up on high dollar purchases. As for car purchases in the past for her, she picks out what she wants and I do the sit down with the sales people. She wants nothing to do with that end of it.