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re: How important is it that your children grow up to hold the same values as you?
Posted on 6/8/26 at 6:47 pm to BrodyDad
Posted on 6/8/26 at 6:47 pm to BrodyDad
I’ve got two rules for my boys, who are 6 and 4 months old:
1. No dicks
2. No needles
I’ve got two attributes I want to instill in them:
1. Kindness
2. Confidence
Those two traits open all doors in life.
With those two rules and two traits, they’re bound to be conservative eventually.
1. No dicks
2. No needles
I’ve got two attributes I want to instill in them:
1. Kindness
2. Confidence
Those two traits open all doors in life.
With those two rules and two traits, they’re bound to be conservative eventually.
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Posted on 6/8/26 at 6:48 pm to BrodyDad
Depends on what values we’re talking about. Basic kindness, respect for others, patience, being part of a high-trust society etc type stuff, of course.
Political views? I don’t care where they end up on that spectrum, as long as their positions are rooted in reason and not from ignorance or social pressure.
Political views? I don’t care where they end up on that spectrum, as long as their positions are rooted in reason and not from ignorance or social pressure.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:07 pm to Indefatigable
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high-trust society etc type stuff, of course.
Political views? I don’t care where they end up on that spectrum,
This is how Minnesota and Wisconsin have ended up where they are. Their culture was high trust, and they assume that Somalis and Communists believe in that value too.
I get what you're saying, but it doesn't survive contact with reality.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:09 pm to BrodyDad
Well I’ll be a son of a gun
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:10 pm to BrodyDad
Very important because my values are right.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:12 pm to BrodyDad
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Well of course, but would you be disappointed if they took another path?
Yes, but I guess to what degree depends on how self-destructive the detour is.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:12 pm to Everyday Is Saturday
quote:And it's sad that I get a bunch of downvotes. Do parents think that they can force their kids to have their own values? Newsflash: You can't. You can only expose them to "your values", explain why, and hope for the best. My brother and I grew up in the same household and were completely different people. We all know how their brain is still developing, so it's a process even after they're an "adult". If you were honest with them and have a solid position, they might respect it and adopt it.
Agree on all points. Similar parenting in this regard.
This post was edited on 6/8/26 at 7:15 pm
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:41 pm to BrodyDad
Our materialistic sexually obscessed culture is so overwhelming as to make the job of raising virtuous children (especially daughters) nearly impossible. Everything God fearing Christian parents attempt to instill in children is neutralized by the sex obscessed culture. Some regions more than others.
Our public schools are a mess......even the ones in the supposedly "safe" areas of the city (hint: Austin Metcalf was a student in a high school in a "supposedly safe" part of town) That thug went looking for trouble at that school. They're stalking your teenagers now.
My wife and I have raised our family, but if I had to do it all over again I would put our teenagers in a parochial Catholic School. I'd prolly have to mortgage the farm to do it but TODAY I would NEVER let my teenagers attend a public school. And they turned out well....thanks to our uncompromising Christian values (hint: we were hands on fully engaged parents)
The culprit? Disasterous democrat social policies have wrecked havoc on the traditional values that I grew up under.
.....and get out of the suburbs near democrat run cities. There, I said it.
Our public schools are a mess......even the ones in the supposedly "safe" areas of the city (hint: Austin Metcalf was a student in a high school in a "supposedly safe" part of town) That thug went looking for trouble at that school. They're stalking your teenagers now.
My wife and I have raised our family, but if I had to do it all over again I would put our teenagers in a parochial Catholic School. I'd prolly have to mortgage the farm to do it but TODAY I would NEVER let my teenagers attend a public school. And they turned out well....thanks to our uncompromising Christian values (hint: we were hands on fully engaged parents)
The culprit? Disasterous democrat social policies have wrecked havoc on the traditional values that I grew up under.
.....and get out of the suburbs near democrat run cities. There, I said it.
This post was edited on 6/8/26 at 7:58 pm
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:42 pm to BrodyDad
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they are very liberal for having been raised in the South.
Were they union workers?
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:43 pm to RoyalWe
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You can only expose them to "your values", explain why, and hope for the best
This is the key. Engage with them about it, if you show good reasoning for your stances then they are forced to deal with those reasons if they want to go a different direction. They'll encounter lots of idiotic opinions in college, likely, those are fun to squash in healthy discussion. Keep emotions out of it, and as long as your values are based on sound principles, you've set them up for success. You can't stop some from being dumb just due to stubbornness though.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:44 pm to BrodyDad
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How important is it that your children grow up to hold the same values as you?
It's imperative.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 7:52 pm to RoyalWe
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You don't tell anyone, your kids included, what to think. You teach them how to think and provide many examples over the years you have them. If they have the capacity they'll pick up what you're putting down at some point.
My kids get unconditional love. I don't care what they say or do, I will still love them. Disappointed? Sure. Sad? Sure. But they have to live their lives and be accountable to God, family, society, etc. Does that mean I will hide my opinions from them? No. Will I cut them out of the will? Maybe -- depending on how whack-a-doo they get. Will it "bother me"? Not really. Free will is theirs to do with as they please.
I couldn't possibly agree with you anymore. 100% spot on.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:41 pm to Loup
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Were they union workers?
Nope
Posted on 6/8/26 at 8:54 pm to BrodyDad
I usually explain to my kids why I think and behave the way I do. I don’t push any political brands on them because I want them to think for themselves and also because if you push someone to a decision, most will push back.
Kids will learn more from watching how you behave and interact with the world so preaching at them is mostly a lost cause.
Kids will learn more from watching how you behave and interact with the world so preaching at them is mostly a lost cause.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:02 pm to BrodyDad
Very. I refuse to raise liberal children. They will be productive members in society, know right from wrong, and have good morals. Liberals ruin everything and are morally corrupt in every aspect.
Liberal men are effeminate and liberal women are progressive, don’t make good wives, and destroy families.
Liberal men are effeminate and liberal women are progressive, don’t make good wives, and destroy families.
This post was edited on 6/8/26 at 9:07 pm
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:03 pm to BrodyDad
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How important is it that your children grow up to hold the same values as you?
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My parents are elderly now and I love them dearly, but they are very liberal for having been raised in the South
No one gives a frick, this is America, everyone is entitled to their own opinion
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:06 pm to Gings5
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Very. I refuse to raise liberal children. They will be productive members in society, know right from wrong, and have good morals. Liberals ruin everything and are morally corrupt in every aspect
Why do you think everyone who has different political opinions than you don’t have morals or are not productive members of society? What do you do to contribute to humanity?
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:06 pm to Gings5
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Very. I refuse to raise liberal children. They will be productive members in society, know right from wrong, and have good morals. Liberals ruin everything and are morally corrupt in every aspect.
Fair enough, but how would you react/do if they did become liberal?
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:11 pm to BrodyDad
Not sure. I believe it’s essentially impossible if you raise them right. Politics is too polarizing now and the democrats of the 90’s are long gone. It’s literally common sense versus complete lunacy.
Posted on 6/8/26 at 9:25 pm to BamaCoaster
My kids know where I stand but I don’t push them either way. I show examples in society of what drove this, and why this is that way, agendas, etc. due to laws and politics.
I expect my daughter to go off to school and become a little left leaning. It’s a part of the process of becoming full circle. I went through the same to an extent.
What WILL hurt is if they do that “ultimatum” crap and say we’re not communicating with you due to your political leaning. Then, I know they’ve been brainwashed and completely lost what’s important. I preach family non stop. These are the people that have your back.
Slim chance of that happening, but it does cross my mind from time to time and how I would handle it.
I expect my daughter to go off to school and become a little left leaning. It’s a part of the process of becoming full circle. I went through the same to an extent.
What WILL hurt is if they do that “ultimatum” crap and say we’re not communicating with you due to your political leaning. Then, I know they’ve been brainwashed and completely lost what’s important. I preach family non stop. These are the people that have your back.
Slim chance of that happening, but it does cross my mind from time to time and how I would handle it.
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