re: How do you talk to your kids about sexual preferences of others?

Daughter is 8. We just say some women like women, some men like men. We have a very diverse friend group so she isn’t confused that people are different than mom and dad.

I brought mine to Westboro Baptist Church and let them teach my children about homosexuality.

Take them to a Catholic Church and let the priest handle it for you.

I learned that gays were weird on the playground in the 90s back when we were a proper country

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I have gay dudes and lesbians living on my block and raising children. My kids aren’t stupid, so they gathered that same sex couples exist by the time they gained the most fundamental ability to reason.

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This, we've never discussed it straight forward but I'm pretty sure my daughter was able to put two and two together. We also have a high school friend who is a lesbian. I think one day she asked if they were "friends" and we said yes and that was that.

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I have gay dudes and lesbians living on my block and raising children.

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Those poor kids.

My son just turned 8. One of his best friends’ has two moms. It is a thing we talked about like normal parents. If you don’t talk about it, it will make them interested in it. He is a little too young for a more in depth talk but he knows what “gay” is. My younger daughter does not as she is too young to perceive the difference yet.

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My kid is 8 and he’s noticed lesbian and gay couples on TV, mostly in commercials, and he’s asking questions. I do get a good chuckle when my wife tells him “it’s just wrong” but I know I’ll have to talk to him about it sooner or later.

Did you ever have this talk with your kids? How old were they?

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You wife's response and the fact that it amuses you is why he is asking questions...at some point y'all have instilled in him the notion that a family or a couple consists of a man and a woman and no possible combination other than that ever existed...when he is exposed to reality he has questions. Yall probably did not do this consciously but you have consciously made the decision for one of you to say its wrong and the other to be amused by that. 8 year olds live in a black and white world with no grey. When a parent tells them something is wrong they do not see any nuance...as in "its wrong in the eyes of the lord" or "in my opinion its wrong but others think differently and there is the remotest possibility that my thinking it is wrong is more about me than anyone else"...the kid just sees it is wrong like using crayons on the wall or punching his friend in the nose for no reason. Having instilled in the child that there is only one possible recipe for a family or a couple and his finding that this was incorrect you have placed yourself in a position to explain why you were incorrect...youve made your job far more difficult than simply passing your knowledge onto your child and not your opinions until such time as the child is old enough to know the difference. The damage is done, you can correct it by telling them that in your opinion the only normal family or couple is a man and a woman but the rest of the world holds varying opinions on the matter and it is up to the indviduals involved and none of anyone else's business...or you can continue to watch your child being given bad ideas and being amused by that.

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Exactly the same scenario here. My son is 8 and he also asked the question not too long ago.

We basically explained to him that there are many types of people with different taste. Some boys like boys, some girls like girls and they get to choose whatever they like, as long as they respect other people's taste and don't try to force what you like or don't like.

Then he responded "that's gross".

Just what I wanted to hear.

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And exactly what most 8 year olds would say...and move on. They will go on to find that a lot of shite they find weird is perfectly normal...sex is pretty weird when you get down to it and oral sex is beyond weird, yet it is VERY common on both accounts...because humans are weird. Making a big deal out of a kids questions is a worse idea than not giving any thought to why the question is being asked and how to answer it in the best manner.

Just tell it like it is. Some people choose a life of sin but you don’t have to treat them any differently. Know it’s wrong and the world is shoving it down our throats to make it socially acceptable like any other moral issue.