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re: How did you handle paternity leave?
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:01 am to Ssubba
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:01 am to Ssubba
My business partner and his wife had a baby a year and half ago. He's one of my best friends and I'm really happy about it.
From a purely work standpoint though, instead of leave, he's just been about 25% less active and available all the time.
It's all cool but if it's a small business, I'd keep in mind that there's likely going to be constant slack your partner's picking up after 6 am doctor visits and such.
From a purely work standpoint though, instead of leave, he's just been about 25% less active and available all the time.
It's all cool but if it's a small business, I'd keep in mind that there's likely going to be constant slack your partner's picking up after 6 am doctor visits and such.
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Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:03 am to LNCHBOX
quote:What? You're not away from your family. You go to work to provide for your family and spend your time off with them. Few are working 80 hours a week.
Absurd is choosing to be away from your family to fricking work
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:04 am to Ssubba
My kids were born in 1983 and 1988. I took a few days off. My wife was a stay-at-home mom.
It worked for us. I realize not everyone has the ability to do the same.
It worked for us. I realize not everyone has the ability to do the same.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:05 am to Ssubba
Take couple days off for the birth itself. Then the first few weeks your wife will have a ton of help with her mom or your mom. Don't take a week off until the dust settles and you can actually spend time with your wife and your new child as a three party family. It'll be one of the greatest weeks you'll ever take off work!
And Congrats dad! Thursdays a big day!
And Congrats dad! Thursdays a big day!
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:06 am to Ssubba
I had to eat into my PTO. Took a couple of weeks off.
As of last year, Colorado has a State FMLA law that allows for up to 12 weeks of paid (up to $1000 per week, max) leave for newborns, and other medical.
As of last year, Colorado has a State FMLA law that allows for up to 12 weeks of paid (up to $1000 per week, max) leave for newborns, and other medical.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:09 am to Norbert
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In my experience, the first two weeks are kind of a false sense of security. It’s a quiet period where the little baw or bawette sleeps most of the time. You think to yourself, “Aww. We are blessed with one of those GOOD babies.”
Sure, there are lots of nighttime feeds, but other than that both of my kids were pretty calm at first.
The difficult stretch is from week 3 to about 3 months , give or take...
True. Our;'s was a premie and there were complications, so it was a couple of weeks before my wife could leave the hospital. Then it was all on us. Fortunately, my MiL came and stayed with us for a couple of months. Colic will drive you nuts and we were just passing her around until it stopped.
But time off? I could take vacation time, but there was no such thing as paternity leave. That's a new phenomenon. I see guys today disappearing for three months and never even checking in, even if they are working from home.
I'd have been overjoyed if I could have just worked at home.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:10 am to Jake88
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What? You're not away from your family. You go to work to provide for your family and spend your time off with them. Few are working 80 hours a week.
What do you mean what? If I have the option of using leave to spend time with my new kid, I'm picking it 10 times out of 10. Are you not seeing all these posts from the manly men acting like you're a bitch if you choose to not use your leave?
This post was edited on 1/6/25 at 9:12 am
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:10 am to JohnnyKilroy
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I worked way harder on my paternity leave than I do at my job.
Exactly.
Not all of us have family who are willing or able to assist.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:12 am to GeorgeTheGreek
quote:Are there really that many young baws who are having kids and making $300K?
If you’re making $300K - probably a little bit more pressure not to cut out completely.
This post was edited on 1/6/25 at 9:22 am
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:15 am to Ssubba
Both of my kids are post Covid babies and I have been remote since the pandemic hit.
With our son (2021) I built up PTO and took 10 days so I was able to focus those those first couple of weeks on getting a schedule and routine in place.
Our daughter (2024) was in the NICU for the first 14 days (we knew that before hand) so those two weeks I worked some half days and worked a few full days, and then took the time off once she got home.
With our son (2021) I built up PTO and took 10 days so I was able to focus those those first couple of weeks on getting a schedule and routine in place.
Our daughter (2024) was in the NICU for the first 14 days (we knew that before hand) so those two weeks I worked some half days and worked a few full days, and then took the time off once she got home.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:16 am to The Baker
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daycare waitlist
One or the most stressful parts about planning for a kid.
Often times, to get in a daycare, it seems you need to be on a waitlist before you even know you are expecting a kid.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:16 am to Aguga
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No one was ever regretted choosing their family over their career.
But these same people have zero issues putting their newborn babies in daycare centers with strangers all day. That is definitely choosing "muh career" over family.
I do like that dads get PTO across the board, but 3 months? There isn't enough to do for 2 adults to be at home that long. The household needs to be in a routine asap.
I know I'm old fashioned, but my husband working to make money for our family - to provide and protect - is the sweetest thing he could do to help me. I handled the newborn stuff with my mom and MIL, friends, neighbors, etc. For eons women have all banded together to help new moms.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:18 am to Ssubba
quote:I was in a similar situation. Birth was on a Friday, so I took the entire next week off, although I did work a little here and there but who doesn’t.
I work for myself along with a business partner so no official paternity leave, just going to play this thing out and see how it unravels.
After that for about a month, I worked some really odd hours all throughout the day and in the middle of the night while my wife and the baby slept.
Month 2 everything returned back to normal.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:18 am to JohnnyKilroy
paternity leave came during the me too era when dudes were having kids. I guess thats a good thing
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:19 am to Ssubba
My second daughter is coming sometime between today and 1/13/25. I'm taking off 2 weeks and my wife is taking off 12 weeks. I don't get paternity leave, so my time off is PTO.
If you put work before your family you suck as a dad.
If you put work before your family you suck as a dad.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:19 am to HouseMom
quote:Or there’s the real reason of the father going to work to provide the best life possible for their family. Ever thought about that one?
putting their newborn babies in daycare centers with strangers all day. That is definitely choosing "muh career" over family.
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:20 am to nola tiger lsu
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They dont need 3 months, that's all.
You also don't need 25% of your salary, you should just give it back to your company
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:21 am to LNCHBOX
quote:I see what you're saying. If it's offered, you're going to take it.
If I have the option of using leave to spend time with my new kid, I'm picking it 10 times out of 10
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:22 am to HouseMom
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I do like that dads get PTO across the board, but 3 months? There isn't enough to do for 2 adults to be at home that long
It's not that there is "enough stuff to do", it's about bonding with your new child
Posted on 1/6/25 at 9:22 am to Epic Cajun
The other thing that's funny in today's age of managerialism is the fact that only a small percentage of people actually have jobs that make a material difference to anyone.
Most of yall could be fired and not replaced and it wouldn't make any difference to your employer's bottom line.
Most of yall could be fired and not replaced and it wouldn't make any difference to your employer's bottom line.
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