re: Fellow divorcees...did you know that your marriage was over, or were you blindsided?

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tired of living for everyone else, want to live for me

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Love it. From someone that I’m sure was already selfish as hell.

That neighbor knew what they were doing when they planted that seed.

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I figured mine was pretty much over but her having sex with guys behind my back

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Maybe you should have turned around?


EDIT. Damn you 225Tyga! I was definitely late to the party with this one...

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I knew mine was over when the neighbor walked over and asked me if I bought a new truck or if that was a work truck I drove part time

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dude had your back without flat out saying it.

I knew. I stated pulling away months before we split. I started distancing myself from her kids. I went to Europe twice without her.
I had broke up with her twice before. Each time reconciling.

While on my second Euro trip I enjoyed Amsterdam's pleasures but was a little angry her "friend" looked so close on a school trip at Disney. Though I chose a solo trip to Europe over going to Disney with her and the band parents. After it was like sleeping with a stranger.

I could have at that point fixed it and worked things out. Instead I chose the nuclear option.
I went to Mexico and sent her a picture with a Woman's bathing suit in the background of my hotel room. She caught it and was out my house the next day. Had called on all her friends to move her out.
The friend turned out to like her and I guess she him. As they started dating right away. I told the story to my people that she was a cheater that left me for him because I guess I wanted that sympathy after the split. At first we were still civil but then I got drunk and went off in her on a phone call. I haven't talked to her or her kids since.
Almost 2 years later and many short relationships I realize I could have been better. I put myself and what I wanted first.
I guess. I stopped caring for her well before we split. I'm happy now and live the life I wanted.
But I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss parts of it. Especially the kids. I take it as a learning experience.
If you don't give your partner what they want someone else will.

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Blindsided.
- Went to work at 8am.
- neighbor called me at 9 saying there was a moving truck in my driveway.
- called the house, wife said she didn't see the moving truck
- called neighbor to see if she was sure - she replied YES
- 9:30 i get to my house
- wife gone and all her shite is gone
- hadn't seen the bitch since

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Can you walk us through this a bit more?

If my wife did this I would be worried about her health, like maybe she has a brain tumor or something?

There were no signs? No sort of anything that you brushed off but may have been a big deal to her?

I'm not understanding the logistics behind a relationship where one party can truly blindside the other with a divorce.

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And I mean everything... Ceiling fans, cabinet hardware, even the light bulbs were gone!

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What kind of sick bitch takes the ice cube trays out of the freezer?

Saw it coming. Didn't make it any easier though

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We were having issues but did not realize how bad. She told me as I was leaving the house to get a colonoscopy…true story

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Wow....that is one way of telling you she won't be your required designated driver.

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Came home and found a note on the door "tired of living for everyone else, want to live for me".

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Playing, Devil's Advocate. If a person spends their entire life doing things to make everyone else happy, and their needs aren't being met - they will become cold and distant.

It's just the nature of the beast.

The truth is you probably didn't do anything wrong, but they weren't happy and couldn't see themselves ever being happy with you again. There wasn't anything you could change about the situation that would have made things better. This is where the saying, "We grew apart" comes in. Sometimes, people just aren't in love anymore.