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re: Engaged but second guessing getting married- advice
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:13 pm to Kim Jong Ir
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:13 pm to Kim Jong Ir
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Marriage is great as long as you pick the right one.
I read some interesting articles about this very subject. And essentially, that statement isn't true. From a statistical standpoint, having a successful marriage is more about learning how to love the stranger you find yourself married to.
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Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:15 pm to Tigerfan56
If you are not happy and unsure now then call it off and part ways.
IT WILL NOT GET BETTER!
IT WILL NOT GET BETTER!
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:28 pm to Tigerfan56
she's getting fat isn't she
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:40 pm to Honky Lips
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GET OUT NOW and I'm not even joking.
You won't though. You'll go through with it and in 10 years wonder why you're miserable.
If it's one thing I've learned is that the scorned males that married too quickly and hated their wives give the best marriage advice and it's not slanted at all.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:40 pm to Tigerfan56
You're going to get a shitload of stupid advice.
You'll wake up 45 and alone and fricked.
If she's a great girl marry her. Marriage isn't about love it's a business arraignment. Can you stomach her existence? Will she make a good business partner? Mother?
Marry her.
Excitement is for mistresses. Get some, don't get caught. Don't listen to the prudes here.
The end.
You'll wake up 45 and alone and fricked.
If she's a great girl marry her. Marriage isn't about love it's a business arraignment. Can you stomach her existence? Will she make a good business partner? Mother?
Marry her.
Excitement is for mistresses. Get some, don't get caught. Don't listen to the prudes here.
The end.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:53 pm to Fun Bunch
This thread had a lot better advice than anticipated, thanks all. 
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:57 pm to Tigerfan56
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Tigerfan56
Just tip really well at the Azn parlor today and keep the phone number 'handy' for emergencies. This should keep your mind from wandering too far off having a way for relief when needed through the daunting marriage.
Go marry that good woman Baw
Posted on 1/15/17 at 12:58 pm to SuperSaint
Let us know what you decide to do.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:11 pm to Tigerfan56
I was married 39.6 years. It is not good you are second guessing yourself. All marriages hit stale streaks. If you find yourself still wanting to play, you need to get that out of your system. My wife lost her life from burns recieved in a tragic accident. Loved her to the end. Goodluck!
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:20 pm to Tigerfan56
I held off till my mid-thirties and I really enjoyed being free and ready for whatever throughout young adulthood. But at 46 I can't imagine being single. I think after 40 you're not really single anymore. You're just alone.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:21 pm to Tigerfan56
There will always be women to hook up with but there are very few women qualified for marriage. Consider that.
We all have to accept some boredom in marriage. It happens either way but if she's loyal she's worth it.
Godspeed comrade
We all have to accept some boredom in marriage. It happens either way but if she's loyal she's worth it.
Godspeed comrade
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:26 pm to dglennLSUalways
Damn dglenn sorry for your lost 
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:34 pm to Tigerfan56
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Things just have gotten stale, no more excitement. Feels like we're already a boring married couple
This is just as much your fault as it is hers.
quote:
Sometimes I just want to be free again, to be able to hook up with other women
If you address the prior point, then this will work itself out to a large extent.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:39 pm to Tigerfan56
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Feels like we're already a boring married couple. Sometimes I just want to be free again, to be able to hook up with other women.
How do you feel to think of her hooking up with someone else? If it doesn't knot your gut, you should prob get out now.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 1:45 pm to Tigerfan56
Get out now, if you're at the point where youre questioning it on here. Went through the same thing, I was engaged for 6 months. Luckily she was the one to end it.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 2:04 pm to Tigerfan56
quote:I've been in this virtual same exact situation, 4.5 years total of dating.
The thing is, nothing about our relationship is bad. We have lived together 1.5 years, no issues. We get along perfectly, on the same page in every important aspect of life. She would be a great wife and mother. Things just have gotten stale, no more excitement. Feels like we're already a boring married couple. Sometimes I just want to be free again, to be able to hook up with other women. That's really the only reason I wouldn't want to be married. I don't know if that's a normal feeling to have or if it's an indication that I'm not ready for marriage.
It was tough but I got out, best decision I ever made. Put in another 2 years of the single life, and then realized I was ready to settle down at that point, got married and never looked back.
Not saying that's automatically what you should do. But I would say, if you can't shake that feeling, do not go through with it.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 2:06 pm to Tigerfan56
quote:Have you tried talking with her about it? Certainly not asking about bailing but just talking about how it's gotten stale and you'd like to pick up the excitement, whether that's the sex or just going out and partying, even if it's with her.
I'm 26. Most of the advice in this thread are the things that have been going through my mind. "Get out now bc of these thoughts or I'll regret it someday" and also "I love her, I'm just having cold feet. I know she'd be a great wife".
I don't know if I'm just having one of those "grass is always greener" cold feet moments or if it's a serious indication I'm not ready and would be making a mistake
Posted on 1/15/17 at 2:23 pm to Tigerfan56
If you're doubting it now just get out and don't be stuck with it. It's going to be hell doing it and telling everyone the wedding is off but you gotta do what's best for you
Posted on 1/15/17 at 2:47 pm to Tigerfan56
Its about you. No real self transcending spiritual practice.
Get your head out of ordinary.
Adidam.org
Or get into some obsession that gets you out. Fantasy sports. Total waste but you will stop looking to her for everything.
Get your head out of ordinary.
Adidam.org
Or get into some obsession that gets you out. Fantasy sports. Total waste but you will stop looking to her for everything.
This post was edited on 1/15/17 at 2:48 pm
Posted on 1/15/17 at 2:59 pm to Tigerfan56
I got married in my mid 30s, my wife was nearly 40 and never married, and it there was no indecision...we both knew. If you are not sure, then don't marry this girl and break her heart years later, possibly involving kids. You wil be at fault at frick up everyone's world.
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