re: Dudes dropping out of dating game.

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So my take is it is a chicken/egg issue...the ladies seeking this caring and thoughtful type of guy are too shallow to find someone like this because they actually aren't interested in that, then run that ilk of guy off, then bitch about not being able to find this nice type of guy. Go figure!

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I work with 95% women and I've learned more about them in the last 5 years than I'd learned in the previous 40 combined. Our work slack channel is a endless barrage of vacation pics saying where they went, what they did, who they did it with. It's almost like they're all competing, trying to one up each other.

Just my opinion, but I think there's a lot of women who primarily see the dating game/relationships as competition with other women, where the men are the trophies. I do think they want those things like thoughtfulness and caring, but not if that guy's other stats can't compete with the guys her friends are dating. Pretty cynical viewpoint, I know.

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It sounds mean but I see a lot of guys that are about 50+ who are married with kids who if they'd been born 25 years later would be online on some incel board.

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This describes my dad to a T and I say that with immense respect for him as a man and for what he accomplished. But he would have been eaten alive by these hoes today
Why I struggle to take seriously the older guys that try to weigh in on the modern dating scene. It’s not that they weren’t successful in their time or that they’re dumb or anything like that. It’s that if you haven’t lived it you have. No. Idea. how bad it is. Social media and a decade of young people having their lives shaped by the Internet has been as big a paradigm shift as the sexual revolution at 5x the pace.

You’re also spot on about the economic incentives. Way too many guys try to play by the old “husband material” playbook. Girls don’t need “husband material” anymore and frankly they don’t want it either. They want Prince Charming, they’ll put out for Johnny Badass, but they aren’t settling for Reliable Bradley anymore because they replaced him with a make-work salary.

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ust my opinion, but I think there's a lot of women who primarily see the dating game/relationships as competition with other women, where the men are the trophies. I do think they want those things like thoughtfulness and caring, but not if that guy's other stats can't compete with the guys her friends are dating. Pretty cynical viewpoint, I know.

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Dude, I think you nailed it. Especially in today's social media culture.

Women are like that all the way to the altar and beyond. They don’t give a shite how good of a person you are or how you treat them as long as they think they’re the envy of their social circle because they have you.

It’s all faugazzi. Your bank account, your wardrobe, your title at work, your pecs and your dick. As long as they think you’re killing it, you are. The real messed up part is that the easiest way to convince them that you’re killing it is by making it clear that you no longer desire them.

As a mid 30 year old who has been engaged 4 times. Dating was much better for men in my 20s. I'm not overweight or anything,but women now have inflated egos from men simping them on social media. Every now and then you find one that is level headed and isn't looking for someone to pay their way through life

I'm not quite 50 but I'm glad I was done with dating before all of this. I haven't been on a date with anyone other than my wife in over 20 years.

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This describes my dad to a T and I say that with immense respect for him as a man and for what he accomplished. But he would have been eaten alive by these hoes today

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Asked my female co worker how her and her husband met. And she was like oh we were in the same friend group. I’m just going to call this guy John. She was like yeah I didn’t even like him, I thought he was annoying. He just never stopped asking me out and after like the twentieth time I said yes.

I had to be like, hold up. So your current husband is your husband because he stalked and harassed you until you said yes? And she was like, well when you out it like that, yeah!

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It sounds mean but I see a lot of guys that are about 50+ who are married with kids who if they'd been born 25 years later would be online on some incel board. It's just that back when they were younger women didn't have nearly as many options and were much more willing to settle down.

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Wrong... us Gex Xers had the stones to say F-it and make the move.

Funny... You kids today only date online because talking to women in person "makes you feel uncomfortable and weird."

According to Pepsi we were generation next.

I’m kinda jealous of y’all since yall get to die soon

Millenials are stuck here for like 20 more years