re: Are AI Girlfriends The Future For Most Men

Dating apps do have a ton of women that are mainly just on there to get dopamine boosts from guys telling them how sexy they are, like with instagram, facebook etc.

However, there's certainly a lot that are not and the real world is filled with real women that are open to and desire real relationships.

The catch is that they probably want a relationship that's actually good and positive for them.

In general, women are more likely than men to date someone they just like a lot, who makes them feel good, regardless of physical appearance --or some staggering level of "success" .

If I were failing to attract women I was interested in, I would probably avoid deciding that it was their fault and think about what I was offering to a potential relationship.

For example, it doesn't take a psychologist to see a relation between how many relationship issues are expressed on the OT and the countess long threads here that are basically men ranting about how much they hate women (unless they're instagram hos with big tits).

So I've read this a few times trying to understand where you are coming from. Basically it seems like you have done some honest reflection and feel that since you are into sci fi and anime, that no women will dig you because all women expect something between Tom Brady and JD Vance.

I can see where this bugs you, but I think maybe you haven't been out enough talking to people without a screen. Trust me, there are women out there into anime and Sci Fi. You should find them and talk to them. Don't overthink this "owes people sex" or emotional and biological needs. The dating and reproduction thing has been working well for millions of years.

You get out there, go on some dates, use tinder or bumble (just to meet people, it is not a tool for finding long term compatibility) and start talking, maybe have a few drinks, the rest takes care of itself. As long as you realize you are like the rest of us - not as badass as Tom Brady and not as gross as Doug Townson - then you have a shot. Keep pushing man.

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So I've read this a few times trying to understand where you are coming from. Basically it seems like you have done some honest reflection and feel that since you are into sci fi and anime, that no women will dig you because all women expect something between Tom Brady and JD Vance. I can see where this bugs you, but I think maybe you haven't been out enough talking to people without a screen. Trust me, there are women out there into anime and Sci Fi. You should find them and talk to them. Don't overthink this "owes people sex" or emotional and biological needs. The dating and reproduction thing has been working well for millions of years. You get out there, go on some dates, use tinder or bumble (just to meet people, it is not a tool for finding long term compatibility) and start talking, maybe have a few drinks, the rest takes care of itself. As long as you realize you are like the rest of us - not as badass as Tom Brady and not as gross as Doug Townson - then you have a shot. Keep pushing man.

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I wouldn’t say I don’t have a shot due to my interest. I do have more traditional interests as well like traveling, hiking, sports and playing tennis (though sadly I got into a rut and haven’t played in probably 10 months).

You are right that the whole dating and reproduction thing has worked for millions of years, but has technology genuinely broken it?

The thing is I don’t have a ton of friends to hang out with. I’ve tried the whole workout thing, good for getting more in shape but really not for meeting women. Bumble is an absolutely terrible place. I’ve been on there twice before.

Some people will say approach women in person but that’s dangerous now. They aren’t attracted to you, it’s not just a courteous no. It’s literally them either laughing at you or looking at you as a complete creep, offended that you dared to even talk to them.

I don’t want to give up on having an in person girlfriend, I guess my problem is it just doesn’t seem worth it anymore. I genuinely feel like I no longer have the energy to date. There’s nothing fun to me about the dating process and shouldn’t dating be at least somewhat fun? AI girlfriends are a lot easier and actually are attainable.

Let me ask you this, would you rather date a real life woman who is a 2 or have an AI girlfriend who is a 10? What saddens me is a good part of me would prefer the AI girlfriend who is a 10. And I know that’s messed up.

I will say I understand I’m not the only one in this position. That lots of men and maybe even some women are having the same problem. So maybe AI girlfriends will come in to fill that loneliness gap. Or do you think it will just make it worse?

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The trailer of the middle class

My AI girlfriend cheated on me - whore.

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The thing is I don’t have a ton of friends to hang out with. I’ve tried the whole workout thing, good for getting more in shape but really not for meeting women.

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Working out is to BE in shape, as you'll typically increase your chances if you're in good shape.

I agree approaching women these days isn't like it was unless you're a good looking guy. I haven't been in the dating game for a while so it hard to know what it feels like, but I think your best bet is to find some clubs or something.

Running clubs, book clubs, whatever the hell people do in a regular gathering takes away the awkwardness of having to cold approach women. And they know they already have a common interest with you.

Even something like crossfit, for how cultish it is, those people become very close.

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Some people will say approach women in person but that’s dangerous now. They aren’t attracted to you, it’s not just a courteous no. It’s literally them either laughing at you or looking at you as a complete creep, offended that you dared to even talk to them.

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So, I haven’t “dated” in over two decades so take this with a grain of salt, but what are you doing/saying that gets this reaction?

Forget about “game” or “riz” or any of that stuff. Simply have a conversation with another human being with no expectations other than getting to know her. That’s something everyone knows how to do, so try that.

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Let me ask you this, would you rather date a real life woman who is a 2 or have an AI girlfriend who is a 10? What saddens me is a good part of me would prefer the AI girlfriend who is a 10. And I know that’s messed up.

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It’s not as “messed up” as it is simply untrue. It’s a feeling. Feelings are valid. They also lie.

You want a real woman. Even an AI 100 isn’t going to measure up to that and you know that.

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The more threads I read on here about women I see no alternate course

I think I would welcome an AI gf over the current monsters that are the female species

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The "Vote for Kamala because she is a WOMAN" is pathetic. Woman have been taught that they are inferior, by politics and the mainstream media, when, if fact, if a man snags a good one, who isn't unhinged, he is elated, because he found a partner, one who doesn't frivolously spend and takes care of his needs and the home. Men are generally practical. Women are to serve, be wives, mothers. It is our nature.

I don’t think you are going to find a girlfriend on the apps.

Get off the apps.

You have to meet women in person, the old fashioned way. From what people tell me, the women on the apps are not serious. If they land a too 20%, great, if not, no loss for them.

When they get serious, it will change.