Death/Funeral timeline

Are your friends black? If so, they have to wait for their Autie to get down from Chicargo and cousins over from Hurston

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What’s changed?

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Larger # of people dying (compare obit pages from the 80s to current).

Also, contraction in industry.

Whites- three days
blacks- 10+ days, or until they turn White.
At least thats what i was told growing up

I don't know but it sucks. Pops unexpectedly died on a Friday and Mom wanted to wait until the next Saturday (pops was well respected, we knew there would be lots of visitors) so no one had to miss work. Which I understand the why, but that was the hardest week of work I've ever had. Told my wife to put me in the ground before I get cold and start grieving.

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Are your friends black?

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Legit question. Funerals are closely tied to cultural and religious rules in various cultures. Blacks like to “funeralize” (a term I have heard used) where they go all out and that takes time to set up. Event spaces, flowers, cars and limos, food, etc. So they usually wait a week or more to have the event. Muslims / Arabs / Middle Easteners / Jews like to put their people in the ground (no cremations!) within 24 hours. Islam even directs a 3 day mourning period for direct family and a specified period of four months and 10 days for a widow. It’s all dependent and in the U.S. largely driven by the funeral home business which is a multi billion dollar affair. Bunch of blood suckers if you ask me. Increasingly you see these businesses pushing to have the funeral events at their facilities and that leads to scheduling issues and delays which is why you might see a lag between death and event.

In the old days, you had a short grave side internment and then a wake at the family home. Possibly something at the family’s church if they had a local one. Recently the funerals I have been to take place at the funeral home facility. I hate those places. They all look the same and remind me of a cheap motel with the paint schemes and cheap furniture.

I told my family to throw me in the ground and open a bar tab at my local pub with the money they would have spent on a funeral.

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Did you know that the best salesman for a crematorium is called the "Top Urner"?

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, a former captain of a nuclear sub that died in 1990 from brain cancer.

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Checks out

Just my anecdotal experience, others may vary:

When our Son died, Shelby County had an issue with us logistically moving his body from the hospital to the cremation provider. The issue was that while we had a death certificate, that was the only thing we had. No birth certificate from the state yet and no social yet. It took weeks to get both, which delayed the funeral. Administrative state bullshite that infuriates me to no end.

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What has changed in the funeral industry in recent years that the amount of time between the death and the funeral has increased?

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a while back, I was wondering this as well. I can think of a few reasons for it, but none of them are really valid. I suppose it really depends on priorities and preferences of the next of kin.

My dad died on a Saturday and having it 6 days later was really pushing it IMO. We didn't know until Monday morning what the funeral home's availability was, so that is basically giving everyone from out of town not much notice to make plans to get there. We picked Friday because the funeral home was jammed the next day. A lot of people couldn't make it there.

One my best friends chose to do a ceremony for his dad like a month later when everyone could attend.