re: Help on my weight loss goals

You can probably still do it while drinking but you have to fix everything else. Can't have it both ways. Start meal prepping and eat better quality foods. Track them if you can. Get a gym membership and follow a program. On the weekends when you know you're going to drink, restrict your calories a little more throughout the day. Give up cokes and any other liquid calories. Drink straight liquor instead of beer. Keep it to one night a week at first and then try to drop down to drinking one night every other week.

If you cant do that then just get absolutely tanked to the point that you throw it all up in the morning and lose the desire to drink

You are underestimating his beer intake. Look at the FBD thread history. He needs a hard stop.

No mention of sleep, sunlight and hydration.

All foundational to your objectives.

Then right foods (cut the processed stuff, beer!) at right amounts at right time of day.

Find movement t that is fun and intense to burn more calories than consume consistently.

Have found:
Less total time and more intensity works best
No processed foods works best
If alcohol, no beer. More calories came from weakness created by buzz. Less is more here. If gonna alcohol, might be better to hard liquor than beer. Margs and daiquiris are ridiculous calories per ounces.
Win the war by not missing exercise vs going hard now and again.
Sleep! Sunlight! Hydration! Make all above easier.
And, throw scale to bottom of successs measurement. Clothes size and feedback from your hair stylist (occasional) worth far more than scale.

Good luck!

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The easiest way would be to cut out alcohol completely, but alas, no.

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Never thought I could do it either. But here I am. 159 days today. In February 2025, I was 229 pounds (5'11" for those asking). This morning, the scale read 174.

There are no secrets, just habits. You can't out exercise a bad diet. Eat real foods and cut back on the beers. I'm not going to tell you to drink whiskey instead of beer, because that was not sustainable for an alcoholic like me. In fact, it was worse for my overall health.

Eat less, move more works. Be active. Park in the back of the parking lot. Take the stairs. Go for more walks. Watch your portions. Eat lean meats, seafood, fruits and veggies. If you have to get your food out of a box (i.e. Red Baron pizza), it's not going to help your weight loss.

Cutting out the alcohol didn't immediately cause the pounds to drop off. But it certainly has helped me create a lifestyle that supports losing weight and being healthy. I have much more energy now than I used to, and that allows me to be more active, which in turn helps me lose the weight. I actually haven't been able to exercise like I want to over the last 4-5 months due to some nagging injuries. Yet, here I am at 49 years old approaching my 35 year old self's marathon runnner weight.

I get it, you may not be mentally ready to kick the beer habit. It held me back for years. I wanted to enjoy my double IPAs. They're delicious. But only after I gave it all up was I able to see it for what it is: poison that's slowly killing me. I have zero regrets giving up alcohol, and almost 6 months into this journey, I love my life now.

When you're ready to do it, reach out and talk to people. There are more of us than you realize.

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BMoney

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good job, dude, genuinley happy for you.

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I get it, you may not be mentally ready to kick the beer habit. It held me back for years. I wanted to enjoy my double IPAs. They're delicious. But only after I gave it all up was I able to see it for what it is: poison that's slowly killing me. I have zero regrets giving up alcohol, and almost 6 months into this journey, I love my life now.

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This is kind of where I'm at right now. I enjoy the hell out of beer and whiskey. I was a daily drinker for 10+ years but now I usually have around 6 drinks on the weekend. It's enough to remind me how sh*tty I felt all the time when drinking daily. I need to cut it out completely. Like you said, it's poison. There is no reason to drink other than that you want to drink. I have no problem with not drinking during the week when I'm really structured with my time. On weekends when I'm doing whatever I want it gets tough to not have a few here and there.

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Cutting out the alcohol didn't immediately cause the pounds to drop off.

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I think this is the part that is discouraging to some folks, we all want immediate results.

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I was the same for a very long time. I'd go through periods of "cut back", then the daily drinking would creep back in. I finally decided to give it up completely because like you said, I starting seeing it for what it is. I asked myself "is this really doing anything positive for me?" The answer was always no. I'm 444 days since my last drink. The first couple of weeks were pretty difficult, but then it got easier. Now I don't even think about it. The difference in my quality of life is significant. It was like a rebirth.

If anyone is seriously considering giving up alcohol, I wholeheartedly endorse it.

On top of everything else you said, the only thing I would add is prioritize sleep. Getting a good night sleep is the second best life changing decision I've made since giving up alcohol. And giving up alcohol significantly improved my sleep quality.

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I wish I could upvote this more than once.

The answer to "is this really doing anything positive for me?" was always no, but I didn't want to listen. I negotiated and bargained with myself constantly. I can cut back. I don't have to drink. Just on the weekends. I was scared to quit. What was I going to do? What would friends think? Would it be weird?

The answer is no. Nobody cares that you don't drink. If anything, I've gotten a lot of compliments about how strong I must be to be able to stop. Sure, it takes willpower. But after a couple months, it gets so much easier.

Can’t you just enjoy 1 beer?

I have actually cut back on beer, too. I cut out all weekday drinking and save it for Friday or Saturday. I still have a few (mainly Ghost, unless I go to a brewery), but I try to check them in as well. Last weekend, despite multiple beers, I stuck with a grilled chicken sandwich for lunch and didn't eat the bread, and then for supper, I did turkey tacos on carb balance tortillas. It isn't a perfect diet, but my goal on the weekends is to stay under 3000 calories and have at least 120-150g of protein, while still being active, getting my steps in, and doing a morning workout.

I know drinking is an obstacle and probably should cut it like B Money, although I like it, and like I said, I have cut back and track. The biggest thing is that I have continued doing what I was doing, and I have lost a significant amount of weight over the last 9 months. Here lately, it hasn't been coming off as quickly, and I have been stuck in that 250-255 range for over a month.

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I know drinking is an obstacle and probably should cut it like B Money, although I like it

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Have you considered that you have a drinking problem?