Unwanted Sexual Advance - Please Define and/or Explain

Chick thinks you're good looking or rich - not harassment.

Chick thinks you're ugly or poor - you're screwed.

Are you that socially incompetent to not know the answer to this?

An unwanted sexual advance is any compliment or "pass" made by a man she does not want to bang.

One of about four things.

1. Overly aggressive / offensive
2. Incompatible orientation
3. They are attached
4. Pursuer is ugly

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OK, so, what is an unwanted sexual advance? So, a guy tells a lady she looks nice or he'd like to do the deal, is that it? So if she agrees it's OK? If not, she runs to the media? I am confused. Glad my wife finally gave in after I chased her for a year. In today's world, do men have to wait around until a female approaches him and says "well, I think it would be OK for you to ask me out?" I really am confused on how you youngsters are going to avoid being labeled somehow.

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I think almost everyone can agree this thing has gotten way out of hand. But as someone who's had to live in a relatively more restrictive work environment--start with the fact that it's about 80-95% male and there isn't going to be an abundance of attractive, available, sane women most anywhere you're assigned in DoD, and add to that the fact that there are a bunch of rules to navigate about who can date whom according to rank, position, type of command relationship etc--and you come up with one simple solution:

Don't screw around in the workplace.

Even when it's 100% legal, consensual, and accepted by your office and colleagues, there's still a good chance that mixing your work life and your romantic life is eventually going to hit some snags. Of course men and women tend to glom to people with similar backgrounds, interests, and careers, which makes the office an ideal place to meet a mate on your level. But the risks involved aren't worth it. I've seen it go bad more than the other way around. And that makes sense when you consider the fact that the overwhelming majority of relationships don't end in marriage unto death. So at some point, odds are your workplace relationship is going to break down, and when it does it can go nuclear (at home and at work) in pretty short order.

So if you're looking for somewhere to plant your wang, just don't do it at the place you clock in. Even then, if you must, don't do it with a subordinate or anyone you're in a position to help or hurt.

I don't think it's ever a problem to ask a woman if she wants to: 1) get a drink / go out to eat / go to an event. (*as long as you know she's not in a relationship, or if you're good enough friends that asking her to go would not be construed as anything but as a friend.)

If she says no, accept it without insult, and don't bother trying to justify to her why you thought it would be a good idea (which shows your own discomfort at the rejection). Just say something along the lines of "no problem" or "if you change your mind, let me know", then pivot to another topic or to what you're leaving to do now if context suggests you should leave. Ex: After she says no to dinner, you might reply, "It's cool. I'm gonna step out and get a bite for lunch while I can. If you need any help with your project, feel free to give me a ring. See you later/tomorrow."

As long as you're not too awkward in rejection, she's not likely to feed on your awkwardness and feed badly about it... which in hindsight will make the situation look worse to her than what it was.

Obviously, if you ask a woman something more sexually suggestive than dinner/drinks, then you should know your audience because that can easily be construed into something negative.

Regarding compliments, it shouldn't be a problem to say something like, "that's a really pretty dress / shoes" or comment that something she has is cool in some way or another as long as you're not being lechy. Women generally appreciate those kinds of compliments, and they might implicity understand that you're saying they look good, but you're being respectful and not objectifying them directly. You risk crossing the comfort line if you say "YOU look good." Again, if you know your audience, saying this might not be a problem either, but in my mind, that's where it might turn gray.

TLDR summary:
1) If you're lechy, they'll perceive it and better to keep your mouth shut.
2) If you can compliment them without shining the light directly on them, almost always okay. (barring someone who is outright crazy)
3) If you can take rejection and be cool about it, she will feel less bad about it too.

Times have changed my friend. Doubt the ladies are going to like it much.

Take me for example:




My old car




My new car

These latest examples are far more than just asking if or complimenting someone. The relative positions of the parties matter, e.g., superviser/employee, etc.

this reminds me of a lame arse low budget terrible movie called "cherry 2000" with melanie griffin

the guy has a robot sex slave who breaks down and he wants a new one so they go on a trek to find the same exact model out in the desert somewhere.

anyway, in the movie, before he decides to go find another robot girl, he goes to a bar to find a real woman for sex and finds rows of lawyers there he must negotiate with ahead of time to form a legally binding contract of what he can and cant talk about and touch.

basically he agrees to be a sex tool for the women and if they arent satisfied he pays a financial penalty and gets branded as a non performer on his "state ID" or something but the jist of it is, he isnt allowed to talk to a woman without a signed contract she agrees to ahead of time or he gets arrested for a sex crime. she will get his full sex history and rating as well as a financial report on him and list of who he had sex with and if they were satisfied, but he gets no info at all on the girl. he says screw it, he rather have the fake robot lol.

this was a stupid movie, but damn if it doesnt sound like exactly where we are heading

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OK, so, what is an unwanted sexual advance?

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It can only be judged from the perspective of 40 years of reflection and an keen analysis of how in can influence an upcoming election.

Until the iron gets hot enough there is no reason to strike it.

Just another arrow in the quiver of smear tactics employed by the prog/DEM/MSM cabal.