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re: Did you live with your spouse before marriage? Would you recommend it?
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
Live in sin now to avoid the sin of divorce later. If you don't go through a week of no power post-hurricane together do you really know each other
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Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
Recommend it? It should be mandatory.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
yes. i think its incredibly important. living with someone is a completely different dynamic. why would you now want to make sure you are compatible on the level before married?
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
It's probably not a direct correlation but my first wife and I did not and our marriage lasted two and a half years.
My second, and current, wife did and we're approaching 27 years.
So I would definitely recommend it
My second, and current, wife did and we're approaching 27 years.
So I would definitely recommend it
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:00 pm to Thundercles
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Did you live with your spouse before marriage?
Yes
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Would you recommend it?
Yes, we were both broke as hell but when we pooled our resources it was slightly better. Also you find out a lot more about someone when living together.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:03 pm to Gifman
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I highly advise before marriage. You find out a lot after you move in together.
Honestly, if you don't know enough by the time she moves in that might be a problem. Just my opinion.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:04 pm to Thundercles
Yes and yes.
Don't know someone until you co-habitate. Have several examples of friends that did this and it ended the relationship. Glad to find that out before marriage.
Don't know someone until you co-habitate. Have several examples of friends that did this and it ended the relationship. Glad to find that out before marriage.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:04 pm to jizzle6609
Yes but we were both in our 50s.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:06 pm to Thundercles
Yes and yes. It may not be for everyone but by the time my wife and I were married we had seen one another at our very worse and there was nothing shocking we did not already know. We have been married for 31 years and lived together for 5 before marriage. We would have probably made it had we not lived together because in that 5 years there was nothing shocking about either one of us that we discovered, we were pretty much ourselves with one another from about the third date on (she farted on our third date when I was helping her move a new couch into her apartment). From that moment on we were pretty much ourselves, good, bad and indifferent.
Edited to add - We knew each other about 6 weeks before we went on a date. Had sex on our first date, the slut LOL. That was her company Christmas Party so early to mid December. We moved in together in late January and have spent nearly every night since together. So we knew each other for 6 weeks, started banging one another and about 6 weeks later moved in together..and have been together every since. Probably not typical but it has worked for us....
Edited to add - We knew each other about 6 weeks before we went on a date. Had sex on our first date, the slut LOL. That was her company Christmas Party so early to mid December. We moved in together in late January and have spent nearly every night since together. So we knew each other for 6 weeks, started banging one another and about 6 weeks later moved in together..and have been together every since. Probably not typical but it has worked for us....
This post was edited on 11/15/23 at 1:11 pm
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:07 pm to jizzle6609
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Honestly, if you don't know enough by the time she moves in that might be a problem. Just my opinion.
You learn so much more living with someone than you do even staying together a lot. You don't get breaks from each other. You come home after long days of work and are with each other. You deal with decorating (sounds small, it's not), you deal with chores together, etc.
It's a whole different level of knowing a person.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:07 pm to Thundercles
Yes, we did
No, I wouldn't
Practically, it made a lot of sense. We'd been friends for years then dated for years and it was stupid to live separately when our lives were pretty much built together. But the correct answer to this question for me was "we probably should have just gotten married sooner."
No, I wouldn't
Practically, it made a lot of sense. We'd been friends for years then dated for years and it was stupid to live separately when our lives were pretty much built together. But the correct answer to this question for me was "we probably should have just gotten married sooner."
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:08 pm to MyRockstarComplex
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That’s a sin in the eyes of our Lord
Good thing is that he forgives sin, right?
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:09 pm to Thundercles
Of course
But I am not religious
But I am not religious
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:09 pm to Thundercles
Did for a year. Worked out a lot of issues before saying I do.
No matter how close you think you are, nothing simulates the challenges of living and running a household together.
No matter how close you think you are, nothing simulates the challenges of living and running a household together.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:09 pm to Thundercles
1000% recommend it.
You do NOT know someone through and through until you live together.
You do NOT know someone through and through until you live together.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:10 pm to Thundercles
Data shows co-habiting before marriage indicates a higher chance of divorce.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:14 pm to CatfishJohn
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You learn so much more living with someone than you do even staying together a lot. You don't get breaks from each other. You come home after long days of work and are with each other. You deal with decorating (sounds small, it's not), you deal with chores together, etc.
It's a whole different level of knowing a person.
I mean, if you are truly in love, would those little things make you break it off?
Thats all I'm saying.
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:17 pm to tiggerthetooth
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Data shows co-habiting before marriage indicates a higher chance of divorce.
Is it possible that those who don't cohabitate before marriage are uber religious and therefore unlikely to ever get a divorce, no matter how bad the marriage is?
Posted on 11/15/23 at 1:17 pm to Thundercles
Did not even though his parents encouraged it.
No issues once we married and moved in together.
I would not presume to advise others.
I can say that moving ten hours away from both of our families the first couple of years was helpful. Learned to be our own family quickly.
No issues once we married and moved in together.
I would not presume to advise others.
I can say that moving ten hours away from both of our families the first couple of years was helpful. Learned to be our own family quickly.
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