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Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:20 pm to Daygo85
As I’ve gotten older, I realize that dealing with people is just exhausting. I actually enjoy the peace and quiet.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:20 pm to jdd48
I've lost a lot of friends to to death and moving for work.
Also, I just don't have the time anymore taking care of my family.
Also, I just don't have the time anymore taking care of my family.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:24 pm to Daygo85
It's true.
I remember in my mid-30s to early 40s I enjoyed seeing friends, going to their house or coming to mine for beer and drinks until 2-3 am.
I'm almost 50 now and I guess once in a blue moon is ok. But I honestly enjoy more staying home and awake late one evening watching Netflix or listening to concerts- alone.
One of my college friends is 47 y.o., never married and no kid. The guy thinks he's still 28 and sometimes invites us to a local bar with karaoke. He's being quiet lately b/c I am sure that he got tired of inviting friends to go out to the bar since all of us have kids and nobody desires to go.
Also, one of my best friends during my teenage years made it in life (self made millionaire) and turned out to be a selective a*hole. Saw him by coincidence at a restaurant months ago and told him, hey let's go for a drink or gtg one of these days. His reply was 'hey you're in a different stage in your life' (he meant I have a 7 y.o. son and I do kids stuff) and his kids are almost 20. Felt like telling him FY then!
I remember in my mid-30s to early 40s I enjoyed seeing friends, going to their house or coming to mine for beer and drinks until 2-3 am.
I'm almost 50 now and I guess once in a blue moon is ok. But I honestly enjoy more staying home and awake late one evening watching Netflix or listening to concerts- alone.
One of my college friends is 47 y.o., never married and no kid. The guy thinks he's still 28 and sometimes invites us to a local bar with karaoke. He's being quiet lately b/c I am sure that he got tired of inviting friends to go out to the bar since all of us have kids and nobody desires to go.
Also, one of my best friends during my teenage years made it in life (self made millionaire) and turned out to be a selective a*hole. Saw him by coincidence at a restaurant months ago and told him, hey let's go for a drink or gtg one of these days. His reply was 'hey you're in a different stage in your life' (he meant I have a 7 y.o. son and I do kids stuff) and his kids are almost 20. Felt like telling him FY then!
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:25 pm to Daygo85
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Why do men become so non-social as they age?
I'm in my 30s and have been non-social for a while. The reason is because I noticed a few years back that the majority of people are selfish, jealous of anything you have and will talk shite about you no matter what.
I keep to myself and have way more fun at home with my wife/kids than going to gatherings. No desire to be in the middle of drama.
This post was edited on 4/19/22 at 4:26 pm
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:27 pm to Pettifogger
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It's amazing to me how many people in my generation crave what our parents seemed to develop so much more easily - a handful of very good family friends. People in your neighborhood who you'd trust your kids with, go on vacation with, etc. I'd go so far as to say people are desperate for it. People crave genuine community and it's in short supply.
Well said. This applies to me honestly and was one of the reasons I moved back home to Monroe when I got a job opportunity there in 2018 and I was picking up the pieces of a flooded home after Hurricane Harvey in 2017 in Houston. I know most people on here shite on Monroe and by all accounts it is warranted but there is a solid connection of mostly Monroe but lots of NE LA Christian based guys that are all connected through a men's retreat program that sprouted out of the Catholic church there. It has connected lots of guys and families in the last several years and it truly amazes me the bond that we all share. It is something that has literally blown me away. Even better is a few of my closet buddies are actively involved and honestly, I crave that kind of connection with guys I have known since childhood.
I still go back and do retreats. I gave my testimony at the last Methodist retreat in February after I survived almost dying from Covid last year. It meant a lot to me and means a lot to me to be around a great group of guys trying to help others build a relationship with Jesus. I also still hit bible study through Zoom with the guys on Monday afternoons and could literally make one every other night if I wanted to from other churches in Monroe that have splintered off and done their own retreats.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:27 pm to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
quote:Think about going to the beach at 45 with three guy friends. Look like either pervs or gay.
Dudes hanging out together looks kind of gay when you get to a certain age
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:29 pm to Jake88
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Think about going to the beach at 45 with three guy friends. Look like either pervs or gay.
Exactly. I received 35 downvotes for my comment . I guess we have a lot of figs in here.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:33 pm to Daygo85
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by age 40 those numbers have dwindled and in some cases are non-existent
Wife and kids take up all your free time
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:35 pm to Daygo85
Men don’t socialize for no reason. A lot of social events are designed around finding someone to f$&k. Once you’re married, you no longer have that reason. If you work a lot, and have a family, that time not spent at work is expected to be spent with family, not friends. Thus, watching a game and eating wings at a sports bar with buds becomes helping jr. with his homework. Fishing or golf on a Saturday becomes t-ball practice and dance recitals.
Also, as you get older, it’s harder to make new friends outside of work or children based activities. So, as your old friends become wrapped up in their family responsibilities or move away, there’s fewer people available to plan events with. Men eventually accept this and withdraw into themselves or rage against it and become the creepy old man at the bar still trying to flirt with 20 year-olds.
Also, as you get older, it’s harder to make new friends outside of work or children based activities. So, as your old friends become wrapped up in their family responsibilities or move away, there’s fewer people available to plan events with. Men eventually accept this and withdraw into themselves or rage against it and become the creepy old man at the bar still trying to flirt with 20 year-olds.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:37 pm to Daygo85
Life sucks after 40 and so do people.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:38 pm to Daygo85
frick people.
(That's why.
)
(That's why.
)
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:44 pm to Daygo85
Honestly i have no problem saying I like my “ME” time the more I age. I love my family and my life but I like to go surfing, flying my drone, or working in shop by MYSELF. Now GET OFF MY frickING LAWN!!!
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:44 pm to Daygo85
I can attest to that. I spend time with my kids, work, hunt and fish. Rarely see any of my old friends. I really enjoy hunting and fishing with my sons and my brother but I'm just as content doing it alone.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:46 pm to jdd48
I like to keep tight circles. Less drama and you know who you can count on.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:49 pm to Daygo85
Experience.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:53 pm to Reservoir dawg
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Life sucks after 40
Not sure if you’re being serious but most people I know who are married, single, widowed or divorced all said their 40’s and 50’s are awesome
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:59 pm to Legion of Doom
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I confess. I’m about to turn 53 and I get more cranky as the years go by.
I'm 69 now and not so much more cranky, just way more comfortable not dealing with people in general.
I do have my circle of friends, but over the years it's gotten smaller and smaller and I don't really feel the need to see them as often as I once did.
I'm way more comfortable being alone and not bothered with others.
This post was edited on 4/19/22 at 5:03 pm
Posted on 4/19/22 at 4:59 pm to MWP
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based guys that are all connected through a men's retreat program that sprouted out of the Catholic church there. It has connected lots of guys and families in the last several years and it truly amazes me the bond that we all share. It is something that has literally blown me away. Even better is a few of my closet buddies are actively involved and honestly, I crave that kind of connection with guys I have known since childhood.
Churches and church related activities are nearly always geared towards families/women. As a man/father once your kids are no longer in the church (usually happens around 13 for many kids because the church is a socialization tool) then the family side ends and the women hang around years later.
Posted on 4/19/22 at 5:00 pm to Paul Allen
The longer you live the more this world beats you up. I love conversating with people but if they're just stupid I'd rather stick toothpicks in my eyes.
Arrogant middle aged folks are THE worst. They can't figure out to simply be themselves rather than wearing the mask of something else they are NOT. IT's OK to be YOU!
Arrogant middle aged folks are THE worst. They can't figure out to simply be themselves rather than wearing the mask of something else they are NOT. IT's OK to be YOU!
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