re: Sad news regarding los_angeles_tiger

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It was important to him that he be perceived as a good man who happened to be gay and not a good gay who happened to be a man. Not to be disrespectful of Toddy whom I also like tremendously, but he was really the anti-Toddy. He did NOT want to be defined by his sexuality. I agreed with him and respected him for it.

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He had a love hate relationship with me on here. We got into some huge arguments but we always "made up".

I am very surprised that he had a partner. Out of respect for him, I'm not going to rehash a lot but he definitely insinuated that he was no longer gay. He talked about it in an almost tortured way.

The news of his passing has absolutely devastated me even though we never met in real life. We had made it a point that we would meet up whenever I made it out to LA again.

This is just so so sad.

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Yeah, the partner thing throws me too.

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He had a partner when I went to visit him in 2006. The partner was not home at the time but he showed me pictures of them.

I really respected that guy - he never made an issue of sexuality. He argued points on their merits and he despised the 'gay-activist' movement.

I am so sorry he is gone. I had noticed his absence in the past few weeks. I always made a point to read anything he said.

I will miss him tremendously.

Sad news for sure.

I read the first few pages, but didn't see a reason for what happened. Has this been noted yet?

This is terrible news. I remember him from long ago back in the early TD days of 2004 and 2005.

I'd just like to address two points:

1) he was not conflicted with his sexuality in any way. He had a partner for years and was open about it only if you asked. It didn't define him.
2) He was not conflicted with his faith either. What bothered him was the gay movement and what it was doing to fundamentally change his church. We discussed it via email many times. It tore him apart.

That's really sad to hear, especially considering his presumed youth based on the OP.

R.I.P. los_angeles_tiger.

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I'm not going to rehash a lot but he definitely insinuated that he was no longer gay

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Subject for another time, but I never saw that. Ever.

Rest in Peace. Sorry to hear we lost a great man.

Y'all take care if yourselves and those close.

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I'd just like to address two points: 1) he was not conflicted with his sexuality in any way. He had a partner for years and was open about it only if you asked. It didn't define him. 2) He was not conflicted with his faith either. What bothered him was the gay movement and what it was doing to fundamentally change his church. We discussed it via email many times. It tore him apart.

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Yeah, I remember quite a few comments he made to that effect, and conversations I had with him in his faith and the direction he saw the gay movement going. He was always consistent, and I respected the guy a ton for that. In my estimation, los_angeles_tiger was the real deal. That is to say that he was an open, honest, and candid man. I think he thought deliberately, weighed everything, and stood upon what he believed to be true rather than just fall lock step in line with the easy path that wouldn't make so many waves. And judging from the pictures, it looks like he really enjoyed life, and was a happy man. I only wish I could have met the guy IRL. I have a gut feeling we would have become friends. He really seemed like a character.

holy cow...what sad news.

RIP charles AKA los_angeles_tiger.

the very best wishes to your family and friends.