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re: Why is it socially acceptable to be “terrible with names”?

Posted on 11/8/25 at 9:48 am to
Posted by PowerTool
The dark side of the road
Member since Dec 2009
22786 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 9:48 am to
You're not as important as you think you are.
Posted by SallysHuman
Lady Palmetto Bug
Member since Jan 2025
12005 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 9:48 am to
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If you forget a name your social skills are lacking.


Or maybe someone has a lot on their mind, or they're sick, or they are older, or any number of things that have little to do with social skills.

Or maybe their social skills ARE lacking and it's something they can't really do a lot about because everyone is wired differently.

I'm not great with names- and if I am making extra effort to pin your face and name together, chances are I won't hear much else you've said.
Posted by gumbo2176
Member since May 2018
19158 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 9:51 am to
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Just wait until you don't give a violent, mentally ill progressive their correct pronoun. You are in for a real treat. Can't wait to read your OP then.



I've found a very good way to remedy that. I just tune out if they start conversations with, "My pronouns are"-----------------I end the conversation because I'm not listening to any bullshite that comes out your mouth.
This post was edited on 11/8/25 at 10:02 am
Posted by meeple
Carcassonne
Member since May 2011
10744 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:01 am to
My go-to solution…

Me: “Hey what was your name?”

Doug: “Doug.”

Me: “No, Doug I meant your last name.”

Doug: “Las.”

Me: “I really thought I grew up with someone with that last name but maybe not.”


Posted by BamaCoaster
God's Gulf
Member since Apr 2016
6542 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:03 am to
I am awful with names.
I have the memory of a jellyfish.
It’s laughable.

HOWEVER, when I had my insurance agency and had roughly 3k clients, I could remember their addresses, their premiums, what kind of cars they had, etc. it was nothing short of amazing.

Point being, I think when people are incentivized, for whatever reasons (be they selfish, monetary, altruistic, etc), memory steps up.
Posted by TulsaSooner78
Member since Aug 2025
685 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:06 am to
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You talk with someone new, introduce yourself to them and they do the same. Later in the function that person will say what is your name again. I was talking to you and told you my name, listen better please. Don’t just zone out when I talk to you. I used to not care about this but I am growing increasingly less tolerant of this. One time I told a person my name twice and I still got a “what is your name again” later in the function. Like what the heck lol.


Posted by tigerbaiter
Member since Dec 2006
615 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:10 am to
Who are you again?
Posted by F1y0n7h3W4LL
Below I-10
Member since Jul 2019
3458 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:19 am to
Zat choo, Mr. Garvey?


Posted by UtahCajun
Member since Jul 2021
2718 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:21 am to
That all sounds like a you problem.
Posted by Saint Alfonzo
Member since Jan 2019
27699 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:25 am to
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You talk with someone new, introduce yourself to them and they do the same. Later in the function that person will say what is your name again. I was talking to you and told you my name, listen better please. Don’t just zone out when I talk to you. I used to not care about this but I am growing increasingly less tolerant of this.

I'm terrible at remembering names. Lots of people are. At a social event, there's no way I'm remembering the names of a dozen people I just met.

quote:

One time I told a person my name twice and I still got a “what is your name again” later in the function. Like what the heck lol.

Maybe you're just a forgettable person.
Posted by GetMeOutOfHere
Member since Aug 2018
997 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:28 am to
The fact that you worry about this so much tells me already that you are a try-hard.
Posted by rintintin
Life is Life
Member since Nov 2008
16940 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:29 am to
I forget peoples names who I see regularly. It's not purposeful and I legitimately try to be better at it but I'm not good at it.

My fiancè on the other hand will remember someone randomly we met for 2 min.

Some people's brains are just wired to remember certain things better than others.
Posted by GRTiger
On a roof eating alligator pie
Member since Dec 2008
68643 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:44 am to
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meeple


This guy networks
Posted by QJenk
Atl, Ga
Member since Jan 2013
17048 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:45 am to
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If someone can't remember your name in the same conversation, you're not important to them at all


If I've met you exactly one time. Then no, you aren't that important to me. That's nothing personal. It's just realistic. Do you have any idea how many people in life I've met one time?
Posted by TexasTiger33
Member since Feb 2022
13963 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:46 am to
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Do you have any idea how many people in life I've met one time?
Posted by GreenRockTiger
vortex to the whirlpool of despair
Member since Jun 2020
57662 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 10:51 am to
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Later in the function that person will say what is your name again
and I’ll give that person another name

Because I’m obviously not worth remembering so who cares

Plus I hate ppl
Posted by Lou Loomis
A pond. Ponds good for you.
Member since Mar 2025
879 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 11:13 am to
I wanna punch someone when they say that to me. It’s the same as saying you’re not important enough to remember. It’s so rude and low class.
Posted by JEC119
Alabama
Member since Apr 2024
2077 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 11:22 am to
Posted by Warfox
B.R. Native (now in MA)
Member since Apr 2017
3719 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 11:24 am to
OMG who even cares?!?
Posted by Zap Rowsdower
MissLou, La
Member since Sep 2010
15447 posts
Posted on 11/8/25 at 11:31 am to
I’m sorry. Who are you again? I recognize your avi but can’t place your name to save my life.
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