re: Where would you rank sex in the greatest things life has to offer?

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all joking aside, if my husband keeled over tomorrow, my 53 year old self would not be out chasing the D. I wouldn't even be thinking about D. I'd be sleeping unfondled on crisp, fart free sheets holding the remote.

That said, I understand its importance to him and try to do my best. ;-)

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I appreciate the honesty, and your post really did make me laugh.

With the right partner, it cannot be beat. Period. End of story. LOL

UNDEFEATED

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Sometimes we'll be arguing, over ultimately stupid things, and words get said and feelings get hurt. Might not even speak to each other during the day. But at night when we lay down together...eventually, even if she's mad, she'll come get into her spot in the crook of my arm and shoulder. The spot she's earned, and put up with a lot more than any woman should for. And somewhere in that spot the anger fades and...well.

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You’ve just given a perfect example of my point. Communication isn’t always verbal in nature. Every single dispute doesn’t need to be talked about to come through to the other side back where things are ‘right’ again. And clearly y’all have very healthy communication in your marriage to not major on the minors.

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if my husband keeled over tomorrow, my 53 year old self would not be out chasing the D. I wouldn't even be thinking about D. I'd be sleeping unfondled on crisp, fart free sheets holding the remote.

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Post sexual women make me shudder. Nothing personal, I'm sure you are a lovely woman, but Good Lord your poor undesired and devalued husband.

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Low T in men is a seriously under-diagnosed disease . It can strike at pretty much any age. It makes you feel like shite, and definitely makes you not care about sex.

I think a lot of these guys issues are also compounded by their wives that are also uninterested in sex.

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Right. I’m in my late 40s too, and I can’t imagine not wanting it. I’m just as horny now as I was 20 years ago. The only thing that age has done to me so far is affect how often I can do it per day. I can perhaps stretch it to two times a day now, whereas I’d try for 5 or 6 times a day 20 years ago if I could.

She's stuck with me going on 7 years now

We get married in September. Just to make it legal. She's my wife in all but name and fought tooth and nail, in spite of my hard head and my nature, for that spot.

There are times we can't stand each other, that's for sure. Habits the other one can stand. Annoyances about.

But we don't go to sleep mad. Every storm we've faced, we've somehow made it through.

Before her I'd given up. I was bitter and jaded and was just gonna be content banging random bar sloots and being alone.

She changed all that in spite of my protestations.

So for baws who've had your heart destroyed...let it go. Love is a many-splendored thing. It'll last a lot longer than lust.

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all joking aside, if my husband keeled over tomorrow, my 53 year old self would not be out chasing the D. I wouldn't even be thinking about D. I'd be sleeping unfondled on crisp, fart free sheets holding the remote.

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I would not be chasing it necessarily at my age but I am not going to go without either.

We sleep Victorian style (separate bedrooms) due to my health issues so when he comes knocking at my door there is no farting
A lot of people think that you lose closeness sleeping apart but we have better sleep and much more intimacy because no one is being kept awake by the other. We still watch tv/snuggle and cuddle/and have sex but when it is time for actual sleep I have my crisp non farted in with no remote hogging bed to retire to.

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There are times we can't stand each other, that's for sure. Habits the other one can stand. Annoyances about.

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Doesn't matter how much you love somebody, there is always going to be lil things about them that annoy you. My wife can be annoying as all hell at times but it's all petty. I'm blessed that the worst thing about her is she piles amazon boxes on the porch instead of walking them to the trash.

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Before her I'd given up. I was bitter and jaded

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I was in the same boat when I met my wife. I'd wrecked relationships so I'd quit being optimistic about their outcome. Was always expecting to screw up again. When we met she had an established career and I had gone back to school at 26 and was making $25k a year. She was supportive through it all and put up with a lot of shite from me. Wife stuck with me for about 6 years before we got married. After I did it I was thinking why the f*ck did I wait so long. I guess I was just expecting it to go pear shaped based on prior experiences.

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Post sexual women make me shudder. Nothing personal, I'm sure you are a lovely woman, but Good Lord your poor undesired and devalued husband.

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You make many assumptions about the level of value I place upon my husband.You also ignore my last sentence where I stated explicitly that I recognize the importance of sex to my husband and therefore put a great deal of effort into it because I do value him.

Its sad that women have seemingly no value once their sexual desire wanes, and most do.

I am a lovely woman. And you will have to trust me when I say you wouldn't shudder if you met me.