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re: Wedding vs. Elope - Pro's & Con's
Posted on 2/25/23 at 7:44 pm to dyslexiateechur
Posted on 2/25/23 at 7:44 pm to dyslexiateechur
Is he and his family expecting you to foot the bill? They can frick right off.
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Posted on 2/25/23 at 7:54 pm to redstickrick
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what does your daughter want?
Money is hers. $0 end of day for me. My only requirement is they set expectations for the parents on what they want, incl respectful way disagreements will be settled. Then I asked to please lean on me only if needed.
My wish (wish only) is that they are prudent and balance the great memory with the greater memory of setting up their life together, incl new home.
They have great heads on their shoulders.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 7:55 pm
Posted on 10/1/24 at 3:18 am to Turf Taint
We eloped and invited only immediate family. All in, it would have cost about the same with eloping + party as traditional wedding + reception. (Didn't have the party because COVID shut the world down).
Flights, AirBnB, photographer, etc. add up fast. Even for a domestic trip like Estes Park.
Flights, AirBnB, photographer, etc. add up fast. Even for a domestic trip like Estes Park.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 3:38 am to ElectricRose
Interesting bump
Posted on 10/1/24 at 6:40 am to Turf Taint
My FIL cut me a check for 2k and that was it. We went cheap, we got married at a friend's house, made all the food ourselves, rented everything we needed, had a DJ, etc. it still cost about 3-5k and it was still a huge waste and a pain in the arse.
Go to the courthouse, have a reception, is probably the best of both worlds. Social media and TV have ruined weddings. The last few I went to looked like the put wedding ideas into Pinterest and did everything that came up.
Go to the courthouse, have a reception, is probably the best of both worlds. Social media and TV have ruined weddings. The last few I went to looked like the put wedding ideas into Pinterest and did everything that came up.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 6:45 am to Turf Taint
Tell your daughter to get knocked up but don’t get married so she can get food stamps. Steak and lobster every night
That’s what the Mormons do
That’s what the Mormons do
Posted on 10/1/24 at 7:49 am to Thundercles
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yet somehow every year is chock full of extravagant parties and no one seems to follow the advice.
Having now been to a couple of $100k+ weddings with divorces within a year, can confirm this is true.
This has everything to do with (most often) bride entitlement and living in fairy land vs looking at the reality of the situation.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:47 am to Turf Taint
Had a great wedding. a great time.
I wish i had taken the money and had a great honeymoon and eloped.
I wish i had taken the money and had a great honeymoon and eloped.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:50 am to SammyTiger
Has the home wrecker come in to brag about her $30 courthouse wedding the day after the divorce was final? If not, she’ll be here soon.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:54 am to Turf Taint
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Would you rather spend $10k per hour ($160/minute) on your wedding or take that money and put it towards a new home?
Wedding, easy choice
Made it then and wold do it again today. I only plan to get married once and have the rest of my life to make money, stay out of CC debt, avoid HUGE car / boat / hinting lease, etc payments, buy homes, invest, etc. and I don't plan on spending my last dying breaths thinking about the most profitable financial decisions I made.
I've been married 21 years and we still have friends and guests that bring up that day and night to us with smiles and laughs...wouldn't trade it for the world.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:57 am to Turf Taint
Thankful I did a small ceremony. Had less than probably 35 total guests (destination)
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:58 am to Turf Taint
If my daughter eloped and I never got to give her away, I’d consider myself a failure. She can do a private deal, but I will be there.
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:59 am to Turf Taint
The wedding industry is a racket.
We just threw ours for a modest amount, had what we wanted, had who we wanted there. It was nice enough for our needs. Food was great, band was great, company was great.
Now there weren't waiters walking around with whore-derves, but we did have an open bar (which honestly barely got touched).
We talked about eloping, but the one thing she wanted was for her daddy to get to walk her down the aisle. She got that. Everyone was happy. We got to spend the day with the ones we loved.
If I could do it again I would have rented a bigger portable AC unit and spent less on stupid decorations, but now that it's all done that's about it.
It was a great day. And almost non of it was bought as "wedding" stuff. Which takes about 50% off.
We had decorations donated and made most of them.
We really did pretty well on a budget all things considered
We just threw ours for a modest amount, had what we wanted, had who we wanted there. It was nice enough for our needs. Food was great, band was great, company was great.
Now there weren't waiters walking around with whore-derves, but we did have an open bar (which honestly barely got touched).
We talked about eloping, but the one thing she wanted was for her daddy to get to walk her down the aisle. She got that. Everyone was happy. We got to spend the day with the ones we loved.
If I could do it again I would have rented a bigger portable AC unit and spent less on stupid decorations, but now that it's all done that's about it.
It was a great day. And almost non of it was bought as "wedding" stuff. Which takes about 50% off.
We had decorations donated and made most of them.
We really did pretty well on a budget all things considered
Posted on 10/1/24 at 8:59 am to Turf Taint
The late, great Mike Leach would say "elope."
Posted on 10/1/24 at 9:01 am to The Third Leg
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If my daughter eloped and I never got to give her away, I’d consider myself a failure.
Why?
Posted on 10/1/24 at 9:27 am to fr33manator
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The wedding industry is a racket.
It really is
Getting married Saturday & expenses added up quickly
I’m not sure what’s considered a big wedding anymore, we have a best man & maid of honor only
There will be 105 guests, I think less than 20 are friends, the rest are family
It won’t be fancy but it will be a fun night with those important to us
Posted on 10/1/24 at 9:31 am to LSUJML
Congrats fr33 and JML!! (Respectively not together)
Posted on 10/1/24 at 9:43 am to Turf Taint
Eloping is trashy. Have a wedding and do things at least somewhat traditionally
Posted on 10/1/24 at 9:53 am to Turf Taint
The only thing I can add is when I got married in 1989 my MIL asked us if we wanted a big wedding or a small wedding and they would give us the money that was saved. We both said we want a small wedding but I guess she didn’t really mean that because the wedding and reception probably cost them 30,000. It was ridiculous how much money they spent
Posted on 10/1/24 at 12:37 pm to madamsquirrel
Thank you.
And If Anyone needs a caterer let me recommend Bubba's catering.
They were very reasonable and the food was absolutely delicious. Fried catfish, crawfish etoufee, chicken fettuccini, green beans and side salad for 75 for under a grand.
We were very pleased, probably our biggest expense.
And the Clayton Shilling band did a great job. (We got to dance to a song I wrote for us, and then they played another fun one I wrote later. Really made the night.)
And If Anyone needs a caterer let me recommend Bubba's catering.
They were very reasonable and the food was absolutely delicious. Fried catfish, crawfish etoufee, chicken fettuccini, green beans and side salad for 75 for under a grand.
We were very pleased, probably our biggest expense.
And the Clayton Shilling band did a great job. (We got to dance to a song I wrote for us, and then they played another fun one I wrote later. Really made the night.)
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