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re: Wedding vs. Elope - Pro's & Con's
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:29 am to Turf Taint
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:29 am to Turf Taint
Coworker just priced what he thought was a reasonable wedding. It came out around 40k. Elope and have a party with friends. That’s the way to go. I had a big wedding many years ago and wish we had just eloped shortly after.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:31 am to madamsquirrel
He has a huge family and they all expect to be invited. He will also be disowned if they live together before marriage or don’t get married in the Catholic Church.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:34 am to dyslexiateechur
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He has a huge
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family
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:35 am to dyslexiateechur
Our wedding was paid for by her parents. It was an awesome time and I’m glad to have the memories. With that said, we would not have done something at that scale if we paid for it ourselves.
I do think there needs to be some kind of celebration / party…it’s one of the biggest events in someone’s life.
There are plenty of ways to save on throwing the wedding though. I am still blown away at how much is spent on minor things…save the dates and invitations cost thousands of dollars. I would have sent an evite
I do think there needs to be some kind of celebration / party…it’s one of the biggest events in someone’s life.
There are plenty of ways to save on throwing the wedding though. I am still blown away at how much is spent on minor things…save the dates and invitations cost thousands of dollars. I would have sent an evite
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:37 am to lynxcat
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save the dates and invitations cost thousands of dollars. I would have sent an evite
Yeah, I used Minted and not even a local company but stationary and postage was north of $2k. For paper! It’s absurd.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:38 am to dyslexiateechur
the wedding at the Catholic Church no matter how large doesn't cost a lot. It is the reception. There are choices that would have to be made. Also if they are the parents disowning then let them pay for it
My son married a girl whose parents were much like fallguy. I was shocked. 2 daughters and the only thing they paid for was the dress. I have two daughters and the budget is modest but it has been budgeted their whole life.
My son married a girl whose parents were much like fallguy. I was shocked. 2 daughters and the only thing they paid for was the dress. I have two daughters and the budget is modest but it has been budgeted their whole life.
quote:That is what my parents (3 daughters) did and I did with my daughters.
IMO. Set a total budget and tell the bride and groom they can spend it, keep it or spend part / keep part. Teach them early how living on a budget works.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:40 am to madamsquirrel
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it has been budgeted their whole life.
This is my dad. He started saving for my brother and I from birth.
Brother used his money for down payment on home. Being a dude and all, his wife had parents with wedding funds. I chose to use mine for wedding, as we have the home my arse better die in already (not soon hopefully).
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:41 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:41 am to LouisianaLady
Of all expenses for the wedding, the invitations and save the dates were the most head scratching and infuriating of all. If it’s sentimental, then make 10 of them for closest relatives that care about it as a memoir. Everyone else should have gotten an electronic.
Just the postage alone for sending it and then getting responses back is a$1.00+ an invite. And, it’s inefficient. Tallying responses and inevitably having to text people to get actual responses to finalize the list.
Just the postage alone for sending it and then getting responses back is a$1.00+ an invite. And, it’s inefficient. Tallying responses and inevitably having to text people to get actual responses to finalize the list.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:44 am to Turf Taint
Just elope. Weddings are a pain in the arse to prepare for and not worth it in the end
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:45 am to lynxcat
My RSVP due date is Monday and I have 20 people to text still. Lol.
To be fair, half of it is the fact that USPS is complete garbage.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:46 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:46 am to Turf Taint
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This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 11:37 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:50 am to LSUtwolves
You better be a wealthy individual to be coming out of pocket that much more for a wedding. It’s a great night but that’s absurd for most young couples…financial mismanagement out of the gates (with very few exceptions).
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:51 am to lynxcat
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This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 12:15 pm
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:52 am to lynxcat
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financial mismanagement out of the gates (with very few exceptions)
Yep. I wonder what percentage of weddings are financed? I bet it's the vast majority of them
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:53 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:54 am to Turf Taint
City hall - $30 Then let the bride and groom be alone. Throw a party at a later date, if you are so inclined, but money towards a home for young newlyweds will be much more useful.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:56 am to Turf Taint
quote:Complete waste of money.
$10k per hour
For me, marriage is a religious sacrament not a social event to show off and waste money. I’d rather have an intimate ceremony at church with close family.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:56 am to madamsquirrel
Friends in NOLA were told by his ex that his share of his daughter's wedding would be about 50K. He didn't have that much money and the wedding was to pay for his ex's social obligations three states away.
So we worked up a menu with him and did it all formal and he said his friends from NOLA would be coming to cook for the reception. I insisted the centerpiece be a gumbo, and said (formally) don't worry about local sourcing the meat, we'll pick it up along the roadside on the way there.
A kerfuffle ensued.
Several weeks later the happy couple broke up when prospective son in law insisted on spending Christmas with his Mother in Atlanta, leaving prospective bride with her Mother several hundred miles away.
A good hypothetical gumbo is a good thing.
So we worked up a menu with him and did it all formal and he said his friends from NOLA would be coming to cook for the reception. I insisted the centerpiece be a gumbo, and said (formally) don't worry about local sourcing the meat, we'll pick it up along the roadside on the way there.
A kerfuffle ensued.
Several weeks later the happy couple broke up when prospective son in law insisted on spending Christmas with his Mother in Atlanta, leaving prospective bride with her Mother several hundred miles away.
A good hypothetical gumbo is a good thing.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:59 am to LSUtwolves
Damn dude
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 10:39 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 10:00 am to thegreatboudini
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Good luck with your relationship with your child when you tell her how her wedding must be handled.
LOL. If your daughter gets pissy when you want to have some input into the wedding you are footing the bill for, then you failed as a parent somewhere already.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 10:03 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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you want to have some input into the wedding
Yeah 99% of wedding forums advise brides not to take money with strings attached. It’s unlikely your daughter will do what you say unless it’s also what she wants.
Also why would you want “input” on the details of her wedding? Lol. My dad doesn’t know a single thing about my upcoming wedding BY CHOICE. He doesn’t care what my flowers or guest list look like.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 10:05 am
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