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re: Wedding vs. Elope - Pro's & Con's
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:46 am to Tomcat
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:46 am to Tomcat
quote:That's what we did 8 years ago. Went to St. Thomas and got married on the beach. Two friends went with us and we had a great time. Got home and had a reception for the family at my house. Spent money on the enjoyable stuff, not a whole lot on entertaining others for a few hours.
Why not comprise? Go away to get married and come back and have a reception.
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Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:50 am to patnuh
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The minute we got back to the room after the reception, she said you were right…that was a huge waste.
This sounds so much like me and my wife. And she will fight tooth and nail against my opinion on what we should do, will stubbornly do it her way and come back with that.Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:50 am to Turf Taint
If you ask the baw, he will likely choose the house. If you ask the woman, she will want to waste it on the ceremony.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:50 am to Turf Taint
I was just at a lavish wedding in GA last summer. Father of the bride is a buddy. He admitted to me as we watched the reception that he dropped $150k in total. His words: "I love my daughter but I think we overdid this."
IMO. Set a total budget and tell the bride and groom they can spend it, keep it or spend part / keep part. Teach them early how living on a budget works.
IMO. Set a total budget and tell the bride and groom they can spend it, keep it or spend part / keep part. Teach them early how living on a budget works.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:52 am to Thundercles
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the entire 30k production
Lol, I wish
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:52 am to Thundercles
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I think everyone who has ever gotten married says "oh boy if we could do it again we'd just elope and do a small party with friends for 1/10 the cost" yet
Honestly....I wouldn't. Would the money have been smarter spent? Probably...but that mega party we had with all of our friends and family who came in from every corner of the US to celebrate us is a memory we'll cherish forever. And if you're asking people to fly in for you, you don't get cheap with them....just how I look at it
Posted on 2/25/23 at 8:54 am to Turf Taint
Go to the justice of the peace, have a crawfish boil, frick in an exotic location somewhere, put the rest towards your financial well being
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:00 am to jbgleason
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He admitted to me as we watched the reception that he dropped $150k in total. His words: "I love my daughter but I think we overdid this."
I would have never asked my parents or hers for $1 for a wedding. I certainly don't feel like we are responsible for the girls' wedding expenses.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:01 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:01 am to Turf Taint
At what age should a daughter pay for her own wedding?
AFAF
AFAF
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:02 am to Turf Taint
I'd one hundred percent put it towards a house and just have a party.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:04 am to fallguy_1978
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I certainly don't feel like we are responsible for the girls' wedding expenses.
Obviously a personal choice, but I feel the exact opposite.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:04 am to Turf Taint
What I’d rather depends on what I have. Not enough money, elope all day every day. If I can’t afford to do it right, I don’t want it at all.
That said; we are doing the big to-do in 14 days. We’re amped. But we love to party. My sweet amazing parents gave us $30k and we are covering the other half. We are very fortunate and grateful to be able to do so. It means a lot to us.
We’ve also been together 11 years and are old people. Lol. This isn’t a debt or “wedding versus home” thing since we are old.
That said; we are doing the big to-do in 14 days. We’re amped. But we love to party. My sweet amazing parents gave us $30k and we are covering the other half. We are very fortunate and grateful to be able to do so. It means a lot to us.
We’ve also been together 11 years and are old people. Lol. This isn’t a debt or “wedding versus home” thing since we are old.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:09 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:11 am to Turf Taint
Spending crazy amounts of money on nothing more than a party for your guests is extremely stupid.
Think about what you and your soon to be wife could go if you took 1/4 that and had a small ceremony and then invested the other 3/4 into something that gains value
Think about what you and your soon to be wife could go if you took 1/4 that and had a small ceremony and then invested the other 3/4 into something that gains value
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:15 am to LouisianaLady
I think a lot of young newlyweds spend more on their wedding than their actual net worth. No one should go into debt for a party.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:15 am to Turf Taint
Have money set aside and let them make the decision. Make sure she knows that you can’t go into debt over a wedding, either when starting a life with someone. Every situation is different here.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:18 am to dyslexiateechur
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No one should go into debt for a party.
This x1000000
Social media hasn’t helped.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:18 am to WhereIsMyBestLife
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I know much has changed, but I think the person paying still has the ultimate decision authority.
You can think that all you want. Good luck with your relationship with your child when you tell her how her wedding must be handled.
This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:19 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:23 am to LouisianaLady
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That said; we are doing the big to-do in 14 days. We’re amped. But we love to party. My sweet amazing parents gave us $30k and we are covering the other half. We are very fortunate and grateful to be able to do so. It means a lot to us.
Sounds like a blast. Enjoy.
Everyone in here saying they regret spending the money, or wish they would have been smarter, just elope, yadda yadda.
To this day we think our wedding was 100% worth the cost. It was a great event at a great venue with great people.
Zero regrets.
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:23 am to thegreatboudini
Yeah, money with strings attached is no good.
I don’t think we will regret it either.
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thegreatboudini
I don’t think we will regret it either. This post was edited on 2/25/23 at 9:25 am
Posted on 2/25/23 at 9:27 am to dyslexiateechur
quote:small private ceremony for the family so they are not "eloping" and give them the cash you would have spent as a start on their new life.
My daughters getting to where marriage is being brought up between her and her bf of 6 years and I wish they’d just elope.
He says his family would disown him if he did.
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