re: UMass ChemE student gets expelled for receiving oral sex

interim = Permanent?

I don't disagree with you in the least about his future job prospects or the crap he was put through. I just find it interesting that people are posting opinions based solely on your subject title, that is somewhat misleading, without reading the article.

Bruh...frick that chick and UMass. She literally felt some type of way and instead of owning up to it and not wanting to be embarrassed by some frat boys for what possibly couldve happened she ruined this guys schooling.

Like i dont get females like this. They'll drive their car into a ditch and blame the ditch for being there.

Then the school just black balled the guy and didn't even try to hear carp he was saying.

This shite has got to be stopped. This dude just had his life seriously derailed for no reason.

Is this her idea of "playing hard to get"???


No wonder so many of these millennial chicks-turned school teachers are getting caught schtupping the students.

I'm no lawyer... but there is no "assault" here. The girl made a decision she later regretted, where is the justice punishing the guy for her fault? He isn't responsible for her "honor"! It was mutual consent when it happened. Only after did she regret it.

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The "every guy would it" is a piss poor defense.

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You probably shouldn't be pointing out other "piss poor defenses" ITT.

You've spouted off some of the dumbest shite I've seen in a while.

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I'm going to be downvoted to death for this, and while I don't agree with expulsion, this case does seem to have more merits than most of these stories. He pressured a girl he knew was high into continuing after she expressed she wanted to stop. That's just not smart in this day and age.

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They were both smoking right?

It doesn't really say anything about him forcing her, she says she felt uncomfortable but felt bad for getting him worked up so she kept going. That's on her.

It sounds like she made a bad decision and is now trying to put the blame on something other than her making a mistake. These are the situations that make it bad for those who are actually sexually assaulted/raped.

What the actual frick.
That's the definition of consensual.
One can only hope she ends up alone with cats and a few hundred grand in debt with forever garnishments

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According to the article, he wasn't found responsible by the school for sexual misconduct nor was he expelled. He later settled out court for an undisclosed amount.

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This. I don't think OP or very many people in this thread read the entire article.

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Just before Thanksgiving, according to a federal lawsuit filed against the university by Bonsu’s attorney, Brett Lampiasi, R.M. went to the dean of students and filed a complaint against Bonsu. She also reported him to the Amherst police. The police investigated and closed the case with no charges filed. On January 12, 2015, Bonsu got an email from a school administrator informing him that a “very serious” allegation had been lodged against him and that until a hearing was held, he was subject to “interim restrictions”: He could not contact R.M., he could visit no dormitories other than his own, he was limited to eating at a single dining hall, and he was forbidden from entering the student union.

The restrictions meant that Bonsu could no longer play with his jazz ensemble at a weekly Sunday brunch. Nor could he attend the meetings of the other organizations he’d joined. He was warned not to talk about the allegation, so he couldn’t explain to his friends why he was suddenly withdrawing from his activities. R.M. soon complained to the school that Bonsu had violated his no-contact order by trying to friend her on Facebook. Bonsu vehemently denied the allegation to administrators. He offered the university full access to his Facebook account and phone records. According to the suit, the university declined the offer. He later sent the records anyway. But in a February 4 letter, Bonsu was told that because of the later allegation, a new set of interim restrictions was being put in place. Effective immediately, Bonsu was banned from all university housing and was allowed on campus only to attend classes. His mother and an uncle drove up from Maryland to help him appeal his restrictions, but were largely unsuccessful.

He reached out to a student group that helps minority and other underrepresented college students, explaining in an email what had happened with R.M., protesting his innocence, and describing his treatment as discriminatory and unlawful. The student who received the email forwarded it to the group’s listserv, adding a note about spreading the news in order to organize a rally on Bonsu’s behalf. This email got back to campus authorities, the lawsuit says, and because Bonsu had used R.M.’s name, he received a new interim restriction: a total ban from campus.

Bonsu’s lawsuit describes the period that followed as one of extreme stress, during which he lost weight, contracted pneumonia, and was forced to drop two courses because the restrictions placed on him precluded him from attending class during his midterm exams. His hearing was on April 2, 2015. By then he was living back home in Maryland, sick a second time with pneumonia and in a state of emotional collapse. His lawyer asked for the hearing to be rescheduled, but the school refused, so it went on without him. He was found not responsible for sexual misconduct. But he was found responsible for using R.M.’s name in the email asking for assistance and for sending her the Facebook friend request.

The university listed Bonsu’s offense as “failure to comply with the direction of university officials.” His punishment: suspension until May 31, 2016—by which time R.M. was expected to graduate—and a permanent ban from living on campus. He was also required to get counseling to address his “decision-making.”

Bonsu decided never to return to UMass. He applied to universities in other states, but was not accepted. He spent a year studying music at a community college, unable to pursue his engineering degree. Eventually he was accepted into the engineering program at the University of Maryland at Baltimore County, for the fall semester of 2016, a year and a half after he had left UMass. He is on track to finally graduate from college in the fall of 2018. UMass denied Bonsu’s allegations against it and otherwise declined to comment. Last September, his lawsuit against the university was settled for undisclosed terms.

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Did he get screwed? Yeah, it seems like it. But he wasn't actually expelled and his life hasn't been ruined. He choose to not return to UMass (which is understandable) and eventually won an undisclosed settlement from them.