re: The 'Overparenting' Crisis In School And At Home

Someone needs to post this article on the LSU Parents facebook page

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Have you ever paid your kid for good grades? Have you driven to school to drop off a forgotten assignment?

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these are piss poor examples of overparenting.

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Have you done a college student's laundry?

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An 18+ year old should do their own laundry but I suppose this isn't the worst thing in the world

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What about coming along to Junior's first job interview?

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Despicable

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Jordan Peterson makes many good points in regards to overbearing parents.

Basically, he says the purpose of parenting is grooming your child to be a functional person in society and responsible while being tough enough to not have people walk all over your child.

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This takes work though. It's much easier to buy your kid Fortnite and let him hang out in his room for a few hours after school each day so you can watch TV

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That framework should promote Self-analysis , perseverance, knowledge of the world, how human psychology works, the pursuit of meaning and truth - just an understanding of what they will face. Because life WILL kick their arse even if you stupidly think you can insulate them from reality.

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Although I often disagree with Pimp on the Rant, this is sage and thoughtful advice. Rarely does one encounter any person - much less a parent- who openly values knowledge, introspection, resilience, meaning, and truth. Shockingly, these notions appear to have become passe in modern America.

Most of this stuff I believe I have a handle on and I don't overparent, coddle, spoil, tell them they are the greatest at everything they do, etc. However as my kids are getting into elementary school and starting to take standardized tests for gifted programs and other extracurricular activities I'm struggling with this:

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Furthermore, we as a society [are] so obsessed with learning as a product — grades, scores and other evidence of academic and athletic success — that we have sacrificed learning in favor of these false idols.

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And I feel like this is true and a problem as well:

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Teachers have come to accept that parents interfere and co-opt school projects and have begun to take that for granted when grading.

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The fact of the matter is earlier and earlier you find yourself pushing and grooming kids to think and "learn" a very specific way with singular goal of acing the standardized test that gets them into the gifted program or other opportunities to get them ahead. You are competing against people who are getting their 1st grader specialized tutoring to ace a MAP test that the teachers/school are telling everyone to not even prepare for (i.e., at this age just let the kids naturally take their test without focused prep). So you find yourself doing prep-standardized tests with a 7 year old to get them ready.

And you have your First Grader's classmates turning in science projects that look like something from a college honors class while you encouraged him to do it himself. So next time you find yourself helping a lot more so your kid isn't turning in the only project that looks like a 1st grader actually did it.

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Mingo is gone.

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Did Mingbro catch a ban?

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Just dropping in to remind you that today’s kids are less violent, less likely to sexually assault one another, and more likely to have a positive opinion of their parents than pretty much any generation that’s ever lived in America.

The kids are alright. As always it’s the baby boomers you gotta watch out for

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I have absolutely told this to my friends and believe 100%. We are raising better humans, but some are absolutely raising what will surely be 40 yr old children..

I knew it was a problem, but reading the LSU parent facebook page, it's a bigger issue than I thought. Once I got to college, my parents were not really involved in my day to day life.

They never looked at my grades in college, I could have told them I had straight A's and they wouldn't know any difference. They had no idea what classes I was taking unless I mentioned something to them during the semester about a certain subject.

My dad passed away right before I was about to start my 2nd semester and I ended up taking that semester off so my mom had other things going on while I was in college so that might have been part of the reason, but on the weekends she never knew where I was going. If I had something to take care of, I took care of it myself, I didn't call my mom and tell her I had a problem with this or that and I need her to come help me.

She knew my friends who I grew up or went to HS with, but beyond that she had no idea who I associated with. And as for as I know, none of my friends or people I hung out with had their parents overly involved in their life. It was as if once you graduated HS, it was time for you to grow up. Make your own decisions, etc.

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And what the guy above said about “ princess “ above should be read by everybody twice because that’s TRUTH.

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I married one


It’s not too bad, but when it comes time to settle an argument, or have a discussion about marital issues, it really surfaces. She has a really hard time looking at things from my POV because she’s never really been challenged to live for other people. She isn’t ‘selfish’, but has some selfish traits, if that makes any sense

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he’s just reminding people of the Human Truths they are frantically trying to forget

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What do you mean ‘human truths’?