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re: The 'Overparenting' Crisis In School And At Home
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:14 pm to Pecker
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:14 pm to Pecker
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We parents are overprotecting, overdirecting and doing a lot of hand-holding, ostensibly in furtherance of kids' safety — physical, emotional — and security — emotional, academic, reputational, professional, financial. But also in furtherance of our own ego.
That is some truth right there.
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Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:15 pm to Pecker
I believe so. There was a reinstatement request on the help board
He had been going hard in some recent threads and maybe ruffled some feathers
He had been going hard in some recent threads and maybe ruffled some feathers
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:17 pm to Pecker
It’s pretty tragic when parents have coddled their children to the point that they’re practically non-functional adults. What benefit do they get from this? The joy of financially bailing out a lazy adult forever?
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:21 pm to sabanisarustedspoke
Baby boomers calling any other social cohort “snowflakes” is simply projection of the highest magnitude possible.
I’m a gen X kid of boomers. When I think through say my dozen closest friends growing up it takes me a while to get to one who had a good relationship with his/her parents. Some of them, quite literally, have no relationship whatsoever now. I’m one of those.
The millennials I work with are almost stepford-like in their lack of drama and reliability. They put us to shame.
I’m a gen X kid of boomers. When I think through say my dozen closest friends growing up it takes me a while to get to one who had a good relationship with his/her parents. Some of them, quite literally, have no relationship whatsoever now. I’m one of those.
The millennials I work with are almost stepford-like in their lack of drama and reliability. They put us to shame.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:22 pm to Pecker
This shite right here is what happened to my little sister and it makes me sick! All during her time at LSU my mom would drive up to grocery shop for her, do her laundry, she would call my mom when she was sick and didnt know what to take... the list goes on. Shes now 2 years removed from graduating and lives at home.... not for lack of job or money... I think she just finds life kore enjoyable that way. She has a great job in engineering that she commutes over an hour to, because she wont move out. She has no real friends or social interaction, cant maintain relationships and probably never will be able to....because relationships or socializing got to effortful she would call mom and they would have a movie night. Some people say I'm overreacting, but I think it's kinda sick....rant over
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:24 pm to BrohemAlem11
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She has a great job in engineering that she commutes over an hour to, because she wont move out. She has no real friends or social interaction, cant maintain relationships and probably never will be able to....because relationships or socializing got to effortful she would call mom and they would have a movie night.
Pics?
Of your sis and mom
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:26 pm to Mr. Hangover
It only took one damn reply....good work OT
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:26 pm to Lsupimp
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When Peterson talks about not raising a child you don’t like, it kind of blew my mind to hear him put it that way. Because there are obviously a lot of kids out there that parents have every right not to like. And what the guy above said about “ princess “ above should be read by everybody twice because that’s TRUTH.
Very true.
His the thing about helicopter parents is that their children will act forthrightly while the parents are around. But the second they think they can get away with something, they try it. Usually ends up in catastrophe.
Helicopter parents raise children that they themselves deep down don’t like. Think about it, how many people do you actually like that are weak? That can’t function under stress? That are not independent?
Helicopter parents raise undisciplined children because they’ve always got a fall back if they’re ever in trouble. There’s a reason that parents are supposed to let their children “cry it out” and not go check on them every single time something bad happens to them and they start wailing.
Nobody likes completely dependent children. You raise your kid to be independent.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:26 pm to BrohemAlem11
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great job in engineering
if you are trying to set her up with a fat, computer nerd i can be that guy
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:28 pm to DmitriKaramazov
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Rarely does one encounter any person - much less a parent- who openly values knowledge, introspection, resilience, meaning, and truth. Shockingly, these notions appear to have become passe in modern America.
And that's why a large percentage of Americans today are depressed, addicted, angry, tired etc. You have to cultivate these things in order to be sane in what is an insane society. Our values are so far out of whack I'm not sure they will ever get realigned.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:28 pm to Pecker
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I'm all for love between parent and child from now until forever. What I'm concerned about is when coddling means a kid doesn't acquire the skills they're going to need out in the real world.
THIS to the 9nth degree
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:28 pm to Pecker
It's not overparenting, it's trying to be friends with your kid.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:29 pm to Pecker
Aren’t you the dude without kids and with a girl who outworks and outearns you? You’re supposed to be an alpha?
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:29 pm to Mr. Hangover
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This post was edited on 1/31/19 at 2:30 pm
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:51 pm to DMagic
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Aren’t you the dude without kids and with a girl who outworks and outearns you? You’re supposed to be an alpha?
I don't have any kids. My wife and I have nearly the same salaries. We get raises at different times of the year so that usually determines who makes more at the time.
She definitely works more hours than I do. She's an attorney trying to make partner so that's just the nature of it.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 2:54 pm to Pecker
Put a boy in travel ball and it prepares him for life.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 3:11 pm to whoisnickdoobs
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Someone needs to post this article on the LSU Parents facebook page
That page is scary, sad, and hilarious at the same time.
Bunch of helicopter parents who have no lives so they have to live vicariously through their kids.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 3:21 pm to Pecker
I standby my view that the Underparenting Crisis at places like EBR Schools is a bigger problem to all of us than Overparenting.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 3:21 pm to Pecker
Nothing new under the sun. When Douglas MacArthur enrolled as a West Point cadet in 1899, his mother moved into a hotel across the street and stayed there all four years.
Posted on 1/31/19 at 3:25 pm to Pecker
My parents didnt fret over me climbing trees but im " dont climb on that.."..stop that" etc. I hate to say it but my daughter broke her arm two yrs ago and with the ins we have my portion was $3800 (most of in xrays and that was with a a "pay now" discount from the hospital. She did have to have the bones in her arm aligned ) ...i do think about that when she is doing something where she can fall. I want her to climb a tree and "fall" When i was a kid, it was empowering and i learned to take risks to not fall, but my parents spent a couple hundred bucks collectively on all my broken bones.
Im not to the point of worrying about imminent college bills (daughter is now a 1st grader) but i could see why some parents are the way they are regarding education/sports. Underwriting that stuff is expensive. Im mildly worried about HS...the HS district that we live in is now a magnet school- which is great if accepted. Its in the community. If not the option is either getting on the bus at 5:45am to go 12 miles away or drive her there ..which is the opposite way from everything we do on a daily basis. Someone at the school board made a decision that means my daughter possibly getting up and ready at 5am or me adding 45 min to my commute in the morning
Lot of pressure on parents and therefore they hover as a means to possibly mitigate that pressure
Im not to the point of worrying about imminent college bills (daughter is now a 1st grader) but i could see why some parents are the way they are regarding education/sports. Underwriting that stuff is expensive. Im mildly worried about HS...the HS district that we live in is now a magnet school- which is great if accepted. Its in the community. If not the option is either getting on the bus at 5:45am to go 12 miles away or drive her there ..which is the opposite way from everything we do on a daily basis. Someone at the school board made a decision that means my daughter possibly getting up and ready at 5am or me adding 45 min to my commute in the morning
Lot of pressure on parents and therefore they hover as a means to possibly mitigate that pressure
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