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re: the dating apps aren't cutting it for me in terms of meeting women
Posted on 9/3/24 at 9:31 am to Lincoln Dawson
Posted on 9/3/24 at 9:31 am to Lincoln Dawson
This OP is my morning black pill. Thanks.
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Posted on 9/3/24 at 9:52 am to Powerman
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Dating apps are essentially a complete waste of time for guys.
That wasn't the case for me back 10-15 yrs ago. This was before Tinder and Bumble came along. It was Match.com and eHarmonyin those days. But I scored plenty of women off both apps. And it was generally women who were DTF pretty quickly, often as soon as our initial meeting.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:06 am to samson73103
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That wasn't the case for me back 10-15 yrs ago.
FTR, single American women have completely changed in the last 10-15 years. Social media, anti depressants, proliferation of personality disorders, Covid neurosis, Me Too, Trump Derangement Syndrome etc. Any man that uses dating sites has to wade through all that . And women will hide it to lock you down and then bludgeon you with it later. So looking at them as “ DTF “ is probably a good approach. You will have a much better chance to meet quality well- adjusted women with similar values in the wild, through shared interest and the spark of connection. Like our fathers and grandfathers before us- by going out in the world like men with confidence and charm. It’s like sending out anonymous résumé’s trying to secure a plum job. Sure you can find success and nice women but it’s not the BEST approach because of the amount of train wrecks.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:16 am to samson73103
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That wasn't the case for me back 10-15 yrs ago. This was before Tinder and Bumble came along. It was Match.com and eHarmonyin those days. But I scored plenty of women off both apps. And it was generally women who were DTF pretty quickly, often as soon as our initial meeting.
A couple of single friends tell me that in the early days of the apps, they were filled with recently divorced women looking to have a hoe phase. “Making up for missing out”, that kind of thing.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:16 am to Lincoln Dawson
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if the female is atheist and liberal
I’d rather talk to a scammer than a liberal atheist.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:19 am to AtlantaLSUfan
Yeah, and I suppose a liberal atheist would rather talk to a Soy Lord than a man with standards and ethics like you. Take that!
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:20 am to DesScorp
Can confirm. As recently as 6 years ago. The single moms were my target of choice and it was super easy to get laid. They just needed someone to be nice, not terrible looking, and pay them some attention. Went through a slew of em before I finally went back to my roots of high school and rekindled an old flame, that I'm happily married to now.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:23 am to Lincoln Dawson
You are looking for an atheist liberal? You do not need our help, you need HELP
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:32 am to Lincoln Dawson
Dating apps are like going to a trailer park to find a date. Sure there may be a diamond in the rough... But you gotta go through a LOT of rough.
If you're a Christian than I suggest going to a decently sized church that is decently close to your morals. Decent size meaning around 300-1000 a service. Go and look at their groups. Then become a member. From there you will need to pick a 'Sunday School' that is close to your age group but one that is fairly large. Find a place to serve (usher, parking, security, media) and just go and have fun. Put finding someone out of your head. Work on yourself and try to help out. When you see people, Say Hi and ask how they're doing as if you're the greeter for the day. Just work on talking to people. Not hitting on people. Just work on social skills. Then one day you'll find yourself talking without thinking about any other motives and either they will hook you up or it might even be them.
Same thing goes if you're not into religion. Find a fairly large civic group and start volunteering, etc. Maybe a hospital. Talk to everyone you can.
You HAVE to get the desperation off of you because women smell that shite from miles away.
If you're a Christian than I suggest going to a decently sized church that is decently close to your morals. Decent size meaning around 300-1000 a service. Go and look at their groups. Then become a member. From there you will need to pick a 'Sunday School' that is close to your age group but one that is fairly large. Find a place to serve (usher, parking, security, media) and just go and have fun. Put finding someone out of your head. Work on yourself and try to help out. When you see people, Say Hi and ask how they're doing as if you're the greeter for the day. Just work on talking to people. Not hitting on people. Just work on social skills. Then one day you'll find yourself talking without thinking about any other motives and either they will hook you up or it might even be them.
Same thing goes if you're not into religion. Find a fairly large civic group and start volunteering, etc. Maybe a hospital. Talk to everyone you can.
You HAVE to get the desperation off of you because women smell that shite from miles away.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:35 am to saintkenn
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before I finally went back to my roots of high school and rekindled an old flame, that I'm happily married to
Yes sir. A timeless approach. Going back to a HS reunion is a lesson in possibilities. They already know the cut of your jib and you theirs . It’s not an audition, it’s a reintroduction.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 10:41 am to CobraCommander83
Forgot about the Facebook app. That one was solid too
Posted on 9/3/24 at 12:17 pm to Lincoln Dawson
Everyone I know that met their Spouse online did it in eHarmony. Some of my friends had success getting laid on other sites like tinder and such, but the ones looking for love and commitment got it in eHarmony.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 12:45 pm to Lincoln Dawson
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... it appears to be nothing but scammers. hinge seems to be the same way, at least from what i can tell. if the female is atheist and liberal, it's a fake account.
Sorry pal, your experience is 180 degrees different from mine. Wife was going through menopause/depression. Told me, in a nice way, to go kick rocks.
We separated and I got on hinge (and Tinder). NGL, I was completely surprised how many HOT women in their 40s who are on these apps.
But unlike you, I'm agnostic and liberal so I'm having a heyday. I even state on my profile my disdain for Trump and his ilk...
Of course I'm in great shape and somehow a late-bloomer in attractiveness, which helps with confidence. But in the last 8 months I've gone on dates with over 2 dozen women... played around with a few more... got laid I forget how many times.
Oh, and I'm up front with all these women... I tell them I'm figuring out my relationship status (sure AF not monogamous) and I'm not looking for a long term relationship. And my profile states I never wanna marry again.
It's like shoot fish in a barrel.
ETA- I was told by two women that if you (the man) don't have 50/50 custody, that's a major red flag and you're not gonna meet good women.
I drop my green flags all over the place... I go to therapy, I floss regularly, I believe in science, and I hate Trump.... all the green flags a sexy 40something mom is looking for.
This post was edited on 9/3/24 at 1:02 pm
Posted on 9/3/24 at 12:55 pm to Lincoln Dawson
Just go old school and write letters to the lady inmates until you find the right one.
Or you could go out and make some friends in your new area and let one of them set you up.
I've been married for over 20 years. I can't imagine what you guys have to go through in the dating scene now.
Or you could go out and make some friends in your new area and let one of them set you up.
I've been married for over 20 years. I can't imagine what you guys have to go through in the dating scene now.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 12:57 pm to 053wab
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I drop my green flags all over the place... I go to therapy, I floss regularly, I believe in science, and I hate Trump.... all the green flags a sexy 40something mom is looking for.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 1:06 pm to fallguy_1978
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apparently being a beta is the new thing
Posted on 9/3/24 at 1:10 pm to Lexag
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Personally, as a female,
Haveeeeeeeeeeee you met Lincoln?
This post was edited on 9/3/24 at 1:12 pm
Posted on 9/3/24 at 1:29 pm to saintkenn
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apparently being a beta is the new thing
If being not fat and not hating women is beta... then sure.
This place is chock-full of depressed prediabetic fatties who melt constantly about how the world is going to hell. Hint- constantly proselytizing you're anti-woke is the same annoying thing as claiming being woke.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 1:39 pm to kingbob
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Dating apps don’t work for men unless you’re already handsome enough not to need them. Get off of dating apps. They’re basically worthless for 90% of men.
I haven't been on them since 2016-2017, but they worked great for me. Have things changed significantly since then? Also, I found the best quality on Match.com. I think the cost filtered out some of the riff-raff.
Posted on 9/3/24 at 1:44 pm to Tantal
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I haven't been on them since 2016-2017, but they worked great for me. Have things changed significantly since then? Also, I found the best quality on Match.com. I think the cost filtered out some of the riff-raff.
Dating apps work with a user base that has experience with IRL dating norms and behaviors.
The issues began to arise when people defaulted to apps with very little to zero real life interactions at ages when they should have plenty of real life interactions.
Dating apps probably also worked better with older people who were more level headed. The 20-something crowds have ruined the apps and turned them into order-a-hoe services.
This post was edited on 9/3/24 at 1:47 pm
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