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re: So..got in a fight with the wife tonight…
Posted on 6/28/25 at 6:21 am to mytigger
Posted on 6/28/25 at 6:21 am to mytigger
quote:you’ve spoken to these demons? Are the demons in the room with you now?
And fyi, the demons being removed confess it as the opening that allowed them permission to enter before they were expelled from the victim.
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Posted on 6/28/25 at 6:29 am to mytigger
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It’s well documented by exorcists throughout the world, both catholic and Protestants.. And fyi, the demons being removed confess it as the opening that allowed them permission to enter before they were expelled from the victim.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 7:31 am to SquatchDawg
Brother praying for you. Because these things rarely have happy endings. I’m just saying that to be real, not to be an a-hole.
If you’re down to one kid at home, what does she do all day? If she’s not working, what does she do? Amazon shop?
I would ask her to go to counseling. My wife and I did years ago before we had kids. We were fighting all the time and she really didn’t have a career. I think she really believed she was going to get to stay home and have babies and shop all day. We were young and didn’t make any money especially on single income. And I worked construction and usually was at work 6 days a week. I was very apprehensive about it because she found a female therapist and I was sure this was going to turn into a bitchfest. It was exactly the opposite. The lady was pretty ruthless with her and it gave her a real gut check. We went for about a year and really were better for it.
At the end of the day she had to want to change. If she won’t seek help, if she won’t talk, if she won’t make any effort, then protect yourself. Hang in there brother.
If you’re down to one kid at home, what does she do all day? If she’s not working, what does she do? Amazon shop?
I would ask her to go to counseling. My wife and I did years ago before we had kids. We were fighting all the time and she really didn’t have a career. I think she really believed she was going to get to stay home and have babies and shop all day. We were young and didn’t make any money especially on single income. And I worked construction and usually was at work 6 days a week. I was very apprehensive about it because she found a female therapist and I was sure this was going to turn into a bitchfest. It was exactly the opposite. The lady was pretty ruthless with her and it gave her a real gut check. We went for about a year and really were better for it.
At the end of the day she had to want to change. If she won’t seek help, if she won’t talk, if she won’t make any effort, then protect yourself. Hang in there brother.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 7:35 am to SquatchDawg
Time for Zoloft.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:01 am to Oates Mustache
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Yup. frick, I joke around here when the cheating threads come up here, but this is a poster. I'm sorry he's going through this, but his post about being focused on her friends and girls weekends is a major red flag for infidelity. This thread makes me sad.
Have to agree here based on my own experience. Not saying it is the case here but unfortunately, it is extremely common.
Also, losing parents changes a person in massive ways. She is 1000% not dealing with her depression. Not sure if you have your parents still but it’s extremely hard for one who still has their parents to relate to those who have lost them. It makes the grief and depression even more challenging at times.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:33 am to mytigger
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Some people won't like this, but practicing yoga is 100% an open door to the demonic
Romans 14:14 Nothing is unclean in itself.
But I agree that if you believe that yoga is demonic, or if you chant and focus on energies, chakras, or anything related to Buddhism, then it is evil. But so is meditation with that mindset, and we know that mediation is encouraged throughout the Bible. Even Jesus practiced it.
Yoga is a form of meditation, coupled with fitness, that can foster peace if your heart is in the right place. Similar to drinking alcohol. Demons have used abusing alcohol as a way in throughout history. But if alcohol was inherently evil, then Jesus would not have turned the water into wine.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:38 am to Charter Embers
Maybe i went to a different kind of yoga class, but the one i went to was just, like, stretching and stuff.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:39 am to SquatchDawg
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She blew up. “I haven’t worked in 20 years”..”nobody would hire me”.
She’s probably right
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:43 am to Tiger in the Sticks
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Why isn’t she willing to talk to you about it?
The more he adds, the more you can tell how messed up his marriage is. He's also missing the communication piece of his marriage. The topic of menopause and HRT should be a transparent topic of conversation.
It only adds fuel for me as to where this is headed. She's going to confide in some guy that she's "just talking" with, then it's all over from there.
OP, you better get ahead of this, and fast.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 8:52 am to StringedInstruments
Hell of a post. Young and old married guys should pay attention to this
Posted on 6/28/25 at 9:40 am to Sweep Da Leg
OP, I’m almost 56, married 33 years, post menopausal, empty nest mom and fortunately still have my parents so I haven’t had to deal with that aspect of what she’s going through.
Hormones wreck havoc on a woman — but it can be helped. I started counseling (waited longer than I should have) and hrt through a provider that listens. I can tell you that I feel a million percent better.
It’s worth sitting and asking her how can you help. Try to figure it out together. Go with her if she wants you to.
I think that the other thing that helps me is I continue to work — part time but it keeps me busy a day or two per week. I hate the thought of stopping as I won’t be “contributing” to anything financially. Maybe she could find something that she enjoys even if it’s just in a gift shop or boutique locally to y’all.
Best wishes for you both.
Hormones wreck havoc on a woman — but it can be helped. I started counseling (waited longer than I should have) and hrt through a provider that listens. I can tell you that I feel a million percent better.
It’s worth sitting and asking her how can you help. Try to figure it out together. Go with her if she wants you to.
I think that the other thing that helps me is I continue to work — part time but it keeps me busy a day or two per week. I hate the thought of stopping as I won’t be “contributing” to anything financially. Maybe she could find something that she enjoys even if it’s just in a gift shop or boutique locally to y’all.
Best wishes for you both.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 9:50 am to tiger91
I think OP needs to figure out what he is asking of his wife. Does he want her to be present at home more? Cooking, cleaning, etc.? Or does he want her out earning money? Is he worried about her health as far as the depression and drinking, or is he just upset that she isn’t “performing” like he thinks she should? He sort of sounds like he wants both a homemaker and an earner, or is complaining that he doesn’t have both. That is unfair, as their “contract” was that he was earning the money and she took care of home. To her, she’s middle-aged, less attractive, not needed for the kids as much, mourning her parents, and having an identity crisis. But he’s asking her to basically do better at her current role and take on another one at the same time. This, to me, will push her away. And divorce will be a hell of a lot more expensive financially and he will end up with no help at home in his “new” 2-bedroom apartment that he can barely afford while paying alimony and college tuition. ETA and also minus half his retirement and savings.
This post was edited on 6/28/25 at 9:53 am
Posted on 6/28/25 at 9:53 am to SquatchDawg
Don't give up. Be prayerful. As another poster stated it is quite possible the wine played a large role in the argument.
My wife and I struggled when we got near to being empty nesters. It is quite a transition. Hang in there. Be patient. Soldier on for your family and hopefully all works out. Take care!
My wife and I struggled when we got near to being empty nesters. It is quite a transition. Hang in there. Be patient. Soldier on for your family and hopefully all works out. Take care!
Posted on 6/28/25 at 10:30 am to elprez00
Since this thread obviously covered all the faults of the wife, Op let’s look at you
Is there a chance over the last 20 years the only sense of worth you provided your wife was that as a care taker to the kids? Did you wrap up her worth 100% in that and that alone and now that job is over she feels pretty much useless?
There is a chance it’s all the woman’s fault, but there is a chance you may need to look inside as well
I’d reccomend counseling because it’s clear neither side is going to look to take any blame themselves without a third party
I’m not going to lie, being a stay at home mother for 20 plus years and then the kids aging out would be depressing as frick.
Imagine working at your profession for 20 years and then they say “see you, you’re done. Nothing to do anymore and no advancement etc”
Is there a chance over the last 20 years the only sense of worth you provided your wife was that as a care taker to the kids? Did you wrap up her worth 100% in that and that alone and now that job is over she feels pretty much useless?
There is a chance it’s all the woman’s fault, but there is a chance you may need to look inside as well
I’d reccomend counseling because it’s clear neither side is going to look to take any blame themselves without a third party
I’m not going to lie, being a stay at home mother for 20 plus years and then the kids aging out would be depressing as frick.
Imagine working at your profession for 20 years and then they say “see you, you’re done. Nothing to do anymore and no advancement etc”
This post was edited on 6/28/25 at 10:37 am
Posted on 6/28/25 at 10:57 am to lsupride87
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Imagine working at your profession for 20 years and then they say “see you, you’re done. Nothing to do anymore and no advancement etc”
Military personnel do just that, every day… then they go find something else.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 11:03 am to cubsfan5150
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Military personnel do just that, every day… then they go find something else.
The years they spend in the military absolutely still sets them up for future jobs outside of it. Especially if they choose wisely which career they take there
Staying at home does no such thing
Posted on 6/28/25 at 11:12 am to Charter Embers
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Yoga is a form of meditation, coupled with fitness, that can foster peace if your heart is in the right place.
False. That’s like saying the Ouija board is unclean but if you use it for good, then it’s good. You’re trying to justify following what the individual desires to do versus what God wants us to do.
Posted on 6/28/25 at 11:13 am to lsupride87
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The years they spend in the military absolutely still sets them up for future jobs outside of it. Especially if they choose wisely which career they take there Staying at home does no such thing
Now you’re moving the goalposts
Posted on 6/28/25 at 11:27 am to cubsfan5150
quote:What?
Now you’re moving the goalposts
A stay at home mom you doing something for 20 plus years then it’s over. Done. Finished. And nothing you did in those 20 years sets up anything in the future for you at all
It’s a very clear thing to anyone playing attention that could lead to some serious depression and feeling of no worth
Posted on 6/28/25 at 11:41 am to mytigger
quote:I don’t know about you but my ouija board is spotless
That’s like saying the Ouija board is unclean but if you use it for good, then it’s good
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