Social Etiquette Question About Going Out

If they said after the game, then you go meet them after the game. What do you want them to text you for?

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My thought is if they had really wanted me there, they’d have reached out.

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That is correct. However, many people would’ve been texting toward the end of the game, “what’s the plan?” Or something like that.

youre making much out of nothing imo. after the game, you could have just sent a text asking whats up

I would have just texted him after the game and said something like “hey man, I’m over at X, just seeing where y’all are going” to lead off the conversation

After 10 minutes if I didn’t hear back I’d just order a pizza and rub one out

If I'm drunk after a game the last thing I'm going to want to do is be the event coordinator. If you wanted to go you should have asked where they were at.

Going to dinner or something more formal is different, but meeting people at the bar after a game is not something I'm trying to plan.

Smoke signals might have worked. Something.

Same thing basically happened to me. Except I texted everyone in the group asking where they were and no one responded. Pretty depressing

Saturday was just a miserable night

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I don't know the "proper" answer to your question, but the above quoted line is one that only the super flaky friends of mine use. Usually service industry/odd schedule people.

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That response is kind of douchy, but I understand his point.

If I tell someone "Hey bro, after the game we are going out if you would like to come with us". If that person is interested, I would expect them to enquire about it, if they just respond "okay" and I don't hear back then it would be easy to assume they are not interested.

If someone text me to inform me they are going out after the game and I am welcome to come.. I am going to ask questions if I want to go "where do yall want me to meet yall?", etc.

So I can understand the breakdown in communication, but if you ask someone if they want to go out, a courtesy text would be appropriate "hey we are leaving son, you coming?"

The guy probably thought you just didn’t want to hang out with them. That’s what I would have figured if I invited someone and they didn’t text me when it was getting close.