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re: So my dad just got diagnosed with colon cancer today
Posted on 6/18/20 at 4:18 am to Tigermite
Posted on 6/18/20 at 4:18 am to Tigermite
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We don't know how bad yet. But it’s spread to his liver. He’s 61 and my idol. We’ve been very fortunate as my family (Up until now) has been very healthy.
I’m sorry buddy.. My father in law received the exact same diagnosis in March of 2018. Unfortunately that stubborn fool didn’t get screened earlier either. I say that with love. He was a great man.
He passed in January of this year at 61. It was the liver that got him.
Spend every second you can with him man. He was given 2 years in 2018 and my wife’s family spent good time with him but also kind of assumed he’d beat it. Don’t do that. This weekends going to be rough..
ETA: I’m not saying your dad can’t beat it. I’m just recounting my experience so you have no regrets in case your experience is similar to mine. Good luck and prayers to you and your family.
This post was edited on 6/18/20 at 4:42 am
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Posted on 6/18/20 at 4:50 am to Tigermite
Prayers sent. Same exact thing happened to my dad in 2012. He was 65 and in immaculate shape for his age. He was still lifting weights, working out, etc. It also had got to his liver. It was stage 4. He kept lifting weights, refereeing high school football, and working while taking chemo. He made it until the end of 2014. They had changed his chemo, which he wanted, and I believe that actually was what killed him. I know he was one tough SOB.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 5:55 am to Tigermite
I’m 30 and last August was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer that had spread to my liver as well. I’ve completed ~10 rounds of chemo, a liver surgery, and 5 weeks of radiation every day thus far. Will be doing the big colorectal surgery on July 13. Everything has gone smoothly thus far and I’m confident that everything will turn out okay in the end. It’s not the smoothest ride but your dad can def handle it...these doctors in Houston know what they’re doing. I’m being treated at Baylor in the med center.
I totally understand how it has rocked your world but if he is anything like me, the hardest thing was not receiving the news myself, but the effect it has had on my parents/sister/close friends. I actually haven’t been very worried at all....might be an ignorance is bliss thing though
So while encouragement and him knowing you’re there for him is very important, try not to break down around him as hard as that may be
One minor thing I recommend is for you and other loved ones to stay the hell away from googling about the disease...you’re just going to find anecdotal horror stories.
It’s obviously heartbreaking news and I don’t mean to come across as everything will 100% be okay..just know it’s not a death sentence like it was 15 years ago...medicine has advanced so far and will continue to do so in the future
Best of luck, you have my thoughts and prayers. Let me know if you or he have any questions. Would be happy to give you my email or phone number
I totally understand how it has rocked your world but if he is anything like me, the hardest thing was not receiving the news myself, but the effect it has had on my parents/sister/close friends. I actually haven’t been very worried at all....might be an ignorance is bliss thing though
So while encouragement and him knowing you’re there for him is very important, try not to break down around him as hard as that may be One minor thing I recommend is for you and other loved ones to stay the hell away from googling about the disease...you’re just going to find anecdotal horror stories.
It’s obviously heartbreaking news and I don’t mean to come across as everything will 100% be okay..just know it’s not a death sentence like it was 15 years ago...medicine has advanced so far and will continue to do so in the future
Best of luck, you have my thoughts and prayers. Let me know if you or he have any questions. Would be happy to give you my email or phone number
This post was edited on 6/18/20 at 6:01 am
Posted on 6/18/20 at 6:15 am to Tigermite
Praying for you and your family. If you haven’t had a colonoscopy, I would suggest scheduling one ASAP. Colon cancer is hereditary and it would behoove you to get checked and to stay on top of those screenings going forward.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 6:15 am to Tigermite
Prayers sent. frick cancer.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 6:33 am to Tigermite
Sorry to hear this, cancer is a terrible disease, it can hit anyone at any time. I am an old guy, but I went through this with my dad 50 years ago, for him it was throat cancer. No matter what happens, this will be an extremely tough time for you and your family, it is physically and emotionally draining. Try to be strong and supportive of your mom, siblings, and, if you have, your wife and kids. I find if I focus on others, my own pain is much less.
Your dad is going to have to make some difficult decisions very quickly, where to be treated, what kind of treatment and some people chose to let nature take its course, whatever, just support whatever he decides. Chemo and/or radiation will leave your dad very weak, having someone to take care of the little things he usually takes care of can be a big relief. Paperwork, bill paying. cutting the lawn, insurance claims, it will take a load off his mind if he knows you have his back.
I don't know if your dad did colonoscopies, doesn't matter now, but now there is a history in your family, talk to your doctor, it may be time for you to be tested even if you are a young man.
God bless you, you and your dad will get closer, some of the anti-cancer drugs will make him very irritable, so if he is hard to be with sometimes, don't be surprised. One of my closest friends got a very similar diagnosis two and a half years ago, the first year was very tough, his wife called me in tears many times, the chemo made him tough to take care of, but he is cancer free now. There is hope.
Your dad is going to have to make some difficult decisions very quickly, where to be treated, what kind of treatment and some people chose to let nature take its course, whatever, just support whatever he decides. Chemo and/or radiation will leave your dad very weak, having someone to take care of the little things he usually takes care of can be a big relief. Paperwork, bill paying. cutting the lawn, insurance claims, it will take a load off his mind if he knows you have his back.
I don't know if your dad did colonoscopies, doesn't matter now, but now there is a history in your family, talk to your doctor, it may be time for you to be tested even if you are a young man.
God bless you, you and your dad will get closer, some of the anti-cancer drugs will make him very irritable, so if he is hard to be with sometimes, don't be surprised. One of my closest friends got a very similar diagnosis two and a half years ago, the first year was very tough, his wife called me in tears many times, the chemo made him tough to take care of, but he is cancer free now. There is hope.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 6:37 am to Tigermite
Prayers for your family during this time. I lost both my parents when I was about 28, and was grateful that I had them that long in my life.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 6:39 am to Tigermite
I hope everything goes well. Went through something similar with my mom a while back and thankfully she has pulled through. Try to be positive around him. My mom said the worst part of it was people treating her like she was for sure going to die.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 9:32 am to Tigermite
I was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer which spread to my liver and peritoneum in December 2018, a day after my 53 birthday. Had to have the tumor and 25% of my colon removed the next morning. I met with an oncologist locally then went to MD Anderson for a second opinion. Luckily they were on same page with treatment. I've been doing chemo since February 2019. I get my chemo treatments locally.
They changed the type of chemo I do recently. I was told from the beginning that eventually I would have to switch to a different form of chemo. They said everyone does. I go back to MD Anderson every 2-3 months to get scans and tests. The good thing about going there is that they have clinical trials if what you are doing isn't working.
I have good days and bad days. I have been able to keep working even during chemo. I try to keep a positive attitude about it but sometimes its hard. I joined a colon cancer support group page on Facebook. Its not just for people with colon cancer but also includes family. It's helped to read what other people are going through and to hear success stories. There are a lot of supportive people in the group.
I'll be praying for your dad and your family. A lot of people don't realize how hard it is for the family also. Good luck.
They changed the type of chemo I do recently. I was told from the beginning that eventually I would have to switch to a different form of chemo. They said everyone does. I go back to MD Anderson every 2-3 months to get scans and tests. The good thing about going there is that they have clinical trials if what you are doing isn't working.
I have good days and bad days. I have been able to keep working even during chemo. I try to keep a positive attitude about it but sometimes its hard. I joined a colon cancer support group page on Facebook. Its not just for people with colon cancer but also includes family. It's helped to read what other people are going through and to hear success stories. There are a lot of supportive people in the group.
I'll be praying for your dad and your family. A lot of people don't realize how hard it is for the family also. Good luck.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 9:40 am to Murray
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I’m sorry buddy.. My father in law received the exact same diagnosis in March of 2018. Unfortunately that stubborn fool didn’t get screened earlier either. I say that with love. He was a great man.
This is what scares me the most. My dad is the exact same way. 61 and never been screened. He’s just always been stubborn as a mule about going to the doctor.
Once again, thank you guys for the prayers and encouraging words.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 9:56 am to Tigermite
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Tigermite
Prayers to come your way. It is a man's nature to not get checked. Most of us are guilty.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:02 am to Loup
I've had cancer throughout my family, from all 4 grandparents to both parents & my sister. As well, I have recently successfully completed radiation treatment for prostate cancer.One thing I have learned is that there is no "rule book" for cancer. How cancer affects an individual is 100% an individual matter. Don't get caught up in any "horror stories" & let them get involved with your relationship with your father.It seems trite, but, again, based on my experiences,having a positive attitude can go a long way in helping him, as well as your family. Rough days are normal but work at being positive around him. And your family.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:23 am to Tigermite
Prayers for you and your family.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:24 am to Tigermite
Prayers and in His Hands.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:28 am to Tigermite
It's what my father passed from this last October. They first caught it in his liver, but it had already spread through him by the time they saw it. He passed about 2 months after diagnosis. You don't know how bad it is until you know, but you also may need to prepare for the worst. I'm sorry for the news.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:30 am to Tigermite
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Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:33 am to Tigermite
My pops preaches getting the recommended colon check. They found potential precancerous nodes 5 years ago on his. He had another check this week and all clear. Get your check up, fellas. It will save your life.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:47 am to Tigermite
Man... I was in your boat 3 months ago. Dad got diagnosed with bladder cancer... then biopsy came back that it was the aggressive variety, but it had yet to proliferate elsewhere. He had his cancer treatment follow up procedure and biopsy Monday. I'm beyond joyed to say he was told he's now currently cancer free. But, we'll be doing this again in 6 months.
My deepest sympathies to you, him, and those affected by this news. It's about 90 degrees up on this roof, I'm drenched in sweat... but I took a moment to pray for y'all.
My deepest sympathies to you, him, and those affected by this news. It's about 90 degrees up on this roof, I'm drenched in sweat... but I took a moment to pray for y'all.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 10:51 am to Tigermite
Prayers to you I can’t image the feeling. Hope all goes well.
Posted on 6/18/20 at 11:19 am to Dale Doubak
Stay positive. The entire colon can be removed completely and the liver is the only visceral organ that can regenerate. My grandfather had to have his entire colon removed due to colon cancer. A colostomy isn't ideal, but he lived another 20 years. And treatment and surgical options have come a long way since then. It's a very beatable diagnosis.
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