re: Single dads: do goodbyes get easier?

One thing that is a little different from most of us divorced Dads is that your daughter is only 5 months old. Due to her age, she does not have enough time around you. I would suggest to swallow hard, check your ego, and volunteer to take your daughter at all times possible. Even if your wife is abusing the privilege that you are giving her by taking your daughter constantly...keep doing it. Her new husband won't want the baby around all the time, and this works in your favor. Take your daughter any time you can, even if it means missing a workout, giving up a hobby, etc.
I know this seems harsh, but this will pay off in no time, and will create a lifelong bond that lasts until old age.

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Decree isn’t done. I am fighting for 50-50.

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Sorry you have to do that and she wants to be selfish. Should be 50-50 if there are no underlying issues. I hate when people can't come to an agreement easily that works for everyone.

My best advice is just do what you need to do to heal. Look, they did what they did, it's done. Unfortunately you can't control other people's shitty decisions. So all you can do is heal you.

Once you do that you can forgive them. But in your healing journey you'll find things to do to occupy your time without your daughter.

I get mine just every other week. It's better as they are older. I taught mine to video call from his tablet when he wants to talk. I volunteer for all the things at school, and show up to every single practice, game, birthday party, etc. It gets tolerable.

It absolutely gets better as time passes and you break out of the depression. When you don’t have your daughter, get shredded in the gym and plan fun things to do with her. Good luck baw, you’ll be fine in no time.

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Decree isn’t done. I am fighting for 50-50. In regards to full custody, I feel like it isn’t in the best interests of her to take her away from her mother. When I am present, mom seems to be a loving mother, regardless of what she did to me.

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I’m not saying 50-50 is wrong but you should remember that while there are certainly dynamics in what she did to you that don’t apply to the baby this is still a woman that when with child decided to blow up that child’s home life in an incredibly volatile manner. So you do have to hold in mind that she made both a huge misdeed as a wife, but also one as a mother - particularly if the relationship started after pregnancy (or efforts to become pregnant).

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A former best friend

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Invite him to Sonic some chicken nuggies and a knuckle sandwich

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Damn. What kind of psycho steals a pregnant woman?

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Seems like Toby Keith wrote a song about this exact situation.

Wow were there any signs of her being a whore before all this? Crazy story

I got divorced when my boys were 7 and 5. It was the best day and worst day of my life. I fought for time and not money, figuring I'd make more money but can't make more time. It set me back about 7 years financially, but got the time i wanted.

Someone above mentioned taking them every time you can. I agree. In the end, I think it has made me a better dad. I made sure i was present and did everything with them when they were with me. I'm not sure i would have always given them the proper time had i been there 100% of the time. I got to see them almost every day, whether in the morning or evening. yes, for a few years, every time I'd drop them off, i cried on the way back to my home. It gets better and they see, in the end, your love for them.