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Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:05 am to Displaced
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You're complaining like a woman about a non-issue
Yep and then he'll bitch after the fact when people dont come
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:09 am to scott8811
Not sure why you're getting killed on downvotes but yeah I agree with your overall premise - weddings can bring out the trashy/rude side of people all around. Some people use the occasion as a social gauge on where they stand with the couple, and get pissed about anything appearing to diminish them. This is especially true when there are weird family dynamics involved.
At the same time, sometimes those getting married do odd shite like fail to invite a friend and later on try to act like they're close with the person they didn't invite, usually when they need them for a favor or a business opportunity or something.
At the same time, sometimes those getting married do odd shite like fail to invite a friend and later on try to act like they're close with the person they didn't invite, usually when they need them for a favor or a business opportunity or something.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:09 am to PrettyBird
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Several people have said just give an easy response:
1. We're keeping it small, family and close friends only
2. It is an adult reception
Why is that so hard to respond with again?
To me, it's just the idea that you are obligated to lie/be uncomfortable when it's supposed to be a celebration of love and happiness.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:11 am to Klark Kent
YMMV.
I did the wedding because it was my first and hopefully only one. In addition, it was highly unlikely a number of relatives would see another one in our family.
If I get divorced and am stupid enough to do it again, I’m either doing a courthouse wedding or a Sandals deal where the wedding is part of the cost of the honeymoon.
I did the wedding because it was my first and hopefully only one. In addition, it was highly unlikely a number of relatives would see another one in our family.
If I get divorced and am stupid enough to do it again, I’m either doing a courthouse wedding or a Sandals deal where the wedding is part of the cost of the honeymoon.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:12 am to scott8811
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Seriously! We are getting married in a few weeks and peoples true trashy/rude side has come out. How is it ok to invite yourself to damn wedding. We have both had multiple people at our offices assume they were invited. It starts as pleasant conversation...when is the date? where are yall having it? Then BAM...OH CAN'T WAIT!!!! Um excuse me...where in any of that conversation did I invite your arse?? Then today when catching up with one of her acquaintances that she felt obligated to invite, my fiance asked if she was coming and if she had a PLUS 1... She replied yes and that she would be bringing her fricking kids. First off, we said plus 1 not bring your damn family... second off we don't want kids we don't even know running around our reception. Rant over
Inb4: Don't do it.... seriously the joke is played out at this point
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:12 am to Slagathor
Yep
This is an example of a socially awkward person not realizing that they are socially awkward
Don’t go around talking about your wedding to people and not expect them to at the least feign interest in going... maybe they are doing that just to be polite and actually don’t wanna go to your stupid wedding
This is an example of a socially awkward person not realizing that they are socially awkward
Don’t go around talking about your wedding to people and not expect them to at the least feign interest in going... maybe they are doing that just to be polite and actually don’t wanna go to your stupid wedding
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:14 am to Slagathor
But neither of those are lies... it is family and friends. Not family, friends and the HR lady from work. And maybe a few kids will be there from the wedding party but it is most likely an adult reception.
I would not say anyone is obligated for anything. If this guy feels like he has to lie or is uncomfortable, it just means he isn't confident in his decisions or discussions with those acquaintances around him.
Sorry, but this is a "man up" moment. If you can't handle the bullshite that comes with planning a wedding reception, go elope.
I would not say anyone is obligated for anything. If this guy feels like he has to lie or is uncomfortable, it just means he isn't confident in his decisions or discussions with those acquaintances around him.
Sorry, but this is a "man up" moment. If you can't handle the bullshite that comes with planning a wedding reception, go elope.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:19 am to PrettyBird
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Sorry, but this is a "man up" moment. If you can't handle the bullshite that comes with planning a wedding reception, go elope.
agree with you 100%, just lamenting that things are this way
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:19 am to scott8811
I know what you mean. A mom of one of the bridesmaids messaged my wife a few months before the wedding asking when and where the wedding was, what time, ect. She ended the text with, "Can't wait to get the invitation in the mail!" She wasn't invited, we didn't even plan on inviting her. My wife didn't know how to respond and told her to give me the mom's number and I'll tell her she is not invited.
Just wait until your wedding. Some people that you invite won't show up or they will and won't even bring a gift.
Just wait until your wedding. Some people that you invite won't show up or they will and won't even bring a gift.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:21 am to Mr. Hangover
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and not expect them to at the least feign interest in going...
When my kids were small I would show interest. Hell, free daycare for a few hours. Just drop them off and the Mrs and I would go eat somewhere.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:24 am to Slagathor
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I kiiiinda agree with you as a means to stop any awkwardness, but I hate that it's the norm today. You should be allowed to let people know that you're engaged and not have them expect anything.
Why do people clamor for wedding invites so badly anyway? Ugh.
You should be able to tell people...but in my case I just don't really talk to everyone I work with about my personal life anyways...my coworkers are not friends and family. Yes I like them, but I'm not there to discuss much beyond work with the majority of them.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:27 am to mikelbr
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Um. Who the frick charges that much per head. I'm going to a wedding reception at Antoines this weekend and I'm quite positive it's not $180/head.
Found it. Tops out at about $175 on the range. And That's is probably one of the most expensive places in Louisiana. You're crazy.
I'm telling you, 175/180 isn't that crazy for some of these venues. I just pulled up two fairly popular ones here (one medium-high end and one very high end). One is 235/pp and one STARTS at 375/pp.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:28 am to scott8811
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How is it ok to invite yourself to damn wedding. We have both had multiple people at our offices assume they were invited.
"People in your office" implies you work in a professional atmosphere. I someone doubt this.
Kids at weddings should be a known "no". I've seen many invitations that even state something to the effect of "please no kids" and I have nothing against that at all.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:30 am to scott8811
I agree with you OP. I had relatives call and blatantly ask why their child’s girlfriend was not invited, and it was a person I had never met. The nerve of some people...
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:34 am to scott8811
Wait? You have people dying to give you a present, and youre pissed about it?
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:36 am to scott8811
We were very strict in our invitations. Names only, no kids under 18. Some people got beyond butt hurt and said they wouldn’t come, I said thanks for saving us $55 a head.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:37 am to scott8811
One positive for the OP, wedding isn't on a Saturday in the Fall.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:38 am to scott8811
SO doesn't want a big wedding. She wants a party. Which is 100% fine by me.
Posted on 5/7/18 at 11:39 am to Pico de Gallo
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SO doesn't want a big wedding. She wants a party.
You know nothing, Pico.
Parties still cost a fortune.
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