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NYT - “The Trouble of Wanting Men.”
Posted on 7/23/25 at 1:06 am
Posted on 7/23/25 at 1:06 am
A month ago, someone on here posted an article from the NYT, “Men, where have you gone? Please come back.”
Here we are a month later, and women still don’t get it. Here is another similar article posted two days ago.
LINK
In the very first sentence of the article, here come the red flags, “The stranger arrived at the bar before I did, as I intended him to.” As I intended him to. So … it doesn’t seem like there was really a mutuality in the making of the plans. It was more about puppeteering and control on her part. Okay.
Then the final quoted sentence of the second paragraph,
“Back at my place he was a little shy, I thought, or a little out of practice, but I felt he wanted me, which was what I wanted — to be organized and oriented by his desire, as though it were a point on the dark horizon, strobing.”
The last part of that sentence is the worst. She doesn’t want a mutually beneficial relationship. She wants to be worshipped. Men have been doing that for the last 60 years, and I think a lot of us just don’t really think we want that anymore. Perhaps that’s why the guy was acting shy and hesitant.
The article goes on and on. Talking about her meeting with her girlfriends, about how some men are ghosting them. The author of the article mourns for the modern man, the “poor widdle fraidy cat boo boo.”
Yeah. This kind of condescension and cynicism will not make anything better for you. The tide is turning, and they don’t like it.
Here we are a month later, and women still don’t get it. Here is another similar article posted two days ago.
LINK
In the very first sentence of the article, here come the red flags, “The stranger arrived at the bar before I did, as I intended him to.” As I intended him to. So … it doesn’t seem like there was really a mutuality in the making of the plans. It was more about puppeteering and control on her part. Okay.
Then the final quoted sentence of the second paragraph,
“Back at my place he was a little shy, I thought, or a little out of practice, but I felt he wanted me, which was what I wanted — to be organized and oriented by his desire, as though it were a point on the dark horizon, strobing.”
The last part of that sentence is the worst. She doesn’t want a mutually beneficial relationship. She wants to be worshipped. Men have been doing that for the last 60 years, and I think a lot of us just don’t really think we want that anymore. Perhaps that’s why the guy was acting shy and hesitant.
The article goes on and on. Talking about her meeting with her girlfriends, about how some men are ghosting them. The author of the article mourns for the modern man, the “poor widdle fraidy cat boo boo.”
Yeah. This kind of condescension and cynicism will not make anything better for you. The tide is turning, and they don’t like it.
This post was edited on 7/23/25 at 1:11 am
Posted on 7/23/25 at 2:08 am to Rhino67
Filipino women don't think like that
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:04 am to Rhino67
Women were much better in the 80's, when they would walk up, put a boob on you, leave it there, smile, and say hello.
And they had that big hair thing happening.
And they had that big hair thing happening.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:27 am to Rhino67
100% she thinks her personality is an asset and makes her attractive. Her reality and reality are two different things.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:29 am to mauser
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Filipino women don't think like that
Totes. They are just looking for a strong man to take care of them so all they have to worry about doing is cook, clean, and frick.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:32 am to Rhino67
My mom always said if you want a decent woman find one at church.
I didnt listen the first time lol.
I didnt listen the first time lol.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:38 am to Rhino67
I couldn’t survive the dating wars of today. Been married to my wife for 23 years. Love her and respect her. We have an almost 18 yr of son who I have taken to Omaha twice, Hoover, Away LSU footballs at Wisconsin etc. Never bitched one time. She does stuff with our 15 yr old daughter whenever she wants. We take family vacations every year.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 4:43 am to Rhino67
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“The Trouble of Wanting Men.”
- A memoir by Mingo Was His NameO
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:01 am to Rhino67
I love these articles. Like any story told by a women they needless long and dance around the point.
Tl;dr: divorcee of an open relationship, wants a male feminist. Has no idea why she is struggling to date.
Tl;dr: divorcee of an open relationship, wants a male feminist. Has no idea why she is struggling to date.
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One of the reasons my marriage ended was that I fell in love with another man — whom I’ll refer to by his first initial, J. Spontaneously graceful, with a soft voice and an inordinate, sad-eyed smile, J. made me laugh, stopping my breath. Being a “good guy,” he intimated from the jump that he did not know how to “do” relationships, giving me to understand that if I expected one with him (or, as he may have conceptualized it, from him), I did so at my peril (which was his peril, too, since he would hate to hurt me). Still, he pursued me; we seemed to be “doing” something together.
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My husband and I had an open relationship at the time that
This post was edited on 7/23/25 at 6:08 am
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:04 am to Rhino67
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NYT
Found the problem
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:06 am to Dire Wolf
This seems like a Thought Catalog blog from 2012, where the author would pour their heart out and confess all sorts of embarrassing details and get paid maybe $100 while thinking they were writing the first chapter of their great American novel.
This post was edited on 7/23/25 at 6:07 am
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:07 am to Rhino67
American women are way too much of a pain in the arse. frick all that hassle
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:38 am to mauser
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Filipino women don't think like that
Neither do Latinas. I did the online dating thing until I narrowed it down to a Latina. Then I found one in the wild.
Living together now and we treat EACH OTHER great. Our future is bright.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:45 am to bad93ex
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Found the problem
Just the one?
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:52 am to Rhino67
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Back at my place he was a little shy, I thought, or a little out of practice, but I felt he wanted me,
I’ve been out of the game for a while, but I’d be willing to bet the “me too” movement has something to do with that. Probably doesn’t want to make a move and then get called a rapist.
I will never forget that article some whack job wrote about the comedian Aziz Ansari, if I were still dating at the time that would have fricked me up for sure.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:55 am to Rhino67
WTF? Does the NYT have a weekly “single over 30 wino white woman” editorial page?
Posted on 7/23/25 at 6:58 am to Rhino67
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Perhaps that’s why the guy was acting shy and hesitant.
Or because in this day in age, if he doesn't meet her expectation of physicality/sex, or if she has a single ounce of regret, she can turn right around and scream assault/rape and his life is ruined forever.
And I'm not saying she would do that...but someone who writes like that and phrases things like you pointed out definitely would do something like that.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 7:06 am to Rhino67
All the confident and humble women are married. This chick is seeking validation for her perceived confidence and has a self centered outlook on life. She'll find some dude who will be her puppet and be miserable for the whole <5 year marriage.
The next article will read differently.
The next article will read differently.
Posted on 7/23/25 at 7:11 am to Rhino67
Take it to the incel board
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