re: Number of unmarried young men is surging

A product of everything being so damn expensive. A couple who has a child out of wedlock remains unmarried otherwise the mother will not receive government handouts.

Most are now gay, or would rather spend their money on $8 lattes.

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They’d rather stay inside their fake and plastic worlds of TikTok and Instagram than actually develop relationships that aren’t superficial.

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I don't think this is limited to women. Many young people have little to no social skills at all due to a reliance on technology and a lack of personal interaction with others.

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if my algorithm is anything close to correct men are being blamed for almost everything by their wives or girlfriends. If you've seen any videos on this mother that just murdered her 3 children you will understand what I'm talking about. She clearly admitted to killing the 3 children, the defense and prosecutors clearly showed she committed the murders but you have white women in all of the social media saying it was the husband/father. Young men see that and just throw up their hands and say "why would I want that?"

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it is pretty bonkers.

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It is, and she's fully responsible, but I think some of the husband hate is coming from the precedent of the Andrea Yates case. The husband dropped the ball bad in that one.

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I think it’s a combo of things:

-Feminism demasculinating men
-Too high of standards from women
-many women give it away quickly with no commitment
-Divorce laws that favor women
-Husbands being an afterthought once kids come along
-easy access to porn

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Pretty good list, really. Some additional thoughts -

-Women, and the culture they influenced, asked things of men that women don't actually want. They don't want emotionally available men, they want curated men who give them just enough to feel valued without actually taking on any of man's mental/emotional burden. They don't want soft men. The very same types who were screaming about toxic masculinity are now making reels about how they don't get catcalled anymore. It's just so stupid.

- Men more or less held up their end of that. Not only did we become soft on demand (some), we did all the other objectively good stuff too. As it comes to M-F dynamics, this is probably the most restrained, self-controlled, low-toxicity (whatever that means) group of men in WORLD HISTORY. And then all the other metrics go along with it - men do more with their kids, do more around the house, so forth. If there was a contract - then as to the stuff women put into the contract overtly - men fulfilled it. I will caveat this and say men aren't leading well independently of women in many cases, and that's a genuine fault.

- Women, however, are flagrantly breaching theirs. This group of women is probably the least restrained, self-controlled, low-toxicity in WORLD HISTORY. It's an incredibly stark mismatch.

- And the governance of each is wildly different. Even in the worst parts of the purported manosphere/redpill stuff, you'll see very commonly - work out, be better for yourself, if you have kids, be a great dad, care about your mind/your body/etc. And men are self-enforcing that, harshly at times. How many of you in professional life know a ton of guys who don't exercise at all? I don't know any. That wasn't the case 15 years ago.

- Meanwhile, women just will not self-police, like at all. There is genuinely no meaningful factor in female culture saying "hey don't do OF" or "don't abort" or "don't get engrossed in true crime world, or read slutty vampire novels" or "respect your husband." You're going to get genuinely booted off the island for that stuff. This is why even conservative leaning/Christian/etc. women online are hedging on the Clancy thing.

- I'm fine acknowledging men have roles in a lot of this stuff. Someone patronizes OF. Someone approved the Gillette ad. We built the apps. We built the companies that are now HR-ified and adult daycares. Our laziness opened the door for plenty of this. The difference, of course, is that there has never been a shortage of institutional forces willing to say any of that. We've all been lectured for all of our adult lives about how bad men are.

It is crazy out there. The internet makes it seem even crazier, but this is one of those situations where the systemic issues are real and the data is piling up to support that reality.

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When you correct for those horrible reasons to get married, the failure rate of marriage falls quite a bit, down to about 30%

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Any stats or link to verify this claim?

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Most are not motivated to move out from moms house

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So they inherit mom’s house and live life with zero debt and live a nice life with savings. Sounds generational to me.

OK, then how is there not also a surge in unmarried young women? Why is this story about men and not men and women?

Are they discounting the millions of young men that have entered the country in the last decade?

It is interesting how many dudes just aren’t interested in even dating. My BIL hasn’t publicly dated anybody in almost 10 years. Just goes to work and goes home.

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So they inherit mom’s house and live life with zero debt and live a nice life with savings. Sounds generational to me.

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Nah…They all get kicked out eventually because even mom gets tired of her loser kid milking her dry