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Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:01 pm to Jake88
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How does she have the ability to take your son out of the country post divorce. You said yall agreed to the boy being in the other country. You put that on paper with the courts?
We officially divorced a couple months ago. She’s been living with him in Dubai since last September
Unfortunately, I trusted her word and didn’t get any agreement down on paper
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:02 pm to CaliTigerHB
quote:Sounds like you made your choice and may be looking for affirmation to assuage your guilt.
We agreed I don’t pay any child support or alimony but she would get 100% custody
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:03 pm to Jake88
Yea, unless you signed some legal documentation, you are going to have to do 1 of 2 things you don't seem to want to do. Move where your kid is, and or, battle this out in the court system
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 2:34 pm
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:03 pm to CaliTigerHB
How long will she be out of the country?
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to CaliTigerHB
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I wanted to but she has a lot of animosity towards me and just flat out said it ruin her and our sons life if I did because her friends hate and me being there she would have to fit in plans for me to see him in her already busy schedule
Who gives flying frick what she thinks. Yall are divorced and her feelings shouldn't mean nothing to you.
You have a right to be in your kids life and you need to make that happen rather then being stepped on by her or her friends feelings.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to TideHater
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He is only a year or so old so you cant be that attached.
Well this is shite advice
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 1:05 pm
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to CaliTigerHB
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We agreed I don’t pay any child support or alimony but she would get 100% custody
Take that shite back imo
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to BoudinChicot
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Seems like you're leaving some stuff out if she's so vehemently opposed to having you being closer and a part of the sons life.
Yup!!! Let’s get to the root cause, cause there’s more.
Did you frick her mom, best friend, brother, dad???
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to Michael T. Tiger
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You are the father...You have rights as well. Unless you signed away your parental rights, she can't just take your son. You have to ask yourself what type of custody situation you want, really, and then go from there.
We agreed I pay no alimony or child support but she gets 100% custody and that we would work out visitation between ourselves outside of the court. Unfortunately, I didn’t get any of that in writing and took her by her word
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:04 pm to CaliTigerHB
Get married to a quality woman and have more kids.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:05 pm to 777Tiger
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I hate that fricking term, how is he a deadbeat dad if the count up and moved to another country with his son?
Well, in this case, he gave her 100% custody in return for 0% financial obligations, so I'd say the term fits.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:05 pm to CaliTigerHB
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Unfortunately, I trusted her word and didn’t get any agreement down on paper
It's not unfortunate at all. Since there's no legally binding document, you can change your mind about the arrangement.
Start packing brother.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:05 pm to CaliTigerHB
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I wanted to but she has a lot of animosity towards me and just flat out said it ruin her and our sons life if I did because her friends hate and me being there she would have to fit in plans for me to see him in her already busy schedule
Sounds like you're struggling, but you need to do what's best for you and your son. An absent father isn't best for your son. Also, you lucked out by not marrying this manipulative dumbass.
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm to CaliTigerHB
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We agreed I pay no alimony or child support but she gets 100% custody and that we would work out visitation between ourselves outside of the court. Unfortunately, I didn’t get any of that in writing and took her by her word
Does that 100% custody include her ability to move to another country for permanent residence?
I'm unfamiliar with how that works, but that seems like something that would be easily fought in court with a lawyer if you changed your mind.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm to CaliTigerHB
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I wanted to but she has a lot of animosity towards me and just flat out said it ruin her and our sons life if I did because her friends hate and me being there she would have to fit in plans for me to see him in her already busy schedule
This is probably true for most divorces with kids. You don’t get divorced because you’re best friends with warm fuzzy feelings.
If you don’t fight for more now, you’re going to be irrelevant & your son is left with her narrative on why dad didn’t want him. That sounds like a great recipe for you to become an alcoholic with a lot of life regrets. Fight for your child.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm to CaliTigerHB
You never give up on your kid. See him as much as you can. Move to the country if you can. Get lawyers and get custody so the kid can come stay with you for the summer. Do whatever the hell you need to do to see your kid.
If it works out that it's just once a year, oh well. Never stop.
Never force anything on the kid. If he doesn't want to hug or whatever, so be it. You're his dad and you're there NO MATTER WHAT.
The only thing you can do is do your damn best to be with him as much as possible. The rest is out of your control. He will grow up and your relationship will get better. He will be much happier remembering his dad being there, even if it was rare, vs his dad not communicating with him in years.
If it works out that it's just once a year, oh well. Never stop.
Never force anything on the kid. If he doesn't want to hug or whatever, so be it. You're his dad and you're there NO MATTER WHAT.
The only thing you can do is do your damn best to be with him as much as possible. The rest is out of your control. He will grow up and your relationship will get better. He will be much happier remembering his dad being there, even if it was rare, vs his dad not communicating with him in years.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm to CaliTigerHB
quote:So what do the court papers say? Custody and support can a potentially be modified, but it’s going to likely be a little more expensive with her and the child living abroad. The longer you wait and allow the status quo, the less likely you will be successful in getting a modification.
We agreed I pay no alimony or child support but she gets 100% custody and that we would work out visitation between ourselves outside of the court. Unfortunately, I didn’t get any of that in writing and took her by her word
You should seek legal advice from an experienced family law attorney if you want to protect your parental rights.
If you want someone to say you made the right decision giving up your parental rights and responsibilities to avoid paying child support, I can’t help you.
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 1:10 pm
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:07 pm to Ingeniero
You agreed to give her 100% custody, anf repeatedly say she hates you but wont elaborate as to why.
Theres more to this story.
Theres more to this story.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 1:08 pm to CaliTigerHB
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I wanted to but she has a lot of animosity towards me and just flat out said it ruin her and our sons life if I did because her friends hate and me being there she would have to fit in plans for me to see him in her already busy schedule
Nahhh frick all that. She shoulda been on birth control or took a plan b. Now that the child is here, he is just as much yours as he is hers.
Get a remote job and move to Dubai and have her stoned for dishonoring you. Problem solved.
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 1:08 pm
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