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re: Need advice
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:17 pm to CaliTigerHB
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:17 pm to CaliTigerHB
Dubai is one of the easier countries to find work in. Hot as hell but no issues finding work. Do it.
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Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:20 pm to Quatrepot
quote:They're growing trees in Dubai?
knock up one from a foresting country?
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:21 pm to LordSaintly
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I don't know about the UAE, but men usually have more parental rights in other Muslim countries. Look into it.
Those men are usually from that country. My experience with Dubai and being foreigner there is that no matter what circumstances are (like even a local hitting your car) it’s going to be foreigners fault and the local wins by default. Things may turn bad for him real fast there.
I would just try to stay in the kids life the best you can, things could get real tough if you fight it there.
They aren’t going to play around with drugs either.
This post was edited on 7/24/23 at 3:23 pm
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:24 pm to CaliTigerHB
Sounds a lot like the relationship I have/had with my Dad. I’m 29 now and he cheated on my mom while she was pregnant with me. She kicked his arse out and took 100% custody and he paid the bare minimum in child support. He was in the military so he moved around a lot but saw me probably 5-10 times total from when I was born to when I graduated high school. This was mostly when his parents would take me along to go visit - he hardly ever made the effort to come see me where I lived.
To this day, we have a very strained relationship that can be best described as amicable. Maybe a relationship you’d have with a coworker in another office that you don’t see except once a quarter.
I hate having a Dad that has always seemed only sorta kinda interested in me. Don’t do that to your kid.
To this day, we have a very strained relationship that can be best described as amicable. Maybe a relationship you’d have with a coworker in another office that you don’t see except once a quarter.
I hate having a Dad that has always seemed only sorta kinda interested in me. Don’t do that to your kid.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:32 pm to CaliTigerHB
Ion my opinion it is going to be near impossible to get the child back into custody. If you want a relationship you should start sending her the exact same amount of money on an exact schedule. Don’t even need to tell her you are going to start. Then never ever miss that specific date or time period between the payments. Build some trust up with her. She is not going to turn down money and send it back. Overtime there will be a sort of trust built. Then you can organize a trip to see your child. Then maybe again until there comes a time where they come see you. Don’t ever let her be able to say you did not help or want to be there. You will be able to hold onto that even if it only in your own mind that you are doing your best.
Then you will be fine later in lifeZ chances are the child will move to the US for education later in life if they are of a class to be able to do that. If you have money. Save some for your child for when the time comes.
Men are the big people in middle eastern families. There will be a point where if you have done those things and sent money that offering a better life for the child the family will tell her to do.
Then you will be fine later in lifeZ chances are the child will move to the US for education later in life if they are of a class to be able to do that. If you have money. Save some for your child for when the time comes.
Men are the big people in middle eastern families. There will be a point where if you have done those things and sent money that offering a better life for the child the family will tell her to do.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:41 pm to CaliTigerHB
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Unfortunately, I didn’t get any of that in writing and took her by her word
Option A) Call her and talk it out. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you’ve recovered your sobriety. Be open and honest and see how y’all can make it work with you over there.
Option B) Tell her you need the post-divorce agreement in writing. Get it in writing then move there.
Option C) Tell her you’re moving there unless you get it in writing. After she gives it in writing then move there anyway.
Option D) pack up and move there. No heads up, no call, just show up.
All the options I can think of put you moving there unless she moves back here.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 3:44 pm to lsusa
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Maybe she needs to sacrifice by not taking the child and moving halfway around the world?
Fair argument. Doesn't seem like a situation where either party gets a 100% win.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 4:07 pm to CaliTigerHB
Seeing a little bit more of the story about your very recent past ..You need to endure the heartbreak of the goodbyes. You are in no position to move or be a parent... YET. Keep up your sobriety. Keep a job and get into therapy if you aren't already. It will take years until you are ready, but you can get there. In the meantime it's going to be hard but continue contacting your boy. Find ways to connect and even visit if you can. Do not return home and relapse. As a parent to a stepson (my husband and I fought for custody and won) and a sister to a former addict who has a child he is trying to reconnect with I don't really like your kid's mom, but idk what else you expected. Prayers for your and your boy. I didn't get the impression you were worried about his care or safety. THAT is a huge weight off of you. It could always be worse.
Posted on 7/24/23 at 4:14 pm to CaliTigerHB
Sorry you erased your thread. You may have surrendered a lot of rights, but if you have already been out to the UAE ti visit once or twice, visitation shouldn't be one of them.
I would try to visit once a year for a few days for the first 10 years or so, not twice a year. He won't remember anything longer and it will be easier for a young kid. He will at least remember you were there.
Time it so that it is on his half birthday (1.5 yo, 2.5 yo, etc) so it can be regular but you avoid competing with family. Your own special day with him.
Take a week out there even though you are only spending a couple of days with your son. Spend the rest on a wealthy beach so you can a) recover emotionally and b) meet some young oil princess. I don't know any young woman who wouldn't melt at the story of a young dad traveling half way around the world for a few days to keep a bond with his son.
Finally, get a lawyer and keep records of your trips and any gifts, even if just a diary. You don't need the lawyer to communicate, but he / she could help you so you don't accidentally give up any more rights.
I would try to visit once a year for a few days for the first 10 years or so, not twice a year. He won't remember anything longer and it will be easier for a young kid. He will at least remember you were there.
Time it so that it is on his half birthday (1.5 yo, 2.5 yo, etc) so it can be regular but you avoid competing with family. Your own special day with him.
Take a week out there even though you are only spending a couple of days with your son. Spend the rest on a wealthy beach so you can a) recover emotionally and b) meet some young oil princess. I don't know any young woman who wouldn't melt at the story of a young dad traveling half way around the world for a few days to keep a bond with his son.
Finally, get a lawyer and keep records of your trips and any gifts, even if just a diary. You don't need the lawyer to communicate, but he / she could help you so you don't accidentally give up any more rights.
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