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re: My oldest son is leaving for college in a few weeks, those that have gone thru this, how
Posted on 7/24/22 at 4:43 pm to Dawgfanman
Posted on 7/24/22 at 4:43 pm to Dawgfanman
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Did you you deal? Never been this sad/worried/etc. over a life event that didn’t involve a funeral. From the moment he was born I’ve been 100% focused on being “Dad” and while I will remain his Dad I won’t get to see him everyday, I can’t keep on him about his grades (won’t have access like in HS etc) or go grab him to toss the football in the yard or help with a project. I think I’m worried he’ll make all the mistakes I did, party like I did, etc.
I know this is a Dear diary post, but damn this is hard.
I don't mean to sound like a jerk, because it's nice that you care so much about your son.
But, the kids that get into the most trouble are usually the kids of parents like you that almost worship their children.
You said yourself that when he is at home that you had to keep on him about his grades.
The most successful kids seem to be the ones from parents who say "keep your nose clean and maintain a gpa of X, or daddy cuts off funds and you can get a job and make your own way. I didn't work my butt off to pay for college for you to party and squeak by".
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Posted on 7/24/22 at 4:59 pm to Dawgfanman
quote:gonna be your daughter within a year, and probably a commie. Send him to trade school instead
son is leaving for college in a few weeks
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:01 pm to Dawgfanman
You sound like a good dad. From the sound of it, you've set him up with all the tools he needs to be successful. Let him do the rest.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:04 pm to Dawgfanman
Sounds like you took your job as a father seriously and did a great job. I admire wonderful fathers so much. The world needs more parents who care and raise responsible adults.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:06 pm to Dawgfanman
It’s difficult no doubt. My oldest left for his dorm 4 August ago. Now he’s getting ready for his first semester at law school in his first solo apartment. Progression of life. If you did a good job as a dad and raised him right, which it sounds like you did, it’ll be fine!
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:14 pm to Dawgfanman
Time to graduate from “dad” to “friend” and I mean that in the best way. My father is more like a best friend now than the way I viewed a parent when I was growing up.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:15 pm to Dawgfanman
Congrats on raising child #1.
Now, spend time with the other kids and your wife. Also consider what you’ll do when the house is empty. If you don’t have hobbies, you better get some.
Now, spend time with the other kids and your wife. Also consider what you’ll do when the house is empty. If you don’t have hobbies, you better get some.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:18 pm to Dawgfanman
Don’t worry. He’s going to be fricking sluts and hitting rails of cocaine. Don’t rob the boy of his youth.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:19 pm to Dawgfanman
The world needs more dad’s like you.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:28 pm to Dawgfanman
Dude. I’m just a few years from this but think about it, he’s about to most likely be having the time of his life. And he’ll probably survive intact. Maybe set up a good schedule/routine for y’all to keep in touch on a good basis right off the bat.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:28 pm to theRealJesseD
quote:I’m just starting on the parenting journey, but fentanyl being a thing in the world freaks me out. Do those of you with teenagers feel like they have a good grasp of the risks of what’s out there now?
He has to know that ANY drug nowadays is playing Russian roulette, literally, because of Fentanyl.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:31 pm to Dawgfanman
quote:
Did you you deal? Never been this sad/worried/etc. over a life event that didn’t involve a funeral. From the moment he was born I’ve been 100% focused on being “Dad” and while I will remain his Dad I won’t get to see him everyday, I can’t keep on him about his grades (won’t have access like in HS etc) or go grab him to toss the football in the yard or help with a project. I think I’m worried he’ll make all the mistakes I did, party like I did, etc.
I know this is a Dear diary post, but damn this is hard
I know it's going to be tough, but the raising is done. You're there to help guide and give advice. He's going to make mistakes. We all did. You just have to hope you did enough for him to want to confide in you when the big things hit.
I'm working through this now and I'm proud to say he has kept it between the ditches thus far. We even talk through decisions he's faced with. Honestly, that was what worried me most. I didn't want it to turn out like I did - doing everything in my power to get the frick away from my parents. So far, so good.
He'll do fine. Or he won't and it gives you an opportunity to coach. Just pray he listens.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:31 pm to Dawgfanman
You sound like a hover parent. Congrats to him for finally being free, he’ll really take advantage of it.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:40 pm to Dawgfanman
Just like you..he will be fine...let him do his thing, mess up, and emerge a man. You will both be fine. Everybody has to leave the nest or become a drag on society and a detriment to themselves.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:41 pm to Hawkeye here
quote:
I don't mean to sound like a jerk, because it's nice that you care so much about your son.
But, the kids that get into the most trouble are usually the kids of parents like you that almost worship their children.
You said yourself that when he is at home that you had to keep on him about his grades.
The most successful kids seem to be the ones from parents who say "keep your nose clean and maintain a gpa of X, or daddy cuts off funds and you can get a job and make your own way. I didn't work my butt off to pay for college for you to party and squeak by".
If your takeaway was that he “almost worships” his kid, I’m going to go out on a limb and guess that you’re not a parent.
There’s no right or wrong way to raise a kid, and one of the hardest things is finding the right balance between guiding them in the right direction and letting them figure it out for themselves. It’s something every parent that I know struggles with.
There’s a lot of ground between micromanaging everything and throwing them in the river to see if they sink or swim.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:42 pm to Dawgfanman
I’ve never heard of a helicopter dad…..until now.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 5:42 pm to Dawgfanman
He’ll be fine. I felt the same way when my oldest started at LSU last fall and she did amazing. She lived in campus and lived her best life and ended the year with a 3.8 GPA.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 6:08 pm to Breauxsif
Best advice you can get.
Zero reason to drink and drive with technology today and nothing like a DUI to derail a semester.
Pay for it and don’t ever mention how much it cost to him.
Zero reason to drink and drive with technology today and nothing like a DUI to derail a semester.
Pay for it and don’t ever mention how much it cost to him.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 6:11 pm to Dawgfanman
Day after my eldest moved out for school, I made his bedroom my office.
Posted on 7/24/22 at 6:11 pm to Dawgfanman
quote:
Did you you deal? Never been this sad/worried/etc. over a life event that didn’t involve a funeral. From the moment he was born I’ve been 100% focused on being “Dad” and while I will remain his Dad I won’t get to see him everyday, I can’t keep on him about his grades (won’t have access like in HS etc) or go grab him to toss the football in the yard or help with a project. I think I’m worried he’ll make all the mistakes I did, party like I did, etc.
I know this is a Dear diary post, but damn this is hard.
The world needs more Diddy's like you. Be a whole lot less shite heads out there if there were.
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